Parents, do you allow your college age boy live in the same bedroom with his girlfriend in your house?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Can you tell him to stop bringing his girlfriend home and to events. My kids aren't that old yet but I'm already annoyed thinking about the possibility.

No you don’t tell your child to treat a person they love like sh!t.

But you enable this serious of a relationship at 21? If they were 25, fine, but 21 is too young to be going home to mom and dad’s house together.

your certainty about your arbitrary age brackets is amusing

And you're certainly boring if this is how you amuse yourself.

[Anonymous]

Separate rooms.

Of course they’ll figure out how to get around this, which is fine. But we provide a separate room for the GF.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Separate rooms while I am paying tuition. My house is not their love nest. If they are sneaking into rooms, the bf/gf will not be invited again.

Better to not send them away for college!! That way you can ensure celibacy!!!

Majority of high school, community college and regional university students who live at home, aren't practicing celibacy either though parents can assume so for their religious comfort.

[Anonymous]

What if you don't have an extra room?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can you tell him to stop bringing his girlfriend home and to events. My kids aren't that old yet but I'm already annoyed thinking about the possibility.

I'm guessing you'll be equally annoyed thinking about possibility of them going to GF's home or staying on campus.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can you tell him to stop bringing his girlfriend home and to events. My kids aren't that old yet but I'm already annoyed thinking about the possibility.

No you don’t tell your child to treat a person they love like sh!t.

But you enable this serious of a relationship at 21? If they were 25, fine, but 21 is too young to be going home to mom and dad’s house together.

They can vote, drink, drug, have sex, marry, work, have kids, join military, go to wars, get loans, gamble, travel abroad, get convicted, rent/buy houses, donate their kidneys, sell their sperms, have sex change operations at 21 but too early to visit parental home together?

[Anonymous]

Infantilizing legal adults.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can you tell him to stop bringing his girlfriend home and to events. My kids aren't that old yet but I'm already annoyed thinking about the possibility.

No you don’t tell your child to treat a person they love like sh!t.

But you enable this serious of a relationship at 21? If they were 25, fine, but 21 is too young to be going home to mom and dad’s house together.

They can vote, drink, drug, have sex, marry, work, have kids, join military, go to wars, get loans, gamble, travel abroad, get convicted, rent/buy houses, donate their kidneys, sell their sperms, have sex change operations at 21 but too early to visit parental home together?

This. It's also just bizarre shaming. It's sex. WHO CARES??? They are adults. We're not talking about children.

I was married with a baby by 25. I think your 21 yr old can sleep in the same bed as a significant other...It IS setting a good example to siblings. It's not behavior that should be shameful or hidden.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Separate. They take trips together and stay in the same hotel room, but they are paying for it, not me. And it's outside my control. But, when I'm paying (we stayed at a hotel for a wedding), they stay in separate rooms. I have a younger DD and don't want to set the wrong example.

Same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, but I know he sneaks into DD’s room in the middle of the night. Aged 21.

Isn’t this hard to bear?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Can you tell him to stop bringing his girlfriend home and to events. My kids aren't that old yet but I'm already annoyed thinking about the possibility.

Of course a parent can do that, and it's excellent strategy to build a relationship with your adult kid where they want limited contact with you

How adult are they at 21? Are you done paying for college and their living expenses?

So rules are different if they've a full ride?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can you tell him to stop bringing his girlfriend home and to events. My kids aren't that old yet but I'm already annoyed thinking about the possibility.

No you don’t tell your child to treat a person they love like sh!t.

But you enable this serious of a relationship at 21? If they were 25, fine, but 21 is too young to be going home to mom and dad’s house together.

They can vote, drink, drug, have sex, marry, work, have kids, join military, go to wars, get loans, gamble, travel abroad, get convicted, rent/buy houses, donate their kidneys, sell their sperms, have sex change operations at 21 but too early to visit parental home together?

This. It's also just bizarre shaming. It's sex. WHO CARES??? They are adults. We're not talking about children.

I was married with a baby by 25. I think your 21 yr old can sleep in the same bed as a significant other...It IS setting a good example to siblings. It's not behavior that should be shameful or hidden.

What if its not religiously and culturally acceptable for PP?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can you tell him to stop bringing his girlfriend home and to events. My kids aren't that old yet but I'm already annoyed thinking about the possibility.

Of course a parent can do that, and it's excellent strategy to build a relationship with your adult kid where they want limited contact with you

How adult are they at 21? Are you done paying for college and their living expenses?

So rules are different if they've a full ride?

I get, I guess, the my house my rules sentiment, but I will never understand the need to control your children's behavior until they are completely financially independent. Baffling

[Anonymous]

We do allow this with my DS and his long term girlfriend now that they are both in college.

[Anonymous]

There shouldn't be any universal rule, every family should decide per their values and circumstances. If your kids respect your values as parents and hosts, they'll have no issues respecting your rules.