Parents, do you allow your college age boy live in the same bedroom with his girlfriend in your house?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We made up the guest room and let them decide ( first visit dd stayed in her own room; 2nd, 3rd and 4th she stayed in guest room with bf). By the time we met DD’s bf they had done a 100 mile backpacking trip together and also traveled all over Europe. Requiring them to be in separate rooms would have been ( IMO) kinda disrespectful to the connection they had built with each other. They’re not together anymore but no regrets.

That was a situationship, not a connection if they aren't together or friends anymore.

well no it was very much a relationship, just one that ended, but i'll let her know your thoughts for sure

[Anonymous]

Separate. They take trips together and stay in the same hotel room, but they are paying for it, not me. And it's outside my control. But, when I'm paying (we stayed at a hotel for a wedding), they stay in separate rooms. I have a younger DD and don't want to set the wrong example.

[Anonymous]

Same bedroom. They’ve been together since high school and go to different colleges. They are juniors and rarely able to see each other over the school year due to sports and college locations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Separate rooms while I am paying tuition. My house is not their love nest. If they are sneaking into rooms, the bf/gf will not be invited again.

You have a really demented definition of love.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Separate. They take trips together and stay in the same hotel room, but they are paying for it, not me. And it's outside my control. But, when I'm paying (we stayed at a hotel for a wedding), they stay in separate rooms. I have a younger DD and don't want to set the wrong example.

You are paying for a hotel room for your child's friend with benefits?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Separate rooms while I am paying tuition. My house is not their love nest. If they are sneaking into rooms, the bf/gf will not be invited again.

Better to not send them away for college!! That way you can ensure celibacy!!!

[Anonymous]

Can you tell him to stop bringing his girlfriend home and to events. My kids aren't that old yet but I'm already annoyed thinking about the possibility.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Separate bedrooms are just a matter of principle nothing more. By the way, how come people with more kids and less bedrooms handle it?

fewer

[Anonymous]

Wow, people are super uptight here! I ask my child what they want. I tell them to be discreet- nobody else in the house needs to know what they do behind closed doors.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can you tell him to stop bringing his girlfriend home and to events. My kids aren't that old yet but I'm already annoyed thinking about the possibility.

No you don’t tell your child to treat a person they love like sh!t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can you tell him to stop bringing his girlfriend home and to events. My kids aren't that old yet but I'm already annoyed thinking about the possibility.

Of course a parent can do that, and it's excellent strategy to build a relationship with your adult kid where they want limited contact with you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can you tell him to stop bringing his girlfriend home and to events. My kids aren't that old yet but I'm already annoyed thinking about the possibility.

Of course a parent can do that, and it's excellent strategy to build a relationship with your adult kid where they want limited contact with you

Amen. First PP, preparing yourself to be MIL from hell?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can you tell him to stop bringing his girlfriend home and to events. My kids aren't that old yet but I'm already annoyed thinking about the possibility.

No you don’t tell your child to treat a person they love like sh!t.

But you enable this serious of a relationship at 21? If they were 25, fine, but 21 is too young to be going home to mom and dad’s house together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can you tell him to stop bringing his girlfriend home and to events. My kids aren't that old yet but I'm already annoyed thinking about the possibility.

Of course a parent can do that, and it's excellent strategy to build a relationship with your adult kid where they want limited contact with you

How adult are they at 21? Are you done paying for college and their living expenses?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can you tell him to stop bringing his girlfriend home and to events. My kids aren't that old yet but I'm already annoyed thinking about the possibility.

No you don’t tell your child to treat a person they love like sh!t.

But you enable this serious of a relationship at 21? If they were 25, fine, but 21 is too young to be going home to mom and dad’s house together.

your certainty about your arbitrary age brackets is amusing