Suddenly seems like not enough HHI despite great relationship

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Anonymous wrote:If you can't make it on $250k, you are doing it wrong. Check your entitlement level

Speaking of entitlement level, not sure why OP thinks she doesn’t have to be the breadwinner or actually carry her financial weight.

A woman working FT making $250K is carrying her weight and then some. Be real.

OP says she doesn’t want to be the breadwinner or struggle. It’s in her OP.

That doesn’t equate with not pulling her weight. Most men would be lucky to find a hardworking woman making that much.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you are motivated by money, I strongly suggest finding a partner that is also motivated by money. Otherwise, you will grow to resent the man you are with and his motivation level (or lack thereof) to provide for his family. All of your money concerns will only go up after having kids, not down. Kids are terribly expensive and the cost of college tuition is becoming unconscionable. There are some people who are fine living very modestly and do not feel the need to pay for their kids' college. I am not one of them so I work hard in a high-paying job to provide for my family and chose a partner who also does the same. You need to find someone who is aligned with your financial goals and values.

OP. I am very motivated by money and have told my boyfriend this. He’s still around. I’m just wondering how much is enough for what I listed. Things are really expensive and wealth and its advantages are very concentrated among a relatively small percentage of people in this country. I want to make smart decisions.

How much does your bf make?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you are motivated by money, I strongly suggest finding a partner that is also motivated by money. Otherwise, you will grow to resent the man you are with and his motivation level (or lack thereof) to provide for his family. All of your money concerns will only go up after having kids, not down. Kids are terribly expensive and the cost of college tuition is becoming unconscionable. There are some people who are fine living very modestly and do not feel the need to pay for their kids' college. I am not one of them so I work hard in a high-paying job to provide for my family and chose a partner who also does the same. You need to find someone who is aligned with your financial goals and values.

OP. I am very motivated by money and have told my boyfriend this. He’s still around. I’m just wondering how much is enough for what I listed. Things are really expensive and wealth and its advantages are very concentrated among a relatively small percentage of people in this country. I want to make smart decisions.

If you get married you will end up divorced. You have such a shallow view of life. It seems like your entire existence and self worth is around money. What would you if for whatever reason you suddenly find yourself physically and/or mentally unable to continue making that amount of money you are making now? Your self worth and reason of being is so much around money, what then???

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Definitely don’t have kids if you think $60 for groceries and $40 for gas is a lot. Daycare is thousands a month, and I can’t get out of the grocery store for under $100, multiple times a week. Gas is $100 to fill my car. Sports for kids are thousands per year.

[Anonymous]

Dump him. Continue to pursue your quest for a rich-yet-kind-yet-attractive-yet-intelligent dream date. Report back in five years.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you are motivated by money, I strongly suggest finding a partner that is also motivated by money. Otherwise, you will grow to resent the man you are with and his motivation level (or lack thereof) to provide for his family. All of your money concerns will only go up after having kids, not down. Kids are terribly expensive and the cost of college tuition is becoming unconscionable. There are some people who are fine living very modestly and do not feel the need to pay for their kids' college. I am not one of them so I work hard in a high-paying job to provide for my family and chose a partner who also does the same. You need to find someone who is aligned with your financial goals and values.

OP. I am very motivated by money and have told my boyfriend this. He’s still around. I’m just wondering how much is enough for what I listed. Things are really expensive and wealth and its advantages are very concentrated among a relatively small percentage of people in this country. I want to make smart decisions.

If you get married you will end up divorced. You have such a shallow view of life. It seems like your entire existence and self worth is around money. What would you if for whatever reason you suddenly find yourself physically and/or mentally unable to continue making that amount of money you are making now? Your self worth and reason of being is so much around money, what then???

You shouldn’t judge me just from one post, which is slanted to the particular angle of a particular question I am particularly thinking about. I have plenty of depth (but can’t stop you from making assumptions otherwise). The scenario you propose though is all the more reason income seems important. What if something does happen to me and our standard of living is dependent on me? I want backup in the system.

[Anonymous]

How much does your spouse make?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Definitely don’t have kids if you think $60 for groceries and $40 for gas is a lot. Daycare is thousands a month, and I can’t get out of the grocery store for under $100, multiple times a week. Gas is $100 to fill my car. Sports for kids are thousands per year.

OP. You are making my point. Life is expensive.

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OP still has not listed her boyfriend’s income so I think she is just trolling for reactions.

[Anonymous]

Haven't bought a candy bar in years and haven't used a vending machine in 15 years.
Didn't have health insurance for over a decade, or a car or a home. Didn't save for college either or retirement.Lousy Roth has under $20k and 401k was never offered at my jobs.
I made way under $50k for two decades. I invested it and it's nearing a million. By the way, investing is so much easier now than it was 20 years ago. Second million should come fast. Then I may buy a home.
OP, you are complaining about cost of things instead of making sure anything extra you have grows. Not my choice, yours.

[Anonymous]

Expect more.

We started so many programs to empower young girls while ignoring boys that now women are 20-30% more likely to go to college.

Women got their seat at the table and now they are faced with partners making less or bring SAHDs.

Deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP still has not listed her boyfriend’s income so I think she is just trolling for reactions.

Definitely

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP still has not listed her boyfriend’s income so I think she is just trolling for reactions.

I’m purposely not posting his income bc I want people to answer the actual question not bicker over whether it’s too much or too little.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Haven't bought a candy bar in years and haven't used a vending machine in 15 years.
Didn't have health insurance for over a decade, or a car or a home. Didn't save for college either or retirement.Lousy Roth has under $20k and 401k was never offered at my jobs.
I made way under $50k for two decades. I invested it and it's nearing a million. By the way, investing is so much easier now than it was 20 years ago. Second million should come fast. Then I may buy a home.
OP, you are complaining about cost of things instead of making sure anything extra you have grows. Not my choice, yours.

Please share how you invested and how you plan to make the se find million “fast.”

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP still has not listed her boyfriend’s income so I think she is just trolling for reactions.

I’m purposely not posting his income bc I want people to answer the actual question not bicker over whether it’s too much or too little.

His actual income is extremely relevant to whether your concerns are reasonable or whether you are trolling for reactions, which you are. Good job!