Suddenly seems like not enough HHI despite great relationship

[Anonymous]

Relationship is great. No questions there. But today I paid $2.50 for a smaller-than-used-to-be Twix bar from a vending machine. Each bag of groceries is $60, each tank of gas is $40. Things cost 30% more on sale than they did full price just a few years ago. Everything has gotten SO expensive and it seems like you need to make $250-300K each to keep up with basic things like home owning, cars, maintenance, insurance, college savings, health care let alone tuition or travel, in urban areas. We don’t own a home and our 7-year old cars will need replacement sooner or later. I work FT making $250K but see friends and family who never even had jobs living amazing lives purely bc of who they married. How mercenary does a person have to be these days (or any day really) in choosing a mate? I want to marry for love but don’t want to be the breadwinner or struggling economically either.

[Anonymous]

Why would you own a home if you're not married?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would you own a home if you're not married?

I’m thinking about getting married. Come on. This is not hard to understand.

[Anonymous]

You’re right. It’s tough and things cost a lot more than they did a few years ago and they aren’t get any less expensive. This will be the new norm .

You’re lucky you bought a home, with the way things are the idea of home ownership is out of reach for most Americans now.

You will have to make cots somewhere if you can, and if you don’t have kids it would be a bad idea to have any. It won’t get better soon u til wages can catch up to the high cost of living. A lot of people will say “wages are outpacing inflation” but that’s just for the current month over month rate. So yeah this month or last month it may have, but cumulatively for the last three years they haven’t and costs are still rising, they’re just rising slower than they did a year ago. So the rate isn’t as shocking as it was because it’s increasing at a slower rates. Wages still haven’t caught up to the last three years..

What you’re seeing is the same thing most Americans who aren’t elites are seeing. I saw a video that was comparing prices at Costco for the same items and not only did it cost more ( a lot more) some items got smaller.

My eating habits have changed, eat out less, no expensive vacations, not expensive food items and buy more discount food items. Shop at places like Aldi and get off-brands and if you need meat get stuff that’s more fatty as it’s cheaper and you can drain the fat as much as possible. For most Americans lien myself, it’s hard to keep up a savings account because daily life cost more than it did three or four years ago

[Anonymous]

DH and I together make what you earn on your own, have two kids, and own a small house in DC. So have faith you’ll figure things out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would you own a home if you're not married?

PP, Plenty of single people own homes. Don’t be an idiot.

OP, plenty of people making less than $500,000 or whatever ridiculous random arbitrary figure you think have happy lives and own homes. Don’t be an idiot.

[Anonymous]

If you can't make it on $250k, you are doing it wrong. Check your entitlement level

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Relationship is great. No questions there. But today I paid $2.50 for a smaller-than-used-to-be Twix bar from a vending machine. Each bag of groceries is $60, each tank of gas is $40. Things cost 30% more on sale than they did full price just a few years ago. Everything has gotten SO expensive and it seems like you need to make $250-300K each to keep up with basic things like home owning, cars, maintenance, insurance, college savings, health care let alone tuition or travel, in urban areas. We don’t own a home and our 7-year old cars will need replacement sooner or later. I work FT making $250K but see friends and family who never even had jobs living amazing lives purely bc of who they married. How mercenary does a person have to be these days (or any day really) in choosing a mate? I want to marry for love but don’t want to be the breadwinner or struggling economically either.

What do you mean by being mercenary in choosing a mate? You’re already in a relationship. Are you the breadwinner now? Are you suggesting you want to dump your current relationship because you make sub-500-700K?

[Anonymous]

Oh ffs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you can't make it on $250k, you are doing it wrong. Check your entitlement level

Speaking of entitlement level, not sure why OP thinks she doesn’t have to be the breadwinner or actually carry her financial weight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you can't make it on $250k, you are doing it wrong. Check your entitlement level

+1. With no kids, you are rich AF. Check your lifestyle.

[Anonymous]

What are you babbling about, OP? Are you supporting your partner already? What qualities do you bring the table that would ever lead someone to want to support your SAH like your pampered friends?

[Anonymous]

Yep, the only reasonable answer here is to spread your legs for money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you can't make it on $250k, you are doing it wrong. Check your entitlement level

Speaking of entitlement level, not sure why OP thinks she doesn’t have to be the breadwinner or actually carry her financial weight.

Because “marriage” is her next stop and “SAHM” is stop after that

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would you own a home if you're not married?

Buying a home as a single person was the smartest financial decision I’ve ever made. Bought in Arlington in 2008. Wanted a townhouse and my friend convinced me a house was a smarter move. Set me up for life on real estate purchasing when we wanted to move.

Op, this is driven by what you want in life If you want a large house, expensive trips, new cars, then someone’s earning potential moves closer to the top of your requirements. If you’re a homebody and have no desire to own a home, earning capacity can slide down the list.