Why dating became so hard 😔

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's possible to have sex on the first date and also end up in a long-term relationship with that person.

Possible, of course ……. but outside the norm to be sure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:High value men do not care about about your degree or net worth.

Yes they do.

No, they really don’t.

I know you want them to. And they may even say they want to want that. But ultimately men are pretty simple creatures who want to be with women who make them feel valued, loved, revered or adored and they don’t want to be nagged.
Women want men whom they respect and admire.
And when those two align, the sky is the limit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like men don't see you as serious relationship material. Instead they see you as a sexual layup.

When meeting a woman, most men know right away whether she is relationship or hookup. You need to get sorted into the former in men's mental algorithm.

This is horrible thing to say I am not here to brag but I am a successful doctor, I speak 3 languages, I lived in multiple countries and I own two homes at 35, and only had 2 relationships in my whole life, if this is giving hookup vibes than no thank you they stay in their place.

If the above descriptor is true, there is absolutely no way on this earth you are going to meet your longterm match on a dating app.
Absolutely zero way.
Choose another avenue of meeting your potential mate. Seriously.

Either that or just enjoy the casual dating app sex.

[Anonymous]

OP pay me $3000 and I will be your matchmaker. I work and play in networks with attractive, rich, and very busy men who would be interested in dating you seriously.

You are good looking and healthy, right? Because at your age you have to be VERY attractive to compensate for your age and falling fertility.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:High value men do not care about about your degree or net worth.

Yes they do.

No, they really don’t.

I know you want them to. And they may even say they want to want that. But ultimately men are pretty simple creatures who want to be with women who make them feel valued, loved, revered or adored and they don’t want to be nagged.
Women want men whom they respect and admire.
And when those two align, the sky is the limit.

High value men want to be loved and valued, just like everyone does. They do not want to be revered and adored. That’s for the kind of men who troll the third world for a wife.
A high value man wants a woman he respects, can talk to, and who will raise successful children with him.

If you’re a “simple creature”” who wants nothing but agreeability, fine. That’s not the same as a high value man.

[Anonymous]

You need to get off apps and meet people through your social network and intentional activities. Tell your stable, gainfully employed friends you are open to being set up and what you are looking for. Tell your parents and their friends! Join a co-ed sport, hiking club, tennis match, wine tasting - whatever your interests are. Everyone is more attractive when they are enjoying themselves and learning or having a little friendly competition. Get out of your usual routine and try to meet someone organically.

I’m in my mid 30s but married with kids and I see my single friends leading too hard with the interview and list when they meet someone new. Be clear about your intentions and stay true to your values but try to just be open minded and meet as many new people in your demographic range as you can. It’s a numbers game.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d look at my profile or have a friend look at it and critique it. What you think you are communicating may not be what people read or interpret. Sadly, there are plenty of dirt bags out there who put BS in their profiles when what they are looking for is sex. I hate the apps so I use my pretty extensive network of friends, family and business friends to help make connections.

This. Or pay for a dating coach.

[Anonymous]

OP have you tried expanding your options in the Apps? For example, don't always swipe left when you see a guy who may not necessarily have the same race as you. Sometimes being open minded will give you access to a whole new set of good guys. My neighbor for example who just moved to DC is a 38 years African American aerospace engineer with a defense contractor. He is single and looking. So when you see a guy like that in the Apps give him a chance....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d look at my profile or have a friend look at it and critique it. What you think you are communicating may not be what people read or interpret. Sadly, there are plenty of dirt bags out there who put BS in their profiles when what they are looking for is sex. I hate the apps so I use my pretty extensive network of friends, family and business friends to help make connections.

Yes I agree it may be a disconnect in profile. My 24-year niece was visiting the other day and was swiping through a new dating app after a breakup (this past summer, so not too recent) and lamenting that she was terrible at choosing men. She stated that she wanted to find a guy that wasn’t just interested in physical contact in two dates and then moving on.
Then I watched her type out a response to a “chosen” guy with an opening line that included a very suggestive double entendre and a mention of her “body count”…

I was like “uuuuuhhhh how is that aligning with what you just said you wanted?”

Maybe OP is doing the same thing? Saying she wants one thing but leading with something else and then getting confused when the guys get the wrong idea?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:High value men do not care about about your degree or net worth.

Yes they do.

No, they really don’t.

I know you want them to. And they may even say they want to want that. But ultimately men are pretty simple creatures who want to be with women who make them feel valued, loved, revered or adored and they don’t want to be nagged.
Women want men whom they respect and admire.
And when those two align, the sky is the limit.

High value men want to be loved and valued, just like everyone does. They do not want to be revered and adored. That’s for the kind of men who troll the third world for a wife.
A high value man wants a woman he respects, can talk to, and who will raise successful children with him.

If you’re a “simple creature”” who wants nothing but agreeability, fine. That’s not the same as a high value man.

The above was clearly written by a woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP pay me $3000 and I will be your matchmaker. I work and play in networks with attractive, rich, and very busy men who would be interested in dating you seriously.

You are good looking and healthy, right? Because at your age you have to be VERY attractive to compensate for your age and falling fertility.

2nd paragraph is all real talk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like men don't see you as serious relationship material. Instead they see you as a sexual layup.

When meeting a woman, most men know right away whether she is relationship or hookup. You need to get sorted into the former in men's mental algorithm.

Men on dating apps generally are not looking for a serious relationship.

Neither are women. Most are DTF immediately.

[Anonymous]

When I was looking, I would always look for women on the chubbier side. They were the most genuine. OP comes across as one of those very pretty and thin women that most guys are nervous about dating seriously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like men don't see you as serious relationship material. Instead they see you as a sexual layup.

When meeting a woman, most men know right away whether she is relationship or hookup. You need to get sorted into the former in men's mental algorithm.

Men on dating apps generally are not looking for a serious relationship.

Neither are women. Most are DTF immediately.

Stop saying this: it is not true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like men don't see you as serious relationship material. Instead they see you as a sexual layup.

When meeting a woman, most men know right away whether she is relationship or hookup. You need to get sorted into the former in men's mental algorithm.

This is horrible thing to say I am not here to brag but I am a successful doctor, I speak 3 languages, I lived in multiple countries and I own two homes at 35, and only had 2 relationships in my whole life, if this is giving hookup vibes than no thank you they stay in their place.

Men don’t care much about any of that. They mostly care about physical attraction #1 and after that- personality.