Why dating became so hard 😔

[Anonymous]

I have been on dating apps for a while now and every guy I go out wants to sleep with me after a date or two. Recently I started talking to someone we were supposed to meet Sunday (he wanted to join me for coffee and visit to the museum), he asked me this morning if we can have dinner after the museum I said yes and he wanted the dinner to be at his place. I replied I can’t do that we don’t know each yet and he stopped responding. It’s sad but I assume for the best.
On top of that 2 days my ex of 2 years ago who has a girlfriend who lives in another state called me and texted me but I simply replied who’s this? I don’t talk to exes in relationships and it ended between us badly. It’s a lot but I have nobody to share with and I really want to believe in love but I feel it’s gone.

[Anonymous]

Good for you on the response to your ex.

The other guy did you a favor, seriously.

[Anonymous]

It's frustrating, but all you can do is what you're doing. It's better than him future-faking or lying to you about his intentions and then ghosting after sex.

[Anonymous]

I wish I could meet someone like you in the Apps. I am a guy and I think it’s even harder for us. At least women have suitors but for most men it’s desert island ….

[Anonymous]

Sounds like men don't see you as serious relationship material. Instead they see you as a sexual layup.

When meeting a woman, most men know right away whether she is relationship or hookup. You need to get sorted into the former in men's mental algorithm.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like men don't see you as serious relationship material. Instead they see you as a sexual layup.

When meeting a woman, most men know right away whether she is relationship or hookup. You need to get sorted into the former in men's mental algorithm.

Harsh but true.

-Guy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like men don't see you as serious relationship material. Instead they see you as a sexual layup.

When meeting a woman, most men know right away whether she is relationship or hookup. You need to get sorted into the former in men's mental algorithm.

Men on dating apps generally are not looking for a serious relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like men don't see you as serious relationship material. Instead they see you as a sexual layup.

When meeting a woman, most men know right away whether she is relationship or hookup. You need to get sorted into the former in men's mental algorithm.

Harsh but true.

-Guy

Women are the same way, fyi.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like men don't see you as serious relationship material. Instead they see you as a sexual layup.

When meeting a woman, most men know right away whether she is relationship or hookup. You need to get sorted into the former in men's mental algorithm.

This is horrible thing to say I am not here to brag but I am a successful doctor, I speak 3 languages, I lived in multiple countries and I own two homes at 35, and only had 2 relationships in my whole life, if this is giving hookup vibes than no thank you they stay in their place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like men don't see you as serious relationship material. Instead they see you as a sexual layup.

When meeting a woman, most men know right away whether she is relationship or hookup. You need to get sorted into the former in men's mental algorithm.

Men on dating apps generally are not looking for a serious relationship.

So where can we find men who are looking for something serious? Unfortunately society made us use those stupid apps and I personally I am fed up I screen them through text and FaceTime and still get those pigs

[Anonymous]

High value men do not care about about your degree or net worth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like men don't see you as serious relationship material. Instead they see you as a sexual layup.

When meeting a woman, most men know right away whether she is relationship or hookup. You need to get sorted into the former in men's mental algorithm.

This is horrible thing to say I am not here to brag but I am a successful doctor, I speak 3 languages, I lived in multiple countries and I own two homes at 35, and only had 2 relationships in my whole life, if this is giving hookup vibes than no thank you they stay in their place.

You may be scaring men away. Don’t take it the wrong way but successful women have a way of approaching dating compared to similarly successful men. They may unfairly come across as having high standards and unlikely to compromise. A guy will pass on a very successful woman who makes a very good life living and instead opt for the less successful woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like men don't see you as serious relationship material. Instead they see you as a sexual layup.

When meeting a woman, most men know right away whether she is relationship or hookup. You need to get sorted into the former in men's mental algorithm.

Men on dating apps generally are not looking for a serious relationship.

So where can we find men who are looking for something serious? Unfortunately society made us use those stupid apps and I personally I am fed up I screen them through text and FaceTime and still get those pigs

We live in the hookup and instant gratification era. Recycling bfs/gfs is totally okay, hooking up endlessly is totally okay as well. Men are not necessarily to blame. They are finding equally willing women. It’s unfortunate because I feel like some women have been pushed to be promiscuous like men. Honestly as a man I think the women taking part in this hookup culture have been pushed into it. Im sure some women will come hard at me for saying this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like men don't see you as serious relationship material. Instead they see you as a sexual layup.

When meeting a woman, most men know right away whether she is relationship or hookup. You need to get sorted into the former in men's mental algorithm.

Men on dating apps generally are not looking for a serious relationship.

So where can we find men who are looking for something serious? Unfortunately society made us use those stupid apps and I personally I am fed up I screen them through text and FaceTime and still get those pigs

We live in the hookup and instant gratification era. Recycling bfs/gfs is totally okay, hooking up endlessly is totally okay as well. Men are not necessarily to blame. They are finding equally willing women. It’s unfortunate because I feel like some women have been pushed to be promiscuous like men. Honestly as a man I think the women taking part in this hookup culture have been pushed into it. Im sure some women will come hard at me for saying this.

Probably some have but the majority are still deeply shamed and repressed for having any sexual feelings. Society is VERY harsh on a sexual woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like men don't see you as serious relationship material. Instead they see you as a sexual layup.

When meeting a woman, most men know right away whether she is relationship or hookup. You need to get sorted into the former in men's mental algorithm.

Men on dating apps generally are not looking for a serious relationship.

So where can we find men who are looking for something serious? Unfortunately society made us use those stupid apps and I personally I am fed up I screen them through text and FaceTime and still get those pigs

We live in the hookup and instant gratification era. Recycling bfs/gfs is totally okay, hooking up endlessly is totally okay as well. Men are not necessarily to blame. They are finding equally willing women. It’s unfortunate because I feel like some women have been pushed to be promiscuous like men. Honestly as a man I think the women taking part in this hookup culture have been pushed into it. Im sure some women will come hard at me for saying this.

I am a woman and I was going to say that so I agree with you but you need a bit of everything to make a world and unfortunately the balance has tilted towards the negative. You saw the comment right away I was told I am giving hookup vibes I had to justify myself to strangers on a forum and display that’s not me. I get a second comment saying I am too successful and I might be coming too strong (but my issue isn’t that it’s the hookup thing after one date), and I am sure it will continue but everyone is entitled to an opinion