Why dating became so hard 😔

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OP’s background is similar to my sisters. My sister is 36 and honestly I am not sure she will find the kind of man she is looking for. I think once women become successful, the standards they are looking for in men are very high and the vast majority of men will not meet them. Of course these women will agree that’s the point, but they are underestimating the small pool of men who fit their standards.

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Well OP, either you are delusional or the empirical results of your life are just false.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like men don't see you as serious relationship material. Instead they see you as a sexual layup.

When meeting a woman, most men know right away whether she is relationship or hookup. You need to get sorted into the former in men's mental algorithm.

Men on dating apps generally are not looking for a serious relationship.

So where can we find men who are looking for something serious? Unfortunately society made us use those stupid apps and I personally I am fed up I screen them through text and FaceTime and still get those pigs

We live in the hookup and instant gratification era. Recycling bfs/gfs is totally okay, hooking up endlessly is totally okay as well. Men are not necessarily to blame. They are finding equally willing women. It’s unfortunate because I feel like some women have been pushed to be promiscuous like men. Honestly as a man I think the women taking part in this hookup culture have been pushed into it. Im sure some women will come hard at me for saying this.

I am a woman and I was going to say that so I agree with you but you need a bit of everything to make a world and unfortunately the balance has tilted towards the negative. You saw the comment right away I was told I am giving hookup vibes I had to justify myself to strangers on a forum and display that’s not me. I get a second comment saying I am too successful and I might be coming too strong (but my issue isn’t that it’s the hookup thing after one date), and I am sure it will continue but everyone is entitled to an opinion

Would you date a divorced man over 40 with kids? You are more likely to find guys who are not trying to get into your panties if you expand your options a bit.

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Anonymous wrote:OP’s background is similar to my sisters. My sister is 36 and honestly I am not sure she will find the kind of man she is looking for. I think once women become successful, the standards they are looking for in men are very high and the vast majority of men will not meet them. Of course these women will agree that’s the point, but they are underestimating the small pool of men who fit their standards.

Yeah I’m a lot like OP, and so are most of my friends. We’re all single.
A few had brief marriages because they wanted kids.

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Anonymous wrote:High value men do not care about about your degree or net worth.

Yes they do.

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It's a combo: dating is a hellscape now, but also you are thirty-five. Most of the quality long-term relationship men have already been snapped up.

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Anonymous wrote:High value men do not care about about your degree or net worth.

Yes they do.

They really don't. Also, being smart and capable partner has nothing to do with education or career.

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So where can we find men who are looking for something serious? Unfortunately society made us use those stupid apps and I personally I am fed up I screen them through text and FaceTime and still get those pigs

No one is forcing you to use the apps. Go out and meet people in real life.

It sounds like you want to wait a few dates to have sex, which is totally fine and that's your preference. Most women your age are not like that. I'm guessing they have enough experience and maturity that they can more rapidly make decisions and be comfortable with those decisions. It's no surprise men are expecting sex sooner -- because most women that age are providing it sooner. Hate the game, not the player.

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So where can we find men who are looking for something serious? Unfortunately society made us use those stupid apps and I personally I am fed up I screen them through text and FaceTime and still get those pigs

No one is forcing you to use the apps. Go out and meet people in real life.

It sounds like you want to wait a few dates to have sex, which is totally fine and that's your preference. Most women your age are not like that. I'm guessing they have enough experience and maturity that they can more rapidly make decisions and be comfortable with those decisions. It's no surprise men are expecting sex sooner -- because most women that age are providing it sooner. Hate the game, not the player.

They are providing on the first date and they come ready for it too freshly shaved, sexy thongs, etc....

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There's a difference between women using the apps for hook ups vs. what the OP is seeking.

It's a mystery as why if OP is so smart and successful she can't figure out pair bonding...

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And don't settle OP. When you need sex hire an escort. They are sexier and healthier than most guys you will meet anyways.

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I’d look at my profile or have a friend look at it and critique it. What you think you are communicating may not be what people read or interpret. Sadly, there are plenty of dirt bags out there who put BS in their profiles when what they are looking for is sex. I hate the apps so I use my pretty extensive network of friends, family and business friends to help make connections.

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It's possible to have sex on the first date and also end up in a long-term relationship with that person.

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Anonymous wrote:Good for you on the response to your ex.

The other guy did you a favor, seriously.

This.

And it’s cliche, but maybe try getting off the dating apps and go to an in-person church with an active singles group.
Yes I know that’s old school, but maybe if enough quality young women start bringing old school back, the quality guys who want quality women will follow. Just a thought.