Why dating became so hard 😔

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Anonymous wrote:High value men do not care about about your degree or net worth.

Yes they do.

No, they really don’t.

I know you want them to. And they may even say they want to want that. But ultimately men are pretty simple creatures who want to be with women who make them feel valued, loved, revered or adored and they don’t want to be nagged.
Women want men whom they respect and admire.
And when those two align, the sky is the limit.

High value men want to be loved and valued, just like everyone does. They do not want to be revered and adored. That’s for the kind of men who troll the third world for a wife.
A high value man wants a woman he respects, can talk to, and who will raise successful children with him.

If you’re a “simple creature”” who wants nothing but agreeability, fine. That’s not the same as a high value man.

The above was clearly written by a woman.

+100

Lol

[Anonymous]

I hate to say this, but I think that most men are intimidated and put off by a woman who is more successful than they are. All of my friends who are more successful than their husbands married them before they became wildy successful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hate to say this, but I think that most men are intimidated and put off by a woman who is more successful than they are. All of my friends who are more successful than their husbands married them before they became wildy successful.

But that's gotta be a small percentage of women like that. We keep hearing about male-dominated society; women getting paid less than men on average, etc.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I hate to say this, but I think that most men are intimidated and put off by a woman who is more successful than they are. All of my friends who are more successful than their husbands married them before they became wildy successful.

But that's gotta be a small percentage of women like that. We keep hearing about male-dominated society; women getting paid less than men on average, etc.

In Millienial and younger age groups women out earn men. Women are also graduating from college and advanced degrees at significantly higher percentages.

Men are not intimidated by career women, they just don't want them.

[Anonymous]

I think this is probably just age….

Most of the good men are off the market earlier (20s-early 30s). The ones remaining are players and/or looking for someone younger.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like men don't see you as serious relationship material. Instead they see you as a sexual layup.

When meeting a woman, most men know right away whether she is relationship or hookup. You need to get sorted into the former in men's mental algorithm.

This is horrible thing to say I am not here to brag but I am a successful doctor, I speak 3 languages, I lived in multiple countries and I own two homes at 35, and only had 2 relationships in my whole life, if this is giving hookup vibes than no thank you they stay in their place.

Men don’t care much about any of that. They mostly care about physical attraction #1 and after that- personality.

I believe this.
They want to be physically attracted to their partner and they want her to be pleasant and agreeable, as in not argumentative or looking to pick fights or debate just for the sake of being contrary. Peace in the home is underrated and most men seek this.
Secondary to that most men do like intelligent women but it’s definitely not a requirement as long as she is not embarrassingly dumb, and it helps if she is not exceedingly boring or mean.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I hate to say this, but I think that most men are intimidated and put off by a woman who is more successful than they are. All of my friends who are more successful than their husbands married them before they became wildy successful.

But that's gotta be a small percentage of women like that. We keep hearing about male-dominated society; women getting paid less than men on average, etc.

In Millienial and younger age groups women out earn men. Women are also graduating from college and advanced degrees at significantly higher percentages.

Men are not intimidated by career women, they just don't want them .

Agree. And yet I think women who dismiss this distinction don’t understand it. So it’s easier for them to claim men are afraid of this or threatened by it than to try and understand that it’s simply doesn’t rate as desirable to them.

[Anonymous]

That was very informative I didn’t think my post would get so many comments. Thank you all I appreciate the feedback and one thing when I wrote the post I was sad about my situation but when I read all the comments and some of them really felt genuine it made me feel better. Thank you for the advice and I will keep hoping for the best.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That was very informative I didn’t think my post would get so many comments. Thank you all I appreciate the feedback and one thing when I wrote the post I was sad about my situation but when I read all the comments and some of them really felt genuine it made me feel better. Thank you for the advice and I will keep hoping for the best.

Kind of random but you might consider police officers- for some reason this seems to be a common combination in my sphere. I know several. Female doctor + male cop. Not really sure why but seems to work. 🤷‍♀️

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I hate to say this, but I think that most men are intimidated and put off by a woman who is more successful than they are. All of my friends who are more successful than their husbands married them before they became wildy successful.

But that's gotta be a small percentage of women like that. We keep hearing about male-dominated society; women getting paid less than men on average, etc.

In Millienial and younger age groups women out earn men. Women are also graduating from college and advanced degrees at significantly higher percentages.

Men are not intimidated by career women, they just don't want them .

Agree. And yet I think women who dismiss this distinction don’t understand it. So it’s easier for them to claim men are afraid of this or threatened by it than to try and understand that it’s simply doesn’t rate as desirable to them.

I am sorry but you missed my point, I asked why men nowadays just try to have sex before getting to know the woman? It’s my biggest problem I brought up my achievements because someone said that I portrayed the hookup woman which is quite insulting.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I hate to say this, but I think that most men are intimidated and put off by a woman who is more successful than they are. All of my friends who are more successful than their husbands married them before they became wildy successful.

But that's gotta be a small percentage of women like that. We keep hearing about male-dominated society; women getting paid less than men on average, etc.

In Millienial and younger age groups women out earn men. Women are also graduating from college and advanced degrees at significantly higher percentages.

Men are not intimidated by career women, they just don't want them .

Agree. And yet I think women who dismiss this distinction don’t understand it. So it’s easier for them to claim men are afraid of this or threatened by it than to try and understand that it’s simply doesn’t rate as desirable to them.

I am sorry but you missed my point, I asked why men nowadays just try to have sex before getting to know the woman? It’s my biggest problem I brought up my achievements because someone said that I portrayed the hookup woman which is quite insulting.

This probably doesn’t have anything to do with you. I think men have just gotten used to this (thanks to fellow women).

[Anonymous]

These men are looking literally for a free ho. Nothing more. Run away.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like men don't see you as serious relationship material. Instead they see you as a sexual layup.

When meeting a woman, most men know right away whether she is relationship or hookup. You need to get sorted into the former in men's mental algorithm.

Men on dating apps generally are not looking for a serious relationship.

Neither are women. Most are DTF immediately.

Stop saying this: it is not true.

Sure it is. IME.

[Anonymous]

It always comes down to the other person not finding you attractive enough. The man/woman that you don't consider quite attractive enough for you will be the one that really wants a long term relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like men don't see you as serious relationship material. Instead they see you as a sexual layup.

When meeting a woman, most men know right away whether she is relationship or hookup. You need to get sorted into the former in men's mental algorithm.

This is horrible thing to say I am not here to brag but I am a successful doctor, I speak 3 languages, I lived in multiple countries and I own two homes at 35, and only had 2 relationships in my whole life, if this is giving hookup vibes than no thank you they stay in their place.

Men don’t care much about any of that. They mostly care about physical attraction #1 and after that- personality.

I believe this.
They want to be physically attracted to their partner and they want her to be pleasant and agreeable, as in not argumentative or looking to pick fights or debate just for the sake of being contrary. Peace in the home is underrated and most men seek this.
Secondary to that most men do like intelligent women but it’s definitely not a requirement as long as she is not embarrassingly dumb, and it helps if she is not exceedingly boring or mean.

Men who are already married can say this. DH met me when he was 23. He fell in love with me and was not thinking about this list. I was hot, smart and fun. 20+ years later I’m not so pleasant and probably difficult. DH may not care now about my brains but he did when we were dating. I challenged him and was more ambitious than he was.