Bill Splitting Etiquette (Happy Hour)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hate the whole "split it equally concept.

I don't drink anything harder than Diet Coke and due to severe food allergies, I rarely eat anything more than a salad when I go out to eat. One of my groups of colleagues drinks multiple drinks and eat multi-course meals when we go out. They always want to split the bill equally, which can easily be $75+/person. Usually, my portion is more like $10-$15, so even with a tip, I cost no more than $20. I resent paying an extra $50+ to subsidize them.

I get that it's annoying to pay for someone's lobster if you're ordering an appetizer, but if an adult makes bill time complicated by stating they should pay less, that person won't be invited out much longer. It reads as cheap and overly complicated. You might not want to go out with groups for dinner if you're just going to order salad and be all annoyed about it?

OP here - but I'm not making it complicated if I pay my portion immediately when I order my drink. It would be different if I did it when the bill arrived and I got my abacus out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hate those people who expect others to pay for their excess. Throw down a $20 and skedaddle. $40 is ridiculous.

This, and only this, is the answer.

[Anonymous]

Ask for a separate check and never leave without paying. Say I had one drink for $10 and leaving a $5 tip.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ask for a separate check and never leave without paying. Say I had one drink for $10 and leaving a $5 tip.

Clearly that was my mistake from the get. I shouldn't have agreed to Venmo post-drinks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Separate check, or just get your drink at the bar and close out immediately.

OP here - but I think the problem with me getting my drink at the bar is that it won't be obvious that I've already paid if that makes sense. I think I need to do the transaction at the table so others can see "oh she already paid". Right?

No you’ll have your receipt

[Anonymous]

For one reason or another someone is always having to leave early from our get togethers. When they order, rhey will say something along the lines of "I'm going to be leaving early, can I have mine on a separate check?". No one bats an eye

[Anonymous]

Like, almost everybody, said, get your checks, separately, pay, and leave early. For what it’s worth in my group of friends in the situation that you described, you would’ve been told- “Oh my goodness you only had one drink! I hope you can hang out longer next time. of course we covered it don’t worry about it.” And it would have been the truth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hate the whole "split it equally concept.

I don't drink anything harder than Diet Coke and due to severe food allergies, I rarely eat anything more than a salad when I go out to eat. One of my groups of colleagues drinks multiple drinks and eat multi-course meals when we go out. They always want to split the bill equally, which can easily be $75+/person. Usually, my portion is more like $10-$15, so even with a tip, I cost no more than $20. I resent paying an extra $50+ to subsidize them.

I get that it's annoying to pay for someone's lobster if you're ordering an appetizer, but if an adult makes bill time complicated by stating they should pay less, that person won't be invited out much longer. It reads as cheap and overly complicated. You might not want to go out with groups for dinner if you're just going to order salad and be all annoyed about it?

OP here - but I'm not making it complicated if I pay my portion immediately when I order my drink. It would be different if I did it when the bill arrived and I got my abacus out.

Oh, absolutely, OP. I was just referencing the dinner with food situation. If we're just talking drinks, I agree with all of the other PPs about paying separately and leaving. I personally feel like it's a bit different if it's a sit down meal somewhere, however.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Separate check, or just get your drink at the bar and close out immediately.

OP here - but I think the problem with me getting my drink at the bar is that it won't be obvious that I've already paid if that makes sense. I think I need to do the transaction at the table so others can see "oh she already paid". Right?

I would just say something like “I gotta go - do not worry, I already paid for my drink at the bar”.

[Anonymous]

If I were your friends in this scenario, I’d just pay for your own drink. That’s so cheap of them!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I were your friends in this scenario, I’d just pay for your one drink. That’s so cheap of them!

Fixed my typo

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hold on....
I hear it!
Do you hear it?......
(Cheap...Cheap...Cheap...Cheap).
The little birdies all are calling out your names! 😂

Oh here's the DB who orders a ton of drinks and doesn't want to pay their own bill. Who's the cheap one? It's you. Pay for your own food and drink, why is it cheap of that other person to not want to fund your addiction?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DCUM unanimous! hardly ever happens!

Just pay get your own tab and pay for yours before you leave. If anybody has a problem with this, I wouldn't care.

I also wouldn't have paid the original $40 request. I would say I had one drink, here's my $15.

+1

Here is your dissenting voice. I don't hang out with people like you. I am grown and so are my friends. If you are still crying over a $15 drink and not paying for others, I have no time for you. That's ridiculous. I pick up the tab all the time. I don't care. It's not that big of a deal. If I can only afford to buy my drink, I don't go out.

I'm surprised that people still invite you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hold on....
I hear it!
Do you hear it?......
(Cheap...Cheap...Cheap...Cheap).
The little birdies all are calling out your names! 😂

I’m pretty generous, but nope. This was fine when drinks were less than $10. At $20 plus, I’m not paying for people to drink 3+ drinks and I had one.

For a special occasion (birthday or whatever) I’d pay the full share. For just a regular night out, I’m not paying for that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DCUM unanimous! hardly ever happens!

Just pay get your own tab and pay for yours before you leave. If anybody has a problem with this, I wouldn't care.

I also wouldn't have paid the original $40 request. I would say I had one drink, here's my $15.

+1

Here is your dissenting voice. I don't hang out with people like you. I am grown and so are my friends. If you are still crying over a $15 drink and not paying for others, I have no time for you. That's ridiculous. I pick up the tab all the time. I don't care. It's not that big of a deal. If I can only afford to buy my drink, I don't go out.

I'm surprised that people still invite you.

You choosing to pick up the tab is different than OP being demanded to cover other people….