Brother in law sharing salary of niece, bragging?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How ridiculous. It would still be bragging if he just said she got a good job with a good salary. Knowing the number doesn’t make it bragging.

Honestly I think it’s fine to brag about your kids to your siblings. I do it with my siblings and vice versa.

I agree.
OP, just admit you don't like your BIL and the niece. Or your ILs in general!
What's wrong with responding to your husband with "Cool, good for her!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend that does this all the time. Whenever she is in a conversation, especially with strangers or people she doesn't know well, she will ALWAYS mention her grown children and how they make six figures, just bought a house, bought a new car, and not just any car but a Honda, and on and on. It drives me insane!

LOL. You are insufferable. So your friend is really-really proud of her kids, what is your problem? Why do you have a problem with your friend being proud of her children's accomplishment even if it is just buying a honda?

[Anonymous]

I’m 50 and probably would not share this info generally. But, I might tell my sister. Good grief!!

But, I also agree with the poster that said this needs to change for reasons like pay equity. Folks 35 and under are much more likely to share. And that doesn’t make them huge braggarts. It makes them aware that corporate America is tough and knowledge is power.

[Anonymous]

What’s the big deal?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's become much less taboo to talk salaries, because that's the only way to achieve pay equity and/or make sure employees know the market. So he may just be following her lead - she told him, he told you.

Without any more context OP - this.

It’s still impolite & tacky as ever.

No. It's natural and healthy. Please stop persevering on this. I see you created a whole other thread as well!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's become much less taboo to talk salaries, because that's the only way to achieve pay equity and/or make sure employees know the market. So he may just be following her lead - she told him, he told you.

Without any more context OP - this.

It’s still impolite & tacky as ever.

Why is it “impolite and tacky”?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Totally inappropriate for them to share, but what do you plan to do about it?

Why is it inappropriate? I do share that my kid will be starting with $120k after college with $9,000 signing bonus.

Mine got offered $150k.

My daughter earns 180k, working from home, six hours per day.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have a friend that does this all the time. Whenever she is in a conversation, especially with strangers or people she doesn't know well, she will ALWAYS mention her grown children and how they make six figures, just bought a house, bought a new car, and not just any car but a Honda, and on and on. It drives me insane!

LOL. You are insufferable. So your friend is really-really proud of her kids, what is your problem? Why do you have a problem with your friend being proud of her children's accomplishment even if it is just buying a honda?

LOL..Me insufferable. I don't have a problem with her being proud. I'm proud too..I've known them since birth. It just gets old and eventually people have to say, "I know so much about your kids, tell me about you." Now, when we are at social events, I just walk away from her after hearing her tell a new set of people the same stories.

[Anonymous]

OK? Yes. Some people brag and some people are tasteless. Yes, and? Why is this a thread?

[Anonymous]

OP indicated her children are older (all through college). So they’ve probably achieved every milestone first, compared to the niece. Now the niece has an achievement that likely overshadows her cousins and OP can’t stand it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's become much less taboo to talk salaries, because that's the only way to achieve pay equity and/or make sure employees know the market. So he may just be following her lead - she told him, he told you.

Without any more context OP - this.

It’s still impolite & tacky as ever.

No. It's natural and healthy. Please stop persevering on this. I see you created a whole other thread as well!

It's perseverating. Not persevering.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Totally inappropriate for them to share, but what do you plan to do about it?

Why is it inappropriate? I do share that my kid will be starting with $120k after college with $9,000 signing bonus.

Mine got offered $150k.

Stop being a hater. Good on your kids. They have worked hard and deserve it. Congrats PP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP indicated her children are older (all through college). So they’ve probably achieved every milestone first, compared to the niece. Now the niece has an achievement that likely overshadows her cousins and OP can’t stand it.[/quote

Agreed OP is jealous

[Anonymous]

Good for her, be happy that she's a successful and accomplished adult. I love my brother and I'm happy when his son is doing great things. Americans are so weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They’re brothers. Just stop.

This. Dear lord…it’s not even bragging, but, if it was…why can’t you brag about your kid to family members??? Don’t you love your niece and wish her well? Or are you the petty shrew aunt who no one likes?