Brother in law sharing salary of niece, bragging?

[Anonymous]

OP is the salary over $100k?

[Anonymous]

i see nothing wrong between family members. i do agree with other posters, whether you accept it or not, you are feeling jealous of her success.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Totally inappropriate for them to share, but what do you plan to do about it?

Why is it inappropriate? I do share that my kid will be starting with $120k after college with $9,000 signing bonus.

[Anonymous]

Well I don’t think it’s weird but I love my siblings and am super close to them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Totally inappropriate for them to share, but what do you plan to do about it?

Why is it inappropriate? I do share that my kid will be starting with $120k after college with $9,000 signing bonus.

You answered your own question.

[Anonymous]

They’re SIBLINGS. Of course it’s healthy to share. And it’s also perfectly fine to boast about your kid to your SIBLING.

What’s your problem, OP? You seem jealous or mentally rigid.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Totally inappropriate for them to share, but what do you plan to do about it?

Why is it inappropriate? I do share that my kid will be starting with $120k after college with $9,000 signing bonus.

That's an awesome first salary. But I will say: when I got my first job out of law school one of my aunts cornered me at a party and badgered me to find out how much I made. I was really uncomfortable, and stupidly told her to end the interaction. To this day, after years of different jobs, periods of unemployment, and now working part time, her kids hit me up through every channel available to ask for money. I wish I had lied or just told her it was none of her business.

I think OP is jealous and petty. But when you're doing well it can behoove you to play it vague.

[Anonymous]

Some families just talk openly about stuff like that, and some don't.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's become much less taboo to talk salaries, because that's the only way to achieve pay equity and/or make sure employees know the market. So he may just be following her lead - she told him, he told you.

Without any more context OP - this.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's become much less taboo to talk salaries, because that's the only way to achieve pay equity and/or make sure employees know the market. So he may just be following her lead - she told him, he told you.

Without any more context OP - this.

It’s still impolite & tacky as ever.

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Anonymous wrote:How ridiculous. It would still be bragging if he just said she got a good job with a good salary. Knowing the number doesn’t make it bragging.

Honestly I think it’s fine to brag about your kids to your siblings. I do it with my siblings and vice versa.

Same. I don't see this as a big deal at all. Nor did the sibling of the bragger. Agree OP is jealous.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Totally inappropriate for them to share, but what do you plan to do about it?

Why is it inappropriate? I do share that my kid will be starting with $120k after college with $9,000 signing bonus.

Who do you share that with? You’re tacky.

[Anonymous]

Why do you care? I know most of my friends and relatives salaries. If you are close, it comes up. It is a major aspect of most people determining how they spend half of their waking hours. Not sure why you can’t handle having this info, but it is absolutely a you problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's become much less taboo to talk salaries, because that's the only way to achieve pay equity and/or make sure employees know the market. So he may just be following her lead - she told him, he told you.

Without any more context OP - this.

It’s still impolite & tacky as ever.

Not sure about that. They are siblings.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Totally inappropriate for them to share, but what do you plan to do about it?

Why is it inappropriate? I do share that my kid will be starting with $120k after college with $9,000 signing bonus.

Mine got offered $150k.