Friends 32-year-old DS arrested for CP while living in her home

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are providing way too much identifying information about a situation that doesn't even involve you. Despite the crime possibly committed these people deserve confidentiality. From what you have provided most people could easily figure out who they are, at least anyone who happens to know them could.

His mugshot is available online. She’s not outing anyone.

[Anonymous]

Do not visit the sin of the man onto his mother.

This is taking shaming mothers to a WHOLE NEW LEVEL.

So be her friend. Not his. Tell her that you are there for her, but not to listen to anything related to her son's defense or excuses.

[Anonymous]

OP, you be a good friend and know that she is not the same person as her son. You be there for her. you don't condone his actions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Do not visit the sin of the man onto his mother.

This is taking shaming mothers to a WHOLE NEW LEVEL.

So be her friend. Not his. Tell her that you are there for her, but not to listen to anything related to her son's defense or excuses.

Some parents (notice I didn’t say gender) are responsible for the atrocities their child bring into the world. From mass shooters to child porn.

Aside from that he was living under her roof for the past 14 years as an adult while setting up an online child porn business…so she is involved.

She housed and fed him while letting him live with no bills and no questions as he did this.

[Anonymous]

OP, I had a friend whose DH (respected accomplished attorney) was caught in a FBI sting for CP, including videos of their infant daughter. She had no idea, and I believe that. It blew up her world. Just try to be there to listen, not judge.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
THIS IS NOT YOUR FRIEND'S FAULT.

REPEAT UNTIL YOU ACCEPT IT, OP.

YOU DO NOT NEED TO SAY ANYTHING ABOUT HER SON, GOOD OR BAD.

It may not be her fault, but if she continues to shelter him and enable him and defend him, then our friendship is done.

Don’t be so naively cruel. If your adult child did something terrible, you would want justice done. But you would also seek help for your child and support from your friends.

Point is: it can happen to any of us. We are not our spouse. We are not our kids. We are responsible for our own actions, not those of others. We can only extend grace to one another. It is not a relative’s fault that a family member is a criminal.

I'm not naive nor cruel. This is not your garden variety of something terrible, CP and the sextual exploitation of children is about one of the most vile thing on earth. Given the overwhelming evidence, if she continues to be in denial about her son and continues to defend him, I'd lose respect for her.

I'm all for compassion and kindness, but I also want sound judgment and integrity from people I associate with.

[Anonymous]

op you should ask Jeff to delete your thread, it is far too revealing.

and privately, you should support your friend, she is a victim here not a perpetrator.

[Anonymous]

Can’t believe they bailed him out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I had a friend whose DH (respected accomplished attorney) was caught in a FBI sting for CP, including videos of their infant daughter. She had no idea, and I believe that. It blew up her world. Just try to be there to listen, not judge.

Did she bail her husband out of jail and let him stay in their home?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I had a friend whose DH (respected accomplished attorney) was caught in a FBI sting for CP, including videos of their infant daughter. She had no idea, and I believe that. It blew up her world. Just try to be there to listen, not judge.

Did she bail her husband out of jail and let him stay in their home?

No - she divorced him immediately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I had a friend whose DH (respected accomplished attorney) was caught in a FBI sting for CP, including videos of their infant daughter. She had no idea, and I believe that. It blew up her world. Just try to be there to listen, not judge.

Did she bail her husband out of jail and let him stay in their home?

No - she divorced him immediately.

I think in this case how you would react if the perp is a husband versus a child is different

[Anonymous]

Sad. The kid sounds very mentally ill. They probably kept him there because it was clear he could not support himself.

I don't why you would abandon someone you claim to "love."

Talk about a fair weather friend.

I would at a minimum be there for her to talk to on the phone. No need to go to her home.

[Anonymous]

Part of being a true friend is guidance when they're in the wrong. Bailing him out so he can sit comfortably at home and thinking "rehab" would be better than jail is completely inappropriate for someone enabling child torture. Running a website means he had to have been in contact with hundreds of pedophiles around the world, because they personally gave him the child torture content they created and trusted him to keep their identities secret for him to catalogue and share it. Your friend needs a reality check. Her son allowed other sons to get brutalized. She needs to revoke his bail and send him back to jail where he belongs, otherwise I would cut her off for enabling this monster.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m not convinced someone can become a pedo in a vacuum. Did you ever get “off” vibes from her or his father?

-1

Pedophiles (and rapists, and domestic abusers) can be very very good at manipulating others and crafting a very likable, harmless persona. That’s why so few victims are believed. It is by design.

-molested by dad, yet my family believes him over me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are providing way too much identifying information about a situation that doesn't even involve you. Despite the crime possibly committed these people deserve confidentiality. From what you have provided most people could easily figure out who they are, at least anyone who happens to know them could.

Pedos absolutely do not deserve confidentiality or anonymity.