Friends 32-year-old DS arrested for CP while living in her home
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Anonymous
| Why on earth would you provide so many details? You are a horrible friend. I hope someone finds her—should be easy given the details you’ve shared—and sends her a link to this. |
Anonymous
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THIS IS NOT YOUR FRIEND'S FAULT. REPEAT UNTIL YOU ACCEPT IT, OP. YOU DO NOT NEED TO SAY ANYTHING ABOUT HER SON, GOOD OR BAD. |
Anonymous
He’s going to end up in prison eventually. |
Anonymous
| I would suggest some kind of therapy. This situation is a lot to unpack. Did the parents secure an attorney since this all occurred in their home using their internet? |
Anonymous
Did you raise a pedophile too? |
Anonymous
She’s out of her mind. He needs to rot forever in jail. The alcoholic father is suspect…as someone above said, pedos aren’t created in a vacuum. Stay far away OP. |
Anonymous
It might be her fault. You have no idea what was going on in that house. What OP knows for certain paints a very messed up picture. |
Anonymous
+1000 |
Anonymous
| She may not have prior knowledge, but once presented with the massive amount of evidence, her reaction would be key to whether I'd want to continue my friendship with her. If she continues to enable and defend her son, the friendship is over. |
Anonymous
It may not be her fault, but if she continues to shelter him and enable him and defend him, then our friendship is done. |
Anonymous
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It happens with smart people too.
Google Aaron Bruns Fox News. |
Anonymous
| You are a bad friend for posting this online. |
Anonymous
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OP, you don't have to go into public with her. You can have her come over to your house.
On a much smaller scale, I had a friend (really, just an aquaintence, but I liked her) whose son was in the same high school grade as my daughter. He was kicked out of school (for arguing with his best friend and his language was overheard--in short, nothing like this) Anyways it's a gossipy school. I wanted to get together with the mom, but interestingly, she didn't want to be seen in a public place, she was so shamed. And also, she wanted a private place to talk. I invited her over. I was shocked when she came over with flowers for me. She said her (school-mom) friends had shunned her. She was so grateful to have me to talk to, and to have her over. She was so isolated and hurting. Anyways, I'd do that, OP. Give her your friendship. But also, you can keep boundaries and if she strays into "he's innocent" or excusing his behavior, you can tell her no, you're not entertaining that line of talk. Also OP as a friend you can help her get a therapist. I'll go back and read the replies, but if you haven't told us yet if she has other children, let us know. I'm asking because if this is her only child, then all her eggs are in one basket and she may either go into deep denial, or NOT go into denial and get suicidal. |
Anonymous
Don’t be so naively cruel. If your adult child did something terrible, you would want justice done. But you would also seek help for your child and support from your friends. Point is: it can happen to any of us. We are not our spouse. We are not our kids. We are responsible for our own actions, not those of others. We can only extend grace to one another. It is not a relative’s fault that a family member is a criminal. |
Anonymous
New poster here. After a pp told OP that she provided too many details, I tried to google and figure out who this is. I googled "man arrested for child pornography august 2022" and there are a LOT of men that were. I skimmed through many articles but couldn't find a case that matched what OP described--they were either too old, too young, appeared to be thin (OP states he looks like he's gained 150 pounds) or had short hair/bald (and OP mentions his long unkempt hair.) Maybe I could find it if I spent hours... |