Husband wants to be more intimate

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I say this with kindness and without judgment: You need to put out before your husband starts looking elsewhere.

Find a babysitter to watch the kids and take an evening for yourselves each week. If you’re still uneasy with your body for whatever reason tell him that. Think of it as a time to perfect your bj skills. Men just operate differently than women it’s normal but you have to compromise. At this point it’s been a year with very little goodies I can understand his frustration.

She is THREE MONTHS past having twins and is “putting out” once a week! You’re insane, or a dude who feels like it’s his responsibility to get every other dude laid.

You're living in fantasy land. Soon it'll be but the twins need this... or I'm tired... and before you know it, hubby is looking elsewhere. It's just the way it goes. It's the reality of the thing. It just is. Either she musters up the umph to do it, or she'll be having serious marital issues in the next 3-6 months, I guarantee.

+1 best thing for those kids is a strong marriage

What is it about unwanted sex that leads to a strong marriage?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I say this with kindness and without judgment: You need to put out before your husband starts looking elsewhere.

Find a babysitter to watch the kids and take an evening for yourselves each week. If you’re still uneasy with your body for whatever reason tell him that. Think of it as a time to perfect your bj skills. Men just operate differently than women it’s normal but you have to compromise. At this point it’s been a year with very little goodies I can understand his frustration.

OMG stfu. It’s her DH who needs the come-to-jesus talk: unless he backs way off his wife (with twin babies and barely 3 months from a traumatic birth!) he is going to end up with an extremely unhappy wife. This is literally how sexless marriages are made.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am team put out. What exactly is wrong with your mouth performing? Your anus? How can you be that tired that you can not spend a couple minutes being intimate with your husband? You are consumed by your children but what about him? Where and when does he get attention and affection from you? If you want, tell him that he needs to be proactive in finding a babysitter once a week so you all can go to a hotel and have sex. Figure it out:

you are absolutely disgusting

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am team put out. What exactly is wrong with your mouth performing? Your anus? How can you be that tired that you can not spend a couple minutes being intimate with your husband? You are consumed by your children but what about him? Where and when does he get attention and affection from you? If you want, tell him that he needs to be proactive in finding a babysitter once a week so you all can go to a hotel and have sex. Figure it out:

you are absolutely disgusting

I'm this this person isn't even married

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He’s ridiculous. He should be helping you with the twins and helping you get pelvic PT to recover from your birth, not harassing you for sex. Sorry but you’re at the start of a long marathon, and if you don’t get time to relax and rest now you will be extremely depleted by the end of the year. Tell him what you need to feel rested and healed and put yourself first. He’s an idiot if he doesn’t see what you need.

Sex is a part of marriage and this is a terrible opinion. No man is thinking of helping their wives get pelvic PT. Get outta here! Sex can take a few minutes at minimum, it really ain't that hard to do.

It’s amazing to me that men (and maybe some sad women) cannot see the connection between being unsupportive, selfish partners, and their wives not being in the mood for sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I say this with kindness and without judgment: You need to put out before your husband starts looking elsewhere.

Find a babysitter to watch the kids and take an evening for yourselves each week. If you’re still uneasy with your body for whatever reason tell him that. Think of it as a time to perfect your bj skills. Men just operate differently than women it’s normal but you have to compromise. At this point it’s been a year with very little goodies I can understand his frustration.

She is THREE MONTHS past having twins and is “putting out” once a week! You’re insane, or a dude who feels like it’s his responsibility to get every other dude laid.

You're living in fantasy land. Soon it'll be but the twins need this... or I'm tired... and before you know it, hubby is looking elsewhere. It's just the way it goes. It's the reality of the thing. It just is. Either she musters up the umph to do it, or she'll be having serious marital issues in the next 3-6 months, I guarantee.

You are absolutely right IF the OP is married to an asshole.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am team put out. What exactly is wrong with your mouth performing? Your anus? How can you be that tired that you can not spend a couple minutes being intimate with your husband? You are consumed by your children but what about him? Where and when does he get attention and affection from you? If you want, tell him that he needs to be proactive in finding a babysitter once a week so you all can go to a hotel and have sex. Figure it out:

This is truly remarkable— don’t just have sex, have bad sex!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He’s ridiculous. He should be helping you with the twins and helping you get pelvic PT to recover from your birth, not harassing you for sex. Sorry but you’re at the start of a long marathon, and if you don’t get time to relax and rest now you will be extremely depleted by the end of the year. Tell him what you need to feel rested and healed and put yourself first. He’s an idiot if he doesn’t see what you need.

Sex is a part of marriage and this is a terrible opinion. No man is thinking of helping their wives get pelvic PT. Get outta here! Sex can take a few minutes at minimum, it really ain't that hard to do.

My husband is the one who did all the paperwork to get mine covered by insurance. He gets laid more than you do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am team put out. What exactly is wrong with your mouth performing? Your anus? How can you be that tired that you can not spend a couple minutes being intimate with your husband? You are consumed by your children but what about him? Where and when does he get attention and affection from you? If you want, tell him that he needs to be proactive in finding a babysitter once a week so you all can go to a hotel and have sex. Figure it out:

This is truly remarkable— don’t just have sex, have bad sex!

everyone knows that bad sex, especially anal, when you have twin infants, is the key to a happy marriage

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am team put out. What exactly is wrong with your mouth performing? Your anus? How can you be that tired that you can not spend a couple minutes being intimate with your husband? You are consumed by your children but what about him? Where and when does he get attention and affection from you? If you want, tell him that he needs to be proactive in finding a babysitter once a week so you all can go to a hotel and have sex. Figure it out:

you are absolutely disgusting

+1

PP is an incel who thinks that a woman is just a trio of holes.

Signed, A husband and father

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I say this with kindness and without judgment: You need to put out before your husband starts looking elsewhere.

Find a babysitter to watch the kids and take an evening for yourselves each week. If you’re still uneasy with your body for whatever reason tell him that. Think of it as a time to perfect your bj skills. Men just operate differently than women it’s normal but you have to compromise. At this point it’s been a year with very little goodies I can understand his frustration.

She is THREE MONTHS past having twins and is “putting out” once a week! You’re insane, or a dude who feels like it’s his responsibility to get every other dude laid.

You're living in fantasy land. Soon it'll be but the twins need this... or I'm tired... and before you know it, hubby is looking elsewhere. It's just the way it goes. It's the reality of the thing. It just is. Either she musters up the umph to do it, or she'll be having serious marital issues in the next 3-6 months, I guarantee.

+1 best thing for those kids is a strong marriage

What is it about unwanted sex that leads to a strong marriage?

Your husband won’t leave you for the secretary

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I say this with kindness and without judgment: You need to put out before your husband starts looking elsewhere.

Find a babysitter to watch the kids and take an evening for yourselves each week. If you’re still uneasy with your body for whatever reason tell him that. Think of it as a time to perfect your bj skills. Men just operate differently than women it’s normal but you have to compromise. At this point it’s been a year with very little goodies I can understand his frustration.

She is THREE MONTHS past having twins and is “putting out” once a week! You’re insane, or a dude who feels like it’s his responsibility to get every other dude laid.

You're living in fantasy land. Soon it'll be but the twins need this... or I'm tired... and before you know it, hubby is looking elsewhere. It's just the way it goes. It's the reality of the thing. It just is. Either she musters up the umph to do it, or she'll be having serious marital issues in the next 3-6 months, I guarantee.

+1 best thing for those kids is a strong marriage

What is it about unwanted sex that leads to a strong marriage?

Your husband won’t leave you for the secretary

If he’s the kind of man who would leave for the secretary, we don’t have a strong marriage no matter how much unwanted sex there is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I say this with kindness and without judgment: You need to put out before your husband starts looking elsewhere.

Find a babysitter to watch the kids and take an evening for yourselves each week. If you’re still uneasy with your body for whatever reason tell him that. Think of it as a time to perfect your bj skills. Men just operate differently than women it’s normal but you have to compromise. At this point it’s been a year with very little goodies I can understand his frustration.

She is THREE MONTHS past having twins and is “putting out” once a week! You’re insane, or a dude who feels like it’s his responsibility to get every other dude laid.

You're living in fantasy land. Soon it'll be but the twins need this... or I'm tired... and before you know it, hubby is looking elsewhere. It's just the way it goes. It's the reality of the thing. It just is. Either she musters up the umph to do it, or she'll be having serious marital issues in the next 3-6 months, I guarantee.

+1 best thing for those kids is a strong marriage

What is it about unwanted sex that leads to a strong marriage?

Your husband won’t leave you for the secretary

Yeah I'm sure the secretary wants a guy with three month old twins.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I say this with kindness and without judgment: You need to put out before your husband starts looking elsewhere.

Find a babysitter to watch the kids and take an evening for yourselves each week. If you’re still uneasy with your body for whatever reason tell him that. Think of it as a time to perfect your bj skills. Men just operate differently than women it’s normal but you have to compromise. At this point it’s been a year with very little goodies I can understand his frustration.

She is THREE MONTHS past having twins and is “putting out” once a week! You’re insane, or a dude who feels like it’s his responsibility to get every other dude laid.

You're living in fantasy land. Soon it'll be but the twins need this... or I'm tired... and before you know it, hubby is looking elsewhere. It's just the way it goes. It's the reality of the thing. It just is. Either she musters up the umph to do it, or she'll be having serious marital issues in the next 3-6 months, I guarantee.

+1 best thing for those kids is a strong marriage

What is it about unwanted sex that leads to a strong marriage?

Your husband won’t leave you for the secretary

Yeah I'm sure the secretary wants a guy with three month old twins.

Yeah nothing so romantic as 17 years and nine months of child support. And judges love adulterers who abandon infants.

[Anonymous]

You had me at three months postpartum - he needs to grow up