40's woman and dating- I don't like to cook! Is this a problem?

[Anonymous]

Hi - so slightly off topic but where are all you mid 40s single moms meeting these guys?

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Anonymous wrote:Everyone should know how to cook and have a few meal recipes memorized.

Just say that.

Someone your dating has his elderly mother sending meals daily? He cannot figure out how to feed his own kids or meal plan?

OP: his mom is in her 60's, but yes. It sounds more like a cultural tradition though (Lebanese).

My ex-husband's mom is Lebanese. She does not send daily meals.

OP never said daily.

Also, I’m a mom who loves to cook, DH loves to cook, we cook every single day - and my mom still makes and gives food to us on an almost weekly basis because that’s just what she does.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everyone should know how to cook and have a few meal recipes memorized.

Just say that.

Someone your dating has his elderly mother sending meals daily? He cannot figure out how to feed his own kids or meal plan?

OP: his mom is in her 60's, but yes. It sounds more like a cultural tradition though (Lebanese).

If he is from a food-centric family, yes it is going to be a big deal. It is more than just not cooking it is that food is relatively unimportant to you. You will be judged and found wanting. Find a pasty- faced white boy whose Mother microwaved pot pies after a few gin and tonics, you’ll be happier.

Lol no, this is not going to be a big deal. I am middle eastern, food is important, my parents still send me food despite the fact that I love to cook traditional food and am good at it, but a lot of my friends don’t like cooking and their husbands have not left them over it yet.

People are people and allowed to have preferences.

[Anonymous]

The guy you’re dating sounds like a loser

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 43 and attractive, in shape, and dating. Lately all of the guys I've gone out with have asked right away if I like to cook. I don't. The guy I'm dating now gets homemade meals delivered from his mom weekly (supposedly for his kids, but he eats it too). Is this going to be a problem?

When DH and I started dating , I did not know how to cook. He was 39 at the time. He knew this about me, and he didn't care. He knew how to cook, and actually cooked for me while we were dating. Still does.

The bolded would make me run. The problem is not you not knowing how to cook, but that he's looking for a cook for his kids (and himself).

Eh, I read it as a grandma cooking for her grandkids now that their mom isn’t around. Kinda sweet, assuming she’s local.

Why can't he cook? Why does he need his mommy to cook for him? Don't you think that he will expect his GF/wife to cook for him? Big huge red flag.

The PP specifically said that the grandma makes the food for the kids. And lots of men and women can’t cook, it’s not a character flaw.

Cooking isn't that difficult it's something sn adult should no how to do. I'd say the character flaw is laziness in not bothering to try to learn for ho.srlf and to care for his kids. And instead having his mother do it

Spelling is not that difficult either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everyone should know how to cook and have a few meal recipes memorized.

Just say that.

Someone your dating has his elderly mother sending meals daily? He cannot figure out how to feed his own kids or meal plan?

OP: his mom is in her 60's, but yes. It sounds more like a cultural tradition though (Lebanese).

If he is from a food-centric family, yes it is going to be a big deal. It is more than just not cooking it is that food is relatively unimportant to you. You will be judged and found wanting. Find a pasty- faced white boy whose Mother microwaved pot pies after a few gin and tonics, you’ll be happier.

Lol no, this is not going to be a big deal. I am middle eastern, food is important, my parents still send me food despite the fact that I love to cook traditional food and am good at it, but a lot of my friends don’t like cooking and their husbands have not left them over it yet.

People are people and allowed to have preferences.

Also posters are completely glossing over the fact that, assuming the grandma is a good cook, OP will get to eat a bunch of delicious homemade cooking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 43 and attractive, in shape, and dating. Lately all of the guys I've gone out with have asked right away if I like to cook. I don't. The guy I'm dating now gets homemade meals delivered from his mom weekly (supposedly for his kids, but he eats it too). Is this going to be a problem?

Be up front that you don't like to cook and use this as a tool to weed out poor candidates.

A good man will cook for YOU, OP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everyone should know how to cook and have a few meal recipes memorized.

Just say that.

Someone your dating has his elderly mother sending meals daily? He cannot figure out how to feed his own kids or meal plan?

OP: his mom is in her 60's, but yes. It sounds more like a cultural tradition though (Lebanese).

If he is from a food-centric family, yes it is going to be a big deal. It is more than just not cooking it is that food is relatively unimportant to you. You will be judged and found wanting. Find a pasty- faced white boy whose Mother microwaved pot pies after a few gin and tonics, you’ll be happier.

Lol no, this is not going to be a big deal. I am middle eastern, food is important, my parents still send me food despite the fact that I love to cook traditional food and am good at it, but a lot of my friends don’t like cooking and their husbands have not left them over it yet.

People are people and allowed to have preferences.

Also posters are completely glossing over the fact that, assuming the grandma is a good cook, OP will get to eat a bunch of delicious homemade cooking.

A grown man should be able to provide meals for his children without his mommy. Who cares if it is cultural? So what he’s a Lebanese manchild then.

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Anonymous wrote:If you can make up for it in the bedroom, then I think you’re solid. Just be up front so they know that they’ll have to take on that cooking role or budget takeout/premaid meals being with you.

-30 year old man who also doesn’t like to cook.

My STBX wife is an amazing cook but is dead in the bedroom. Would rather have great sex than a great meal. I can always order in or cook myself. You will be fine.

But does OP's guy feel the same way? Only he can answer that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The men I have dated haven't cared one way or another. I don't mind cooking, but they usually end up cooking for me!

Same here and they have thrown in a massage for good measure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everyone should know how to cook and have a few meal recipes memorized.

Just say that.

Someone your dating has his elderly mother sending meals daily? He cannot figure out how to feed his own kids or meal plan?

OP: his mom is in her 60's, but yes. It sounds more like a cultural tradition though (Lebanese).

If he is from a food-centric family, yes it is going to be a big deal. It is more than just not cooking it is that food is relatively unimportant to you. You will be judged and found wanting. Find a pasty- faced white boy whose Mother microwaved pot pies after a few gin and tonics, you’ll be happier.

Lol no, this is not going to be a big deal. I am middle eastern, food is important, my parents still send me food despite the fact that I love to cook traditional food and am good at it, but a lot of my friends don’t like cooking and their husbands have not left them over it yet.

People are people and allowed to have preferences.

Also posters are completely glossing over the fact that, assuming the grandma is a good cook, OP will get to eat a bunch of delicious homemade cooking.

A grown man should be able to provide meals for his children without his mommy. Who cares if it is cultural? So what he’s a Lebanese manchild then.

Meh. I cook for my family of four every day of my life, but I still love my mom’s cooking, and she cooks for us frequently. Receiving meals from his mom for his kids does not mean he is incapable of cooking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everyone should know how to cook and have a few meal recipes memorized.

Just say that.

Someone your dating has his elderly mother sending meals daily? He cannot figure out how to feed his own kids or meal plan?

OP: his mom is in her 60's, but yes. It sounds more like a cultural tradition though (Lebanese).

If he is from a food-centric family, yes it is going to be a big deal. It is more than just not cooking it is that food is relatively unimportant to you. You will be judged and found wanting. Find a pasty- faced white boy whose Mother microwaved pot pies after a few gin and tonics, you’ll be happier.

Lol no, this is not going to be a big deal. I am middle eastern, food is important, my parents still send me food despite the fact that I love to cook traditional food and am good at it, but a lot of my friends don’t like cooking and their husbands have not left them over it yet.

People are people and allowed to have preferences.

Also posters are completely glossing over the fact that, assuming the grandma is a good cook, OP will get to eat a bunch of delicious homemade cooking.

A grown man should be able to provide meals for his children without his mommy. Who cares if it is cultural? So what he’s a Lebanese manchild then.

Meh. I cook for my family of four every day of my life, but I still love my mom’s cooking, and she cooks for us frequently. Receiving meals from his mom for his kids does not mean he is incapable of cooking.

Yes it does in this context and in the context of dating and being asked immediately if you can cook and tell your date your mom is providing meals for your kids it is safe to assume he is incapable. There is no reason to believe otherwise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everyone should know how to cook and have a few meal recipes memorized.

Just say that.

Someone your dating has his elderly mother sending meals daily? He cannot figure out how to feed his own kids or meal plan?

OP: his mom is in her 60's, but yes. It sounds more like a cultural tradition though (Lebanese).

My ex-husband's mom is Lebanese. She does not send daily meals.

OP never said daily.

Also, I’m a mom who loves to cook, DH loves to cook, we cook every single day - and my mom still makes and gives food to us on an almost weekly basis because that’s just what she does.

Okay...I will be more accurate...my ex Lebanese MIL does not send meals. She lives far away. When we were two hours apart, once or twice a year she would give us a try of frozen kibbeh. Good for you that you love to cook. I would not date a man who would be relying on me for cooking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The guy you’re dating sounds like a loser

+1. Men who can’t feed their own children are pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everyone should know how to cook and have a few meal recipes memorized.

Just say that.

Someone your dating has his elderly mother sending meals daily? He cannot figure out how to feed his own kids or meal plan?

OP: his mom is in her 60's, but yes. It sounds more like a cultural tradition though (Lebanese).

If he is from a food-centric family, yes it is going to be a big deal. It is more than just not cooking it is that food is relatively unimportant to you. You will be judged and found wanting. Find a pasty- faced white boy whose Mother microwaved pot pies after a few gin and tonics, you’ll be happier.

Lol no, this is not going to be a big deal. I am middle eastern, food is important, my parents still send me food despite the fact that I love to cook traditional food and am good at it, but a lot of my friends don’t like cooking and their husbands have not left them over it yet.

People are people and allowed to have preferences.

+1 This is not a big deal (ex inlaws middle eastern...me cooking or not was not really relevant)