40's woman and dating- I don't like to cook! Is this a problem?

[Anonymous]

I'm 43 and attractive, in shape, and dating. Lately all of the guys I've gone out with have asked right away if I like to cook. I don't. The guy I'm dating now gets homemade meals delivered from his mom weekly (supposedly for his kids, but he eats it too). Is this going to be a problem?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 43 and attractive, in shape, and dating. Lately all of the guys I've gone out with have asked right away if I like to cook. I don't. The guy I'm dating now gets homemade meals delivered from his mom weekly (supposedly for his kids, but he eats it too). Is this going to be a problem?

OP: to add additional detail, I was married for 15 years and was responsible for all of my DH's meals, so I'm just burned out now.

[Anonymous]

They might just be making conversation? I consider cooking a hobby, in a way. Me and my husband both like to cook, but I’ve found that a lot of people really don’t like to.

[Anonymous]

If you can make up for it in the bedroom, then I think you’re solid. Just be up front so they know that they’ll have to take on that cooking role or budget takeout/premaid meals being with you.

-30 year old man who also doesn’t like to cook.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 43 and attractive, in shape, and dating. Lately all of the guys I've gone out with have asked right away if I like to cook. I don't. The guy I'm dating now gets homemade meals delivered from his mom weekly (supposedly for his kids, but he eats it too). Is this going to be a problem?

No, date an Italian who himself is better at that you. Also listen to the explicit lyrics of the song WAP by Cardi B. Also try Gobble mealkits-sous chef chops and seasons, you just finish on the skillet. Also, I recommend All-clad saute pans.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 43 and attractive, in shape, and dating. Lately all of the guys I've gone out with have asked right away if I like to cook. I don't. The guy I'm dating now gets homemade meals delivered from his mom weekly (supposedly for his kids, but he eats it too). Is this going to be a problem?

No, date an Italian who himself is better at that you. Also listen to the explicit lyrics of the song WAP by Cardi B. Also try Gobble mealkits-sous chef chops and seasons, you just finish on the skillet. Also, I recommend All-clad saute pans.

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[Anonymous]

Everyone should know how to cook and have a few meal recipes memorized.

Just say that.

Someone your dating has his elderly mother sending meals daily? He cannot figure out how to feed his own kids or meal plan?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 43 and attractive, in shape, and dating. Lately all of the guys I've gone out with have asked right away if I like to cook. I don't. The guy I'm dating now gets homemade meals delivered from his mom weekly (supposedly for his kids, but he eats it too). Is this going to be a problem?

OP: to add additional detail, I was married for 15 years and was responsible for all of my DH's meals, so I'm just burned out now.

It's a problem if you get serious with this guy. I don't enjoy cooking and wouldn't want to take on the responsibility of cooking for a man in my 40s in a new relationship, and why would I? I have everything I need and a relationship should be a positive in your life, not a source of stress. If he expects a woman to cook for him, I personally would move on.

[Anonymous]

His mom delivers his meals!? Please tell me you know he is not the guy for you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everyone should know how to cook and have a few meal recipes memorized.

Just say that.

Someone your dating has his elderly mother sending meals daily? He cannot figure out how to feed his own kids or meal plan?

OP: his mom is in her 60's, but yes. It sounds more like a cultural tradition though (Lebanese).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 43 and attractive, in shape, and dating. Lately all of the guys I've gone out with have asked right away if I like to cook. I don't. The guy I'm dating now gets homemade meals delivered from his mom weekly (supposedly for his kids, but he eats it too). Is this going to be a problem?

When DH and I started dating , I did not know how to cook. He was 39 at the time. He knew this about me, and he didn't care. He knew how to cook, and actually cooked for me while we were dating. Still does.

The bolded would make me run. The problem is not you not knowing how to cook, but that he's looking for a cook for his kids (and himself).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everyone should know how to cook and have a few meal recipes memorized.

Just say that.

Someone your dating has his elderly mother sending meals daily? He cannot figure out how to feed his own kids or meal plan?

OP: his mom is in her 60's, but yes. It sounds more like a cultural tradition though (Lebanese).

And you don't think he will expect you to continue that tradition?

I'm Asian American and grew up in a traditional household where the women cooked. I would never ever date a man who expects this kind of thing. I'm the PP who stated that I didn't know how to cook when my DH and I started dating.

My advice: run.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 43 and attractive, in shape, and dating. Lately all of the guys I've gone out with have asked right away if I like to cook. I don't. The guy I'm dating now gets homemade meals delivered from his mom weekly (supposedly for his kids, but he eats it too). Is this going to be a problem?

When DH and I started dating , I did not know how to cook. He was 39 at the time. He knew this about me, and he didn't care. He knew how to cook, and actually cooked for me while we were dating. Still does.

The bolded would make me run. The problem is not you not knowing how to cook, but that he's looking for a cook for his kids (and himself).

Eh, I read it as a grandma cooking for her grandkids now that their mom isn’t around. Kinda sweet, assuming she’s local.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everyone should know how to cook and have a few meal recipes memorized.

Just say that.

Someone your dating has his elderly mother sending meals daily? He cannot figure out how to feed his own kids or meal plan?

OP: his mom is in her 60's, but yes. It sounds more like a cultural tradition though (Lebanese).

If he is from a food-centric family, yes it is going to be a big deal. It is more than just not cooking it is that food is relatively unimportant to you. You will be judged and found wanting. Find a pasty- faced white boy whose Mother microwaved pot pies after a few gin and tonics, you’ll be happier.

[Anonymous]

I hate cooking. I am a divorced mom of two dating a man who loves to cook. Not an issue. We don't live together but I don't anticipate that changing once we do.