If you spend 20K+ a year on clothing for yourself...

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Anonymous wrote:If you spend that much on clothes, but are worried that you're missing out on freebies, you can't really afford to spend that much on clothes.

You obviously arent rich. Rich people still like deals

Actually I am rich and I have no idea how much I spend on clothes which is why I asked the question. I see something I like, sometimes I buy it. DH and I have had relationships with people at Nordstrom and NM in the past when they'd let us know when something we'd like was coming in or if we wanted something put aside before a big sale. But the pandemic has changed both our spending patterns and big retail.

In my experience, it can be very helpful to develop relationships with Nordstrom sales managers in your favorite department. I hear the same about Bergdorf and Barneys but I don't live in NYC.

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Anonymous wrote:Serious question: how much do you donate to charity each year?

No one owes a charity donation. You spend your money how you want and let others do the same.

I'm sorry, but, having worked for a number of non-profits, most are just entities designed to keep their employees employed. Give your housekeeper a big bonus instead. Total waste of money in many cases.

Where did the PP specify non-profits? There are many ways to be charitable. And clearly you are not "sorry".

20k *a year* on clothes is excessive and gross. Just is. Don't try to justify it. It's ghastly. That was really the first PPs point and it is well taken.

No one *deserves* to have so much money that they spend $20k on clothes *every year* when so many people in this world have so little.

I can’t believe people actually think this way.

Please share your HHI, expenses and how much you give to charity every year so we can judge your choices for how you live your life.

What? You can't believe that most people would find spending $20k A YEAR on clothes for themselves garish and repellant?

Get a grip. It's awful on so many levels! Greedy, wasteful, awful for the environment...

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I don’t spend this much on clothes, and never would. BUT, I fully support your right to spend your money however you want and to post in a message board about fashion with questions that are relevant to you. To you bitter losers that think it’s any if your business how much money OP has…and how they spend it…your arrogance is truly frightening. Crawl back into your hole. Or, better yet…let me know when you’re donating all your possessions to charity and modeling your life like Mother Theresa’s. You’re a bunch of bitter hypocrites.

Nope. That kind of wastefulness is gross.

It is sad that people like you can only imagine this kind of reaction as coming from a place of bitterness rather than a completely different take on what is worthwhile in this world, a different sense of responsibility etc. How sad you are.

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Anonymous wrote:Serious question: how much do you donate to charity each year?

Very little and that will not change. I spend my money on ME and an unapologetic about that.

Yikes.

I don’t even think $20K is that outlandish a number for clothes, but geez, this thread has drawn out some seriously sh*tty people.

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Anonymous wrote:Serious question: how much do you donate to charity each year?

Very little and that will not change. I spend my money on ME and an unapologetic about that.

Yikes.

I don’t even think $20K is that outlandish a number for clothes, but geez, this thread has drawn out some seriously sh*tty people.

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Also there are plenty of people here who regularly talk of having HHI well over 1 million. I don't think spending 20K annually on clothes at that HHI is a big deal.

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I think it's the per year that's got people grumpy. Presumably you'd be able to get your core wardrobe then add to it, rather than spend $20k per year.

At a certain point, you're just buying the same sorts of things. So, it seems silly.

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OP here.

Ugh, I messed up with this thread. Sorry. I shouldn't have made the focus on the number.

My question was just whether it was worth consolidating my shopping to a single store for benefits that aren't a discount (ie, concierge services), and whether any one had done that at higher end stores (Neiman Marcus, Bergdorf Goodman, Saks, etc).

Spending $$ on clothes is definitely my guilty pleasure but I know there are plenty of women around here who spend more than I do (though, perhaps they don't realize it if they've never added it up!) and I thought someone might have some thoughts on this.

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Anonymous wrote:Serious question: how much do you donate to charity each year?

No one owes a charity donation. You spend your money how you want and let others do the same.

I'm sorry, but, having worked for a number of non-profits, most are just entities designed to keep their employees employed. Give your housekeeper a big bonus instead. Total waste of money in many cases.

Where did the PP specify non-profits? There are many ways to be charitable. And clearly you are not "sorry".

20k *a year* on clothes is excessive and gross. Just is. Don't try to justify it. It's ghastly. That was really the first PPs point and it is well taken.

No one *deserves* to have so much money that they spend $20k on clothes *every year* when so many people in this world have so little.

I can’t believe people actually think this way.

Please share your HHI, expenses and how much you give to charity every year so we can judge your choices for how you live your life.

What? You can't believe that most people would find spending $20k A YEAR on clothes for themselves garish and repellant?

Get a grip. It's awful on so many levels! Greedy, wasteful, awful for the environment...

What you don’t know about clothing and retail is a lot.

Fyi - cheap, fast fashion from J crew is way, way worse for the environment, labor practises, etc., than paying for designer fashion bought from a house. You have literally got it bass ackward.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, I doubt I have spent that amount on clothes over my entire lifetime!

I'm the same. I've never spent more than $120 on a pair of shoes. I'm not "a poor". I'm also not fashionable and not thin. This means I do not enjoy shopping and just hope to find something that isn't hideous.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Ugh, I messed up with this thread. Sorry. I shouldn't have made the focus on the number.

My question was just whether it was worth consolidating my shopping to a single store for benefits that aren't a discount (ie, concierge services), and whether any one had done that at higher end stores (Neiman Marcus, Bergdorf Goodman, Saks, etc).

Spending $$ on clothes is definitely my guilty pleasure but I know there are plenty of women around here who spend more than I do (though, perhaps they don't realize it if they've never added it up!) and I thought someone might have some thoughts on this.

Yes, when something is available elsewhere and also Nordstrom (for same price, which is usually), then I buy through Nordstrom. Works well for me, although to be honest, I’m not making use of all the benefits.

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Anonymous wrote:Who is buying a $3000 coat and where the heck are you going that you have a need for it along with a new handbag every year?

FWIW I buy at J Crew and J Jill and they have rewards programs- might get free shipping or a feee scarf! Lol

Not OP, but this past year I bought a BEAUTIFUL Burberry coat that was $4k and a Christian Dior full length Mink vest for $11K. Where do I where them? The Burberry coat when I go out to a nice lunch - it is WARM! The mink rarely, but it's a statement piece. I wore it to the Kennedy Center for the Leslie Odom concert and people stopped me the piece is so stunning.

I also have several other bombers and reasonably priced coats. I have a lot of coats.

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Anonymous wrote:If you spend that much on clothes, but are worried that you're missing out on freebies, you can't really afford to spend that much on clothes.

You obviously arent rich. Rich people still like deals

Actually I am rich and I have no idea how much I spend on clothes which is why I asked the question. I see something I like, sometimes I buy it. DH and I have had relationships with people at Nordstrom and NM in the past when they'd let us know when something we'd like was coming in or if we wanted something put aside before a big sale. But the pandemic has changed both our spending patterns and big retail.

In my experience, it can be very helpful to develop relationships with Nordstrom sales managers in your favorite department. I hear the same about Bergdorf and Barneys but I don't live in NYC.

Don't listen to the haters. Some years I spend $20K some years I don't. I consign when I get tired of something so I never truly lose all of the money spent on the item. I also buy expensive consignments as well. I like quality clothes and can tell the difference.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, if i had your budget i would hire an independent stylist that would curate MY look and not be worried about hitting sales quotas or pushing certain items. Whatever perks a store offers are mostly geared to benefit the store.

Also, often expensive clothing is beautifully designed and constructed. Thank god for those who can afford to keep the creative fields (and the myriad of people who work in them) alive.

This. I would not worry about consolidating spending, I would be most interested in getting the best outfits for me. I would want outfits put together from various collections so that my look would be individualized. If not an independent stylist, I would use personal shoppers from multiple stores.

FWIW, I don't live this lifestyle either, but I have friends that go to partner dinners, fundraising galas, White House events, so they need a lot of new stylish clothes and accessories -- plus tailoring which can be $$$ for short women -- so they probably spend close to this annually. $20K will not buy an entire wardrobe of high end clothes, so for the PPs who thought this would be an outrageous amount of clothes to buy each year, it's not, if someone who lives the kind of lifestyle where they would buy a $1000 dress.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Ugh, I messed up with this thread. Sorry. I shouldn't have made the focus on the number.

My question was just whether it was worth consolidating my shopping to a single store for benefits that aren't a discount (ie, concierge services), and whether any one had done that at higher end stores (Neiman Marcus, Bergdorf Goodman, Saks, etc).

Spending $$ on clothes is definitely my guilty pleasure but I know there are plenty of women around here who spend more than I do (though, perhaps they don't realize it if they've never added it up!) and I thought someone might have some thoughts on this.

OP - Honestly, I think you are in such a rarified atmosphere, very few people will useful advice.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I don’t spend this much on clothes, and never would. BUT, I fully support your right to spend your money however you want and to post in a message board about fashion with questions that are relevant to you. To you bitter losers that think it’s any if your business how much money OP has…and how they spend it…your arrogance is truly frightening. Crawl back into your hole. Or, better yet…let me know when you’re donating all your possessions to charity and modeling your life like Mother Theresa’s. You’re a bunch of bitter hypocrites.

Nope. That kind of wastefulness is gross.

It is sad that people like you can only imagine this kind of reaction as coming from a place of bitterness rather than a completely different take on what is worthwhile in this world, a different sense of responsibility etc. How sad you are.

Not OP or the above poster!
No, how sad are YOU!
Why should what YOU believe is worthwhile dictate what others do!
I may not spend as much as OP on clothing BUT I respect her right to do so.

You do YOU; let her do HER!

Get off of your high moral mountain and STOP being so dang judgemental!🤬