Did you meet your spouse too young?
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Anonymous
| Met when 23, married at 24. So not terribly young but honestly I’m not sure I would have gotten married at all, knowing what I know now. |
Anonymous
| I met him at 19, married at 23 and he was 27. Yes, I believe I was too young and lacking life experience. Still married 20 years later with kids, I am not interested or prepared to divorce and start over. It’s unfathomable. |
Anonymous
Because those that did respond are likely to be the same ones giving advice in dating threads based on their own very limited and frankly irrelevant experience, it explains why much of the dating advice is so terrible. |
Anonymous
Only if you assume the same people responding here are the ones giving dating advice. |
Anonymous
It's good you stay out of the dating advice. I'm undecided on the marriage advice, in my experience, the people who marry young often have extremely toxic marriages and the advice they give is based in that toxic. Great if you have been married 22+ years and it's a healthy relationship offer advice, but too often the advice perpetuates codependency and borderline abusive if not abusive behavior. |
Anonymous
They likely are. |
Anonymous
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Give me a break. There are a ton of people on here, most haven’t been married since their early 20s. These people aren’t responsible for your terrible relationship or poor advice.
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Anonymous
I didn't say I had a terrible relationship thanks to DCUM. I said the dating advice is generally bad and this thread explains it, and very frequently the dating advice sounds like it was given by someone who hasn't dated since their late teens or early 20s or who last went on a date 20 ( or more) years ago. My opinion isn't going to change and I don't care if your married at 20 feelings are hurt by it, you may as well stop replying to me because you are wasting your time. |
Anonymous
| I won’t give advice on dating or marriage even though I have been married two decades. It’s different for everyone, very subjective. I am unhappy right now probably because I married so young so I wouldn’t recommend it, that’s it. |
Anonymous
"Likely"? Where's your proof? |
Anonymous
My parents married young their advice to all of us was not to get married before 30. My mom's biggest regret is that she essentially went from her parents' house to being a housewife, she didn't have time to develop on her own. |
Anonymous
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23.
I was young but I slutted it up enough from 18-23 that I don’t feel I missed out on anything. |
Anonymous
Ha, I was 23 too but never slutted it up at all. Sometimes I wish I had because now I feel like a nun. |
Anonymous
. In fairness OP asked about meeting young, not marrying young. |
Anonymous
Sounds like a different era. I had a graduate degree, several years of work experience and my own apartment when I married at 25. |