Did you meet your spouse too young?
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Anonymous
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I was 23, DH was 21 when we met. Got married at 27 and 25.
I do not feel that we met or married too young. We’ve been married almost 10 years now and have 3 kids. I had a HS boyfriend I met when I was 16 (he was 18) and we broke up 2 years later because, though I loved him, I wanted to experience being a grown up alone and I didn’t want him to be the last man I dated. |
Anonymous
| Met at 18, married at 28, and have now been together a total of almost 20 years. We are very happily married and I’d never want to be with anyone else and I’m pretty confident he feels the same. However, I do sometimes wonder “what if” as I’d only dated 2 guys prior to my husband and they were not that serious HS boys so I do sometimes think it would’ve been nice if we’d met a bit later in life and had a bit more experience first before settling down. I’d only wish for that IF we could still have the wonderful life together we currently do and nothing else would be different at all though. But I’m a very sexual person so I think I would’ve liked to “play the field” a bit more. But most of the time I don’t think about it. |
Anonymous
| Met at age 4, married at 20. Married 55 years. Still both in love and have beautiful children and grandchildren |
Anonymous
| Probably, but we are happy, so it’s worked out. No reason to look back now. |
Anonymous
Here you go: me: 24 spouse: 19 absolutely wish I could have a “do-over”. spouse is a good person, but both of us are very different and spouse has traits that were overlooked when I was young. I wish I would have waited until I was older and had more dating experience. |
Anonymous
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I don’t think it’s about being too young in my case. It’s about not knowing what things to look for, such as conflict/trauma/ mental health issues in family of origin; money; approach to conflict resolution; whether this person feels safe, secure, and loved prior to the relationship.
If I could do it again I’d pick a different person. I love my spouse but the marriage is not easy and frankly it’s just another thing on my plate to deal with that saps my life energy. |
Anonymous
| Met at 15, started dating that year, married at 25 and still together at 35 with a child. Wouldn't change it for anything. |
Anonymous
| Met at 19, married at 22. 13 years later and zero regrets, I love that we grew up together. |
Anonymous
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Met 18 and 19, married 22 and 23. Married for 17 years with 2 kids, no regrets. Marriage is work, but we love each other.
I am glad I did not have to do the dating scene after college at bars or online. I am glad we met in college and got married after graduation. |
Anonymous
| This thread explains so much of the bad advice given in this forum, so many of you are completely clueless when it comes to dating. |
Anonymous
+1 100% a very good reminder. Explains a lot. |
Anonymous
Met at 22, together ever since (over 20 years). I don’t offer dating advice here. Marriage advice, yes. Not dating. |
Anonymous
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Met at 21, married at 25. I think we both realized that the other person was The One and no one better would ever come along. But we both wished we had met a little later in life. After 2 years of dating we were so ready to get married but knew we were too young. We had a lot of grief over getting married at 25 (after dating for 4 years). My parents didn’t want to pay for a wedding before 30 so we paid for everything ourselves and were a bit broke.
But it all worked out perfectly. Still totally in love 15 years later. |
Anonymous
| 22 and no. I had dated a lot of awful men before that. I never, ever look around and see anyone better. |
Anonymous
Because 25 people responded? |