If you have dated a 30+ man in your teens and early twenties

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:18 and he was 36. I didn’t feel the age difference at all. He was the nicest, sweetest guy and we just sort of met at the wrong point in our lives. He was married (unhappily), I was clearly too young for him to have a real relationship. I was smitten with him and I think he enjoyed feeling youthful with me. We had so many common interests and it just felt normal. We’d spend whatever time we could together. I still think about him all the time and will sneak a peek at his FB to see what’s going on in his life. I was completely in love with him at 18 but I knew it wasn’t going to last. I broke it off when I graduated high school and was heading to college. Married now 15 yrs two kids. I still fantasize about running into him one day and seeing him again.

Disgusting

[Anonymous]

I was 21 and he was 45. All we did was have sex and eat. Not a bad 2 years but I gained 10 lbs and learned I was allergic to his sperm when he’s come inside me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:18 and he was 36. I didn’t feel the age difference at all. He was the nicest, sweetest guy and we just sort of met at the wrong point in our lives. He was married (unhappily), I was clearly too young for him to have a real relationship. I was smitten with him and I think he enjoyed feeling youthful with me. We had so many common interests and it just felt normal. We’d spend whatever time we could together. I still think about him all the time and will sneak a peek at his FB to see what’s going on in his life. I was completely in love with him at 18 but I knew it wasn’t going to last. I broke it off when I graduated high school and was heading to college. Married now 15 yrs two kids. I still fantasize about running into him one day and seeing him again.

It's disturbing now that as someone who is probably 36+ doesn't see this for what it was ( grooming, exploitation etc, a man engaging in an affair with a teenager etc) instead of some romance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:18 and he was 36. I didn’t feel the age difference at all. He was the nicest, sweetest guy and we just sort of met at the wrong point in our lives. He was married (unhappily), I was clearly too young for him to have a real relationship. I was smitten with him and I think he enjoyed feeling youthful with me. We had so many common interests and it just felt normal. We’d spend whatever time we could together. I still think about him all the time and will sneak a peek at his FB to see what’s going on in his life. I was completely in love with him at 18 but I knew it wasn’t going to last. I broke it off when I graduated high school and was heading to college. Married now 15 yrs two kids. I still fantasize about running into him one day and seeing him again.

How have you not grown up and become wiser than you were at 18?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:18 and he was 36. I didn’t feel the age difference at all. He was the nicest, sweetest guy and we just sort of met at the wrong point in our lives. He was married (unhappily), I was clearly too young for him to have a real relationship. I was smitten with him and I think he enjoyed feeling youthful with me. We had so many common interests and it just felt normal. We’d spend whatever time we could together. I still think about him all the time and will sneak a peek at his FB to see what’s going on in his life. I was completely in love with him at 18 but I knew it wasn’t going to last. I broke it off when I graduated high school and was heading to college. Married now 15 yrs two kids. I still fantasize about running into him one day and seeing him again.

How have you not grown up and become wiser than you were at 18?

Yeah…I’m glad you aren’t traumatized by it but this is clearly pretty disturbing behavior. He engaged in an “affair” with a HS student. I’m hesitant to even call it an affair because only one person was a fully formed adult who could comprehend the gravity of the situation.

[Anonymous]

I was 22, he was 34. We both drank too much. I had issues, he REALLY had issues - but was very wealthy, successful and good looking. It blew up in a very messy and prolonged breakup, and I am so thankful that it did. Now in my 30s and look back on his abusive, controlling behavior with disgust. No one his age would have put up with his nonsense and he liked that I didn't have a clue. I have empathy for my younger self and am glad I dragged my butt to therapy after that breakup, because it allowed me to sort out my issues and end up happily married to my similar aged husband in my late 20s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is so amusing because it brings to mind all the guys on here who talk about dating much younger after divorce or who have APs who are much younger. It’s actually refreshing that most of the women look back and realize they had daddy issues - the guys on here should take note.

But the fact that so many women were in these relationships, and quite a few still have fond memories. just goes to disprove the regular "ewww" and typical "no one wants to date a man XX years older" that we frequently see in numerous threads.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread is so amusing because it brings to mind all the guys on here who talk about dating much younger after divorce or who have APs who are much younger. It’s actually refreshing that most of the women look back and realize they had daddy issues - the guys on here should take note.

But the fact that so many women were in these relationships, and quite a few still have fond memories. just goes to disprove the regular "ewww" and typical "no one wants to date a man XX years older" that we frequently see in numerous threads.

Clearly, you haven't read the thread or have a very different definition of fond memories than most people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread is so amusing because it brings to mind all the guys on here who talk about dating much younger after divorce or who have APs who are much younger. It’s actually refreshing that most of the women look back and realize they had daddy issues - the guys on here should take note.

But the fact that so many women were in these relationships, and quite a few still have fond memories. just goes to disprove the regular "ewww" and typical "no one wants to date a man XX years older" that we frequently see in numerous threads.

No, it's just one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:18 and he was 36. I didn’t feel the age difference at all. He was the nicest, sweetest guy and we just sort of met at the wrong point in our lives. He was married (unhappily), I was clearly too young for him to have a real relationship. I was smitten with him and I think he enjoyed feeling youthful with me. We had so many common interests and it just felt normal. We’d spend whatever time we could together. I still think about him all the time and will sneak a peek at his FB to see what’s going on in his life. I was completely in love with him at 18 but I knew it wasn’t going to last. I broke it off when I graduated high school and was heading to college. Married now 15 yrs two kids. I still fantasize about running into him one day and seeing him again.

Disgusting

She still does not get it, sad. I wonder if that relationship stunted her emotional growth or maybe her daddy issues did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread is so amusing because it brings to mind all the guys on here who talk about dating much younger after divorce or who have APs who are much younger. It’s actually refreshing that most of the women look back and realize they had daddy issues - the guys on here should take note.

But the fact that so many women were in these relationships, and quite a few still have fond memories. just goes to disprove the regular "ewww" and typical "no one wants to date a man XX years older" that we frequently see in numerous threads.

Nobody that is emotionally healthy wants too, of course there are daddy issues.

An NBA player once said, Dear Mr. Kardashian, thanks! (for all the daddy issues)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I dated a man who was 35 when I was 22. We didn’t date long. I mostly remember that his friends did NOT like me.

Why didn’t they like you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When this happens it's because the guy is gross. Period. Even if you ended up marrying him. He's still pathetic and gross.

Do you think the sand thing about women dating younger men? If not, you’re sexist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread is so amusing because it brings to mind all the guys on here who talk about dating much younger after divorce or who have APs who are much younger. It’s actually refreshing that most of the women look back and realize they had daddy issues - the guys on here should take note.

But the fact that so many women were in these relationships, and quite a few still have fond memories. just goes to disprove the regular "ewww" and typical "no one wants to date a man XX years older" that we frequently see in numerous threads.

No, it's just one.

I find it fascinating that of all the responses, every single woman regrets it UNLESS they married him (save for the one creepy exception). I wonder if an objective therapist looking in at those “happy” marriages that were formed between adults and children would agree that the marriages are healthy.

[Anonymous]

Those of you dating men in their thirties when you were teens must have hidden this from your parents, correct? My parents would have put an end to that pretty quickly, not to mention that it would be statutory rape in many states, including Virginia , if you were under 18