wife cheated - should I expose her on social?

[Anonymous]

Burn it down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Since she has a big social media following and is essentially using it to defame you, I think you are within your rights to make a statement.
I may even go as far as contacting a lawyer and get them to send her a little letter.

Except she isn't. OP says that she's not saying anything bad about him, it's her followers who are speculating.

Yes, but she isn't deleting those comments is she?

So? She didn't post them, and you'd have to argue that she's somehow responsible for everything that anyone posts on her social media accounts. That's not really how it works. Unless she explicitly says she's moderating her feed and will delete posts she doesn't agree with, her silence isn't likely to be construed as consent.

[Anonymous]

Acknowledge that while the baby was conceived during the marriage, the baby is the son of her ex boyfriend and not yours. Wish them well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Since she has a big social media following and is essentially using it to defame you, I think you are within your rights to make a statement.
I may even go as far as contacting a lawyer and get them to send her a little letter.

Except she isn't. OP says that she's not saying anything bad about him, it's her followers who are speculating.

Yes, but she isn't deleting those comments is she?

So? She didn't post them, and you'd have to argue that she's somehow responsible for everything that anyone posts on her social media accounts. That's not really how it works. Unless she explicitly says she's moderating her feed and will delete posts she doesn't agree with, her silence isn't likely to be construed as consent.

Her silence is consent, and yes you can be held accountable for comments people leave on your social media page.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Since she has a big social media following and is essentially using it to defame you, I think you are within your rights to make a statement.
I may even go as far as contacting a lawyer and get them to send her a little letter.

Except she isn't. OP says that she's not saying anything bad about him, it's her followers who are speculating.

And she's allowing it. She could shut the talk down but she isn't.

[Anonymous]

Look at all the cheating wives who are now afraid their ex might blow up their spot and let the world know they got pregnant by a man not their husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP needs to date other women and to meet someone decent. Imagine how spooky it would be for his future dates read all this crap about him abandoning his pregnant ex-wife ?
I would certainly make a respectful softened statement somewhere that he’s not the father. It’s not OPs concern that future kids’ classmates find out the mom was a wh… they may not even find it, a few years after

And this is why he should say something.

[Anonymous]

The answer to your question is no, you should not.

[Anonymous]

Yes, you should say something. Draft a statement that is short and makes the situation clear with a lawyer and leave it at that

[Anonymous]

Are you 12?

[Anonymous]

I was in a similar situation but in your wife's shoes. Ex wanted to post all over how I was a cheater or whatever.

If your wife makes money off of her social media following, you can get in big trouble for interfering with her ability to earn income. That's illegal. It's like calling her place of employment to report her for cheating, either it'll do nothing, or she can come after you for the money she lost as a result.

Judges also hate petty stuff like that. If you go to court and whine about what she said on social media, it's going to reflect poorly on you.

Also, it just makes you look petty and more at fault. Ex tried to expose me to many people and the vast majority just thought he was crazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was in a similar situation but in your wife's shoes. Ex wanted to post all over how I was a cheater or whatever.

If your wife makes money off of her social media following, you can get in big trouble for interfering with her ability to earn income. That's illegal. It's like calling her place of employment to report her for cheating, either it'll do nothing, or she can come after you for the money she lost as a result.

Judges also hate petty stuff like that. If you go to court and whine about what she said on social media, it's going to reflect poorly on you.

Also, it just makes you look petty and more at fault. Ex tried to expose me to many people and the vast majority just thought he was crazy.

A cheater trying to scare another person into hiding a cheater.

[Anonymous]

Posting something publicly is incredibly trashy. The only ones who will advocate for this are the scorned ex-wives on DCUM who are caught up in their own revenge fantasy.

I think it's reasonable to consult your lawyer about sending her a legal notice directly. I'm not a lawyer but other PPs seem to think she could be liable for comments on her posts, so you could see what your lawyer thinks about options that force her to either make a statement or delete the comments disparaging you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was in a similar situation but in your wife's shoes. Ex wanted to post all over how I was a cheater or whatever.

If your wife makes money off of her social media following, you can get in big trouble for interfering with her ability to earn income. That's illegal. It's like calling her place of employment to report her for cheating, either it'll do nothing, or she can come after you for the money she lost as a result.

Judges also hate petty stuff like that. If you go to court and whine about what she said on social media, it's going to reflect poorly on you.

Also, it just makes you look petty and more at fault. Ex tried to expose me to many people and the vast majority just thought he was crazy.

Not if he states facts, like I’m not the father of her child conceived while we were married

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was in a similar situation but in your wife's shoes. Ex wanted to post all over how I was a cheater or whatever.

If your wife makes money off of her social media following, you can get in big trouble for interfering with her ability to earn income. That's illegal. It's like calling her place of employment to report her for cheating, either it'll do nothing, or she can come after you for the money she lost as a result.

Judges also hate petty stuff like that. If you go to court and whine about what she said on social media, it's going to reflect poorly on you.

Also, it just makes you look petty and more at fault. Ex tried to expose me to many people and the vast majority just thought he was crazy.

A cheater trying to scare another person into hiding a cheater.

Yep. You can’t shame the shameless.