wife cheated - should I expose her on social?

[Anonymous]

Wife cheated and had a baby with an ex that she hooked up with while visiting her parents for Christmas last year.
She kept the baby and neither one of them say they want to be together. I filed for divorce shortly after the baby was born.
My parents knew what was up, but I don't think her parents know/believe what happened. I think they are willfully playing ignorant.
She told her parents that the child was from a "donor."

She has a pretty big social media following (insta, youtube, etc.) and she went on social to announce the divorce and has been posting about how hard it is to be a single mother but how she is being strong for the baby because he is the most important thing.

She didn't directly say anything bad about me; however, all the commenters assumed I was at fault and they have made up all the various scenarios about how I must have been... abusive, or cheated, or controlling, etc. and how she is better off without me... There are people donating money to her because she has implied that she doesn't have any help to support herself. She hasn't deleted any of those sorts of comments. She leaves them up and it just becomes given that I'm wrong and she is a victim.

I don't like being vilified and I don't want all the rumors hanging around about me.

Should I post the txt messages and pictures I have that show what she was up to??

[Anonymous]

For what?

The people who follow her on Insta don't care about the real you or the truth anyways.

[Anonymous]

It won’t end well. Why are you still following her on SM? Just disengage completely.

You don’t have to cover for her IRL, but don’t try to set the record straight online.

[Anonymous]

Yeah go get her!

[Anonymous]

This sounds fake. Get a divorce and move on. Get a paternity test asap.

[Anonymous]

If you do that it will only reflect badly on you, and I say that as someone who was also cheated on. Based on my experience:

1. Stop looking at her social media
2. If you feel like she is damaging your reputation in some meaningful way, talk to a lawyer about your options
3. Move on and live your best life

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It won’t end well. Why are you still following her on SM? Just disengage completely.

You don’t have to cover for her IRL, but don’t try to set the record straight online.

This, exactly this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wife cheated and had a baby with an ex that she hooked up with while visiting her parents for Christmas last year.
She kept the baby and neither one of them say they want to be together. I filed for divorce shortly after the baby was born.
My parents knew what was up, but I don't think her parents know/believe what happened. I think they are willfully playing ignorant.
She told her parents that the child was from a "donor."

She has a pretty big social media following (insta, youtube, etc.) and she went on social to announce the divorce and has been posting about how hard it is to be a single mother but how she is being strong for the baby because he is the most important thing.

She didn't directly say anything bad about me; however, all the commenters assumed I was at fault and they have made up all the various scenarios about how I must have been... abusive, or cheated, or controlling, etc. and how she is better off without me... There are people donating money to her because she has implied that she doesn't have any help to support herself. She hasn't deleted any of those sorts of comments. She leaves them up and it just becomes given that I'm wrong and she is a victim.

I don't like being vilified and I don't want all the rumors hanging around about me.

Should I post the txt messages and pictures I have that show what she was up to??

I would first tell her she needs to make it clear to her followers that the divorce is not because of anything you did wrong and she needs to delete any nasty comments. You can tell her if she doesn’t, you can get your lawyer involved. But don’t post anything yourself. That’ll just cause drama.

[Anonymous]

Op I know you are angry however you should move on. You are letting her win by still focusing on her.

[Anonymous]

I know someone who was in a similar situation (as the wife/mom)... In that case, I believe a lot of people knew. No one was going to call her out for it, and the kid doesn't deserve an grief regardless. Let it lie. It would only feel good for a second.

[Anonymous]

No, OP. What would be your purpose in that. Divorcre and move on.

[Anonymous]

You are in full right to make a statement on your online account that the baby is not yours and that divorce was amicable and you remain good friends. Link it to her social media via an anonymous account.

I would not want my future partners think I dumped my wife with my baby in tow

[Anonymous]

What? NO, that is super trashy. Don't put your personal laundry on social media, jeez. Get a lawyer if you need to address defamation or slander.

[Anonymous]

No. I know what you think you are doing but in the end, both of you will look like trash.

[Anonymous]

Trust me. Everyone will know. No need to take drastic measures.

Gossip like that travels fast. Just side mention it to someone you know who loves juicy gossip (because it is certainly juicy!). Let them take care of it for you.