wife cheated - should I expose her on social?

[Anonymous]

No. High road.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Expose her on dcum so we know who it is.

[Anonymous]

Since she has a big social media following and is essentially using it to defame you, I think you are within your rights to make a statement.
I may even go as far as contacting a lawyer and get them to send her a little letter.

[Anonymous]

I would say, “Hopefully the baby’s dad steps up to help you parent.”

And leave it at that. Definitely send her parents a note wishing them the best, and feeling bad that your relationship ended because of her relationship with baby Larlo’s father.

Then gray rock all of them

[Anonymous]

No, it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to tell what happened. Since she had the baby while you were married, did you have to be in the biryhcc Bc err as the father and pay child support?

[Anonymous]

You sound like the crazy abusive person she makes you out to be. Stop it now and live your own life. Nobody cares, but you!
You cannot make her look bad nicely without making yourself look bad. You look bad and I don't know either of you.
You should have moved on long ago and dating again if that's what you wish.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't. The only reason I say that is because there's a kid involved and social media is forever. Just move on to better things.

When it comes down to explanations, friends don't need them and enemies don't care.

[Anonymous]

I would just let people know she had a baby with someone else, while you were married

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you do that it will only reflect badly on you, and I say that as someone who was also cheated on. Based on my experience:

1. Stop looking at her social media
2. If you feel like she is damaging your reputation in some meaningful way, talk to a lawyer about your options
3. Move on and live your best life

This.

You are hurt and angry.

But you should be uninterested in her life.

Trying to trash her will just make look worse, which you don't need right now. Disengage.

Try talking to trusted friends or family members. Or go to therapy. I hope that you can move on in the not too distant future.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wife cheated and had a baby with an ex that she hooked up with while visiting her parents for Christmas last year.
She kept the baby and neither one of them say they want to be together. I filed for divorce shortly after the baby was born.
My parents knew what was up, but I don't think her parents know/believe what happened. I think they are willfully playing ignorant.
She told her parents that the child was from a "donor."

She has a pretty big social media following (insta, youtube, etc.) and she went on social to announce the divorce and has been posting about how hard it is to be a single mother but how she is being strong for the baby because he is the most important thing.

She didn't directly say anything bad about me; however, all the commenters assumed I was at fault and they have made up all the various scenarios about how I must have been... abusive, or cheated, or controlling, etc. and how she is better off without me... There are people donating money to her because she has implied that she doesn't have any help to support herself. She hasn't deleted any of those sorts of comments. She leaves them up and it just becomes given that I'm wrong and she is a victim.

I don't like being vilified and I don't want all the rumors hanging around about me.

Should I post the txt messages and pictures I have that show what she was up to??

Yes. Blow her up.

[Anonymous]

All you no votes wouldn't be saying this if this was a wife posting about her ex DH and you know it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't. The only reason I say that is because there's a kid involved and social media is forever. Just move on to better things.

When it comes down to explanations, friends don't need them and enemies don't care.

Not OP's problem. And in order to move on it's in OP's best interest to make it clear that he didn't abandon his ex with a child.

[Anonymous]

OP needs to date other women and to meet someone decent. Imagine how spooky it would be for his future dates read all this crap about him abandoning his pregnant ex-wife ?
I would certainly make a respectful softened statement somewhere that he’s not the father. It’s not OPs concern that future kids’ classmates find out the mom was a wh… they may not even find it, a few years after

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Since she has a big social media following and is essentially using it to defame you, I think you are within your rights to make a statement.
I may even go as far as contacting a lawyer and get them to send her a little letter.

Except she isn't. OP says that she's not saying anything bad about him, it's her followers who are speculating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Since she has a big social media following and is essentially using it to defame you, I think you are within your rights to make a statement.
I may even go as far as contacting a lawyer and get them to send her a little letter.

Except she isn't. OP says that she's not saying anything bad about him, it's her followers who are speculating.

Yes, but she isn't deleting those comments is she?