I haven't heard from my boyfriend since Friday night

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This would not make a bad plot for a mystery/suspense novel. Hmmm.

And creating a bogus thread here is a way to create an alibi for the OP to try and raise doubt that she had nothing to do with his disapperance...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"OP here. my cop friend has a colleague who works in maine and gave me their number so i can call and file a report. i also, finally found out the name of his employer and got an address to his parents house.


im going to wait on his uncle to respond to me on facebook and give him another few hours before i take action on these new developments. ill keep you informed."



this is what the fuck OP keeps doing as she gets new info. im starting to think this is complete bullshit after offering genuine advice.

Isn't the easiest and most obvious thing to call the employer and get them to check that he has been at work this week. OP could ask that they contact her or his next of kin to advise if he hasn't.

[Anonymous]

I've been with my SO for 5 years. At six months I didn't have any of his friends phone numbers, nor did I know his mother's full name- I still don't know exactly how to contact her, only his father. Not everyone has a great family. He definitely doesn't know how to find my mother. We have other emergency contacts, but they weren't in place that early. That being said, after 48 hours I'd be filing a missing person's report if he'd been gone in the woods.

After all this, OP, I'd be thinking about if you actually think a partner that hunts anything out of season, especially a non food animal for sport, is a good person. Breaking game laws just to shoot such a creature is a character flaw. That aside, he is still a human and could be hurt. I'm kinda hoping he got arrested, tho. Would serve him right and give you something to think about.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry op. He's just not into you. I was in your shoes once. My boyfriend of 6 months said he'd call me in an hour and never did. For a week I was worried and fb'd and called and asked friends. He had blocked me on Facebook so on my end it looked like he had not posted anything… But really he had blocked me seeing anything. Finally he had one of his friends respond to an email I sent looking for him making sure he was okay saying he is fine but he doesn't want to talk to you. I like that – no explanation nothing for two years. It really sucked. I know it's not what you want to hear. But trust me when I say calling the police and doing other things like that is really not going to do you any favors in the long run. Some guys are jerks. They don't like confrontation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op could drive 4 hours to get to this guy only to find that he is somewhere deep in the woods and completely unreachable to her. If he was hanging out in his house he would just pick up the phone, right?

What is driving out there going to do other than give this guy one less way to reach Op as she won't be home to pick up her home phone. I think I would try calling around. But if Op doesn't know where he works, doesn't know his family and friends....she may not know this guy well enough to be calling around asking people about him, kwim?

1) She could leave a message on her home phone letting him know that she was going to check on him
2) There are decent odds that if he is indeed "missing" he might have made it home and become incapacitated. Why the OP does not IMMEDIATELY call the cops in his town to do a wellness check I do not know. Especially since the "cop friend" told her to.

Would the cops do a wellness check on him based on a call from Op though? For a girlfriend the Op sure doesn't seem to know much about her boyfriend...like where he works, his friends'/relatives' contact info, etc.

[Anonymous]

Good points on the hunting seasons but honestly, he may not actually be in the woods hunting. If there's a casino or strip clubs nearby, that's reason enough for a few guys to head up to the cabin to go "hunting". Although that would cast doubt on his "uncle and grandfather" being his wingmen.

[Anonymous]

If OP now knows the name of the employer why wouldn't she call immediately to see if he's there? And it seems more likely that the boyfriend made it home but could be incapacitated at home because if all the hunters went missing in Maine don't you think word would have traveled to OP by now...either from the beau's family or the news?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op could drive 4 hours to get to this guy only to find that he is somewhere deep in the woods and completely unreachable to her. If he was hanging out in his house he would just pick up the phone, right?

What is driving out there going to do other than give this guy one less way to reach Op as she won't be home to pick up her home phone. I think I would try calling around. But if Op doesn't know where he works, doesn't know his family and friends....she may not know this guy well enough to be calling around asking people about him, kwim?

1) She could leave a message on her home phone letting him know that she was going to check on him
2) There are decent odds that if he is indeed "missing" he might have made it home and become incapacitated. Why the OP does not IMMEDIATELY call the cops in his town to do a wellness check I do not know. Especially since the "cop friend" told her to.

Would the cops do a wellness check on him based on a call from Op though? For a girlfriend the Op sure doesn't seem to know much about her boyfriend...like where he works, his friends'/relatives' contact info, etc.

Absolutely! Even her "cop friend" told her to do this. All she'd need is his address.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry op. He's just not into you. I was in your shoes once. My boyfriend of 6 months said he'd call me in an hour and never did. For a week I was worried and fb'd and called and asked friends. He had blocked me on Facebook so on my end it looked like he had not posted anything… But really he had blocked me seeing anything. Finally he had one of his friends respond to an email I sent looking for him making sure he was okay saying he is fine but he doesn't want to talk to you. I like that – no explanation nothing for two years. It really sucked. I know it's not what you want to hear. But trust me when I say calling the police and doing other things like that is really not going to do you any favors in the long run. Some guys are jerks. They don't like confrontation.

this right here.

OP ask your friends if they see updates from him his account. better yet, log off facebook and see if hes posted that way. sometimes when you arent logged on, you can see public comments or posts hes made recently.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If OP now knows the name of the employer why wouldn't she call immediately to see if he's there? And it seems more likely that the boyfriend made it home but could be incapacitated at home because if all the hunters went missing in Maine don't you think word would have traveled to OP by now...either from the beau's family or the news?

OP, if you don't call his work, we're done with you.
- Everyone

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"OP here. my cop friend has a colleague who works in maine and gave me their number so i can call and file a report. i also, finally found out the name of his employer and got an address to his parents house.


im going to wait on his uncle to respond to me on facebook and give him another few hours before i take action on these new developments. ill keep you informed."



this is what the fuck OP keeps doing as she gets new info. im starting to think this is complete bullshit after offering genuine advice.

Isn't the easiest and most obvious thing to call the employer and get them to check that he has been at work this week. OP could ask that they contact her or his next of kin to advise if he hasn't.

FYI, I made up the quote by the OP as an example of the foolishness shes been doing in this thread. that is not a genuine post by her. i made it up

[Anonymous]

OP here: im really embarrassed for those of you who are being complete assholes sitting behind your computer. I am not responding to the idiots who are trolling and posting the same BS shit again and again.

I have NEVER been in a situation like this before and am trying to figure out what I should do. I will gladly drive the 4 hours up there but I think I should try and reach out to whoever I can first and see if anyone knows anything. What is me driving 4 hours up there going to do if he actually is still in Maine? Nothing.

To the idiot saying I don't want to give the cops info because he does illegal activity, you sound like a moron. He told me they were bringing their hounds and going bobcat hunting and then they sell the skin. I had NO IDEA it wasn't bobcat hunting season as I don't hunt. Clearly im not thrilled now that I know it's not hunting season for them.

I cannot just sit around all day on my computer doing this, I have work and things to do also but I am putting as much into this as I can. I am trying to find phone numbers for family members whose names I know and see if i can call around and get any more info.

As far as calling the cops, I just don't know if that's something I should do at this point. I'm a girlfriend who lives 4 hours from my boyfriend and haven't heard from him in over 72 hour, idk how serious they will take me unless I'm a family member.

I'm going to start off by trying to call people related to him and go from there. In the mean time, his phone is still off and every FB message to him and his uncle has still been unread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry op. He's just not into you. I was in your shoes once. My boyfriend of 6 months said he'd call me in an hour and never did. For a week I was worried and fb'd and called and asked friends. He had blocked me on Facebook so on my end it looked like he had not posted anything… But really he had blocked me seeing anything. Finally he had one of his friends respond to an email I sent looking for him making sure he was okay saying he is fine but he doesn't want to talk to you. I like that – no explanation nothing for two years. It really sucked. I know it's not what you want to hear. But trust me when I say calling the police and doing other things like that is really not going to do you any favors in the long run. Some guys are jerks. They don't like confrontation.

I'm on the other side of this. My boyfriend was traveling overseas for work and said he would contact me when he landed. When he didn't, I wasn't too concerned since I figured it would be hard to call internationally. We too, had only been dating a few months. Fast forward 48 hours with no contact, I started to panic. I knew the company he worked for so I searched online for a contact there that could confirm his whereabouts. It was small company - based in India so extremely hard to get in touch with the right person over the phone so I just started firing off emails. Well...a few hours later I get an email from the President of the company that he was fine but in area that didn't have cell connection (or any sort of connection). I didn't end up hearing from him until a week later. 15 years later we're married so I don't think he was trying to dump me. I think sometimes things legitimately happen that take you off the map!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If OP now knows the name of the employer why wouldn't she call immediately to see if he's there? And it seems more likely that the boyfriend made it home but could be incapacitated at home because if all the hunters went missing in Maine don't you think word would have traveled to OP by now...either from the beau's family or the news?

OP, if you don't call his work, we're done with you.
- Everyone

OP here: HE WORKS FOR 2 PRIVATE FARMS. I do not know a number to call for them as he drives around for their farms and always just uses his cellphoje. If I could call his work, I would have by now.

[Anonymous]

OP, even if you're faking, can you please at least be sure to let us know eventually?

If it turns out badly for you, as in he cut you off, can you please let us know that as well?

I started out supporting you and I'm trying to hold out hope here, but it's fading quickly.