I haven't heard from my boyfriend since Friday night

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find it hard to believe you are not able to obtain a phone number for ANYONE he knows.

Agreed.

[Anonymous]

Op could drive 4 hours to get to this guy only to find that he is somewhere deep in the woods and completely unreachable to her. If he was hanging out in his house he would just pick up the phone, right?

What is driving out there going to do other than give this guy one less way to reach Op as she won't be home to pick up her home phone. I think I would try calling around. But if Op doesn't know where he works, doesn't know his family and friends....she may not know this guy well enough to be calling around asking people about him, kwim?

[Anonymous]

shes been looking for phone numbers for 2 days now.

[Anonymous]

Also, seriously OP, have you googled his name for arrest records in Maine?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here: just got off the phone with my friend who is a cop and he said my only two options really are to call the police where he lives and say I'm worried and see if they will go check out his house or to try and file a missing persons report.

I'm about to look up phone numbers for his uncle and aunt and see if I can get any hits with that.

& yes, I do know his moms name to the person asking again and again but that's not gonna get me anywhere. His uncle would be the first person he would contact in an emergency followed by his other uncle and then grandfather.

I'm gonna see what I can find for phone numbers and go from there.

Why would you not call his mom? I honestly don't understand that. Do you know where she lives (the town?) If so, you can call the cops in that town and let THEM know to inform her that her son is possibly missing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op could drive 4 hours to get to this guy only to find that he is somewhere deep in the woods and completely unreachable to her. If he was hanging out in his house he would just pick up the phone, right?

What is driving out there going to do other than give this guy one less way to reach Op as she won't be home to pick up her home phone. I think I would try calling around. But if Op doesn't know where he works, doesn't know his family and friends....she may not know this guy well enough to be calling around asking people about him, kwim?

1) She could leave a message on her home phone letting him know that she was going to check on him
2) There are decent odds that if he is indeed "missing" he might have made it home and become incapacitated. Why the OP does not IMMEDIATELY call the cops in his town to do a wellness check I do not know. Especially since the "cop friend" told her to.

[Anonymous]

OP, 4 hours is really not a big deal. Why haven't you left yet? You've probably spent more than 4 hours posting here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:shes been looking for phone numbers for 2 days now.

The authorities need to be involved if he's been missing for 48 hours.

[Anonymous]

If OP isn't willing to make a phone call or do a few google searches, you think she's going to drive for 4 hours?

[Anonymous]

OP it's been this long and you still haven't actually done anything. This leads me to wonder.. are you having doubts?

Personally I would be livid at this point. He was supposed to contact you Sunday night, it's now Tuesday morning. Unless he's ill, injured or has been arrested there is no explanation good enough. My guess? You're not a priority, you may not even be the only girlfriend.

[Anonymous]

I got $20 says the OP isn't even a side chick much less a girlfriend. I think they were dating website chat buddies and she got infatuated - 6 months Facebook messages and a few phone calls and she's like, 'Yay he's my boyfriend!"
Everything was going so well until that Skype chat...
Then out of nowhere he said he was going hunting in Maine with his uncle and now he won't answer his phone...how strange.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If OP isn't willing to make a phone call or do a few google searches, you think she's going to drive for 4 hours?

She's hiding something too. Either she's the side piece or she knows that he would not want the authorities notified if something happened to him. My guess is that he's routinely involved with a criminal enterprise and wouldn't want cops poking around.

[Anonymous]

This would not make a bad plot for a mystery/suspense novel. Hmmm.

[Anonymous]

"OP here. my cop friend has a colleague who works in maine and gave me their number so i can call and file a report. i also, finally found out the name of his employer and got an address to his parents house.


im going to wait on his uncle to respond to me on facebook and give him another few hours before i take action on these new developments. ill keep you informed."



this is what the fuck OP keeps doing as she gets new info. im starting to think this is complete bullshit after offering genuine advice.

[Anonymous]

Hope the boyfriend isn't writhing in pain on the floor of his house while the OP dithers around waiting for the uncle to respond.