15 year old hanging with adults all night- is this normal?

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Anonymous wrote:Why does everyone keep yammering on about the 15 year old babysitting? The kids' parents are right there, there's no need for anyone to babysit. That wasn't what OP was expecting.

No, OP wants the teenager to "go play" with her 11 year old.

Nothing wrong with that, she is a kid after all. She can't find anything fun to do with the other kids.

Do you think everyone under 18 enjoys playing together? It’s like you’re unfamiliar with humans.

I think it's funny that so many people are arguing that a 15 year is far too old to play with younger children, but that OP, who is likely 25-30 years older than the 15 year old, should be perfectly happy to include her in their conversation.

Yes OP, we expect you to be polite and welcoming to EVERYONE that you invite into your home... age should not be a factor.

How is this even a question?

It's very obvious which people were raised with no home training.

A 15 year old should take a steer from the host and be happy to spend time with ANYONE that is in the house...including younger children. It was frankly quite rude of her decline OP's suggestion to go to the basement. If I'm a guest in someone's house and they say we're moving into the living room now, I don't insist on staying in the dining room.

Let’s assume OP has some basic manners. If so, the conversation likely went something like this:

OP: Larla, you’re welcome to join the kids in the red room - I think they’re watching a movie.

Larla: “Thanks, Ms OP, I’ll keep that in mind.”

Neither of these people is doing anything wrong or rude. I’m guessing OP didn’t say, “Larla, you must go down to the basement with the other kids,” as that would be pretty rude. And I’m guessing Larla didn’t say, “Yeah, no, I refuse to hang out in the basement and insist on staying here.”

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* Rec room, not red room.

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Anonymous wrote:* Rec room, not red room.

RED RUM

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Anonymous wrote:I hate when we hang out with families like this. I do not want to spend my Saturday night having to be polite to the stupid stuff your 15 year old says. I want adult time. Tell your teen to find something to do.

How does someone like you even have friends? 🤯
Or is this OP's alter ego saying what she actually wanted to write in her OP? lol

NP. I just spent a weekend with my brother and 14 year old niece, and she is so self-absorbed. We were trying to discuss the situation in Israel, and she interrupted to tell a long story about a bat mitzvah she went to last year. Her focus on herself is developmentally appropriate, but annoying to be around, so I can definitely see how OP would be irked if this girl were doing something similar.

How old are your kids?

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Anonymous wrote:Why does everyone keep yammering on about the 15 year old babysitting? The kids' parents are right there, there's no need for anyone to babysit. That wasn't what OP was expecting.

No, OP wants the teenager to "go play" with her 11 year old.

Nothing wrong with that, she is a kid after all. She can't find anything fun to do with the other kids.

Do you think everyone under 18 enjoys playing together? It’s like you’re unfamiliar with humans.

I think it's funny that so many people are arguing that a 15 year is far too old to play with younger children, but that OP, who is likely 25-30 years older than the 15 year old, should be perfectly happy to include her in their conversation.

You can't be this stupid. So a 25-year-old and a 35 year old having a lunch together in the work break room is the same thing as a 5 year-old and a 15 year old hanging out.

Something is seriously wrong with you.

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Anonymous wrote:I hate when we hang out with families like this. I do not want to spend my Saturday night having to be polite to the stupid stuff your 15 year old says. I want adult time. Tell your teen to find something to do.

How does someone like you even have friends? 🤯
Or is this OP's alter ego saying what she actually wanted to write in her OP? lol

NP. I just spent a weekend with my brother and 14 year old niece, and she is so self-absorbed. We were trying to discuss the situation in Israel, and she interrupted to tell a long story about a bat mitzvah she went to last year. Her focus on herself is developmentally appropriate, but annoying to be around, so I can definitely see how OP would be irked if this girl were doing something similar.

How old are your kids?

15 and 12.

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Anonymous wrote:Why does everyone keep yammering on about the 15 year old babysitting? The kids' parents are right there, there's no need for anyone to babysit. That wasn't what OP was expecting.

No, OP wants the teenager to "go play" with her 11 year old.

Nothing wrong with that, she is a kid after all. She can't find anything fun to do with the other kids.

Do you think everyone under 18 enjoys playing together? It’s like you’re unfamiliar with humans.

I think it's funny that so many people are arguing that a 15 year is far too old to play with younger children, but that OP, who is likely 25-30 years older than the 15 year old, should be perfectly happy to include her in their conversation.

You can't be this stupid. So a 25-year-old and a 35 year old having a lunch together in the work break room is the same thing as a 5 year-old and a 15 year old hanging out.

Something is seriously wrong with you.

15 is much closer to 11 than to 40. Disagree? Okay then, I'll start sharing funny stories about my ho years in college. Since we're all adults here, right?

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Anonymous wrote:I hate when we hang out with families like this. I do not want to spend my Saturday night having to be polite to the stupid stuff your 15 year old says. I want adult time. Tell your teen to find something to do.

How does someone like you even have friends? 🤯
Or is this OP's alter ego saying what she actually wanted to write in her OP? lol

NP. I just spent a weekend with my brother and 14 year old niece, and she is so self-absorbed. We were trying to discuss the situation in Israel, and she interrupted to tell a long story about a bat mitzvah she went to last year. Her focus on herself is developmentally appropriate, but annoying to be around, so I can definitely see how OP would be irked if this girl were doing something similar.

How old are your kids?

15 and 12.

And the 15 year old is a NT girl? I highly doubt it.

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Anonymous wrote:I hate when we hang out with families like this. I do not want to spend my Saturday night having to be polite to the stupid stuff your 15 year old says. I want adult time. Tell your teen to find something to do.

How does someone like you even have friends? 🤯
Or is this OP's alter ego saying what she actually wanted to write in her OP? lol

NP. I just spent a weekend with my brother and 14 year old niece, and she is so self-absorbed. We were trying to discuss the situation in Israel, and she interrupted to tell a long story about a bat mitzvah she went to last year. Her focus on herself is developmentally appropriate, but annoying to be around, so I can definitely see how OP would be irked if this girl were doing something similar.

How old are your kids?

15 and 12.

And the 15 year old is a NT girl? I highly doubt it.

My 15 is a NT boy. My girls are NT 12 year olds. I never claimed to have a NT 15 year old girl, so no idea where you’re going with this.

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I grew up attending multi-family weekend gatherings like this and there always came a point (after a certain amount of polite chit chat) that kids (including teens) were told to scram and let the grownups have grownup time. Nobody was scarred for life.

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Anonymous wrote:I grew up attending multi-family weekend gatherings like this and there always came a point (after a certain amount of polite chit chat) that kids (including teens) were told to scram and let the grownups have grownup time. Nobody was scarred for life.

Same.

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Anonymous wrote:I hate when we hang out with families like this. I do not want to spend my Saturday night having to be polite to the stupid stuff your 15 year old says. I want adult time. Tell your teen to find something to do.

How does someone like you even have friends? 🤯
Or is this OP's alter ego saying what she actually wanted to write in her OP? lol

NP. I just spent a weekend with my brother and 14 year old niece, and she is so self-absorbed. We were trying to discuss the situation in Israel, and she interrupted to tell a long story about a bat mitzvah she went to last year. Her focus on herself is developmentally appropriate, but annoying to be around, so I can definitely see how OP would be irked if this girl were doing something similar.

How old are your kids?

15 and 12.

And the 15 year old is a NT girl? I highly doubt it.

My 15 is a NT boy. My girls are NT 12 year olds. I never claimed to have a NT 15 year old girl, so no idea where you’re going with this.

Girls change a lot from 12 to 15.

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Anonymous wrote:I grew up attending multi-family weekend gatherings like this and there always came a point (after a certain amount of polite chit chat) that kids (including teens) were told to scram and let the grownups have grownup time. Nobody was scarred for life.

Cool story. Surely you recognize that's a little different than the situation of a teen who is at strangers-to-her's house for a family dinner, yes?

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Anonymous wrote:I hate when we hang out with families like this. I do not want to spend my Saturday night having to be polite to the stupid stuff your 15 year old says. I want adult time. Tell your teen to find something to do.

How does someone like you even have friends? 🤯
Or is this OP's alter ego saying what she actually wanted to write in her OP? lol

NP. I just spent a weekend with my brother and 14 year old niece, and she is so self-absorbed. We were trying to discuss the situation in Israel, and she interrupted to tell a long story about a bat mitzvah she went to last year. Her focus on herself is developmentally appropriate, but annoying to be around, so I can definitely see how OP would be irked if this girl were doing something similar.

How old are your kids?

15 and 12.

And the 15 year old is a NT girl? I highly doubt it.

My 15 is a NT boy. My girls are NT 12 year olds. I never claimed to have a NT 15 year old girl, so no idea where you’re going with this.

Girls change a lot from 12 to 15.

Honestly all the teens/tweens I know are self-absorbed. Like I said, it’s developmentally appropriate, but goddamn I can’t wait for this phase to pass.

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Anonymous wrote:I hate when we hang out with families like this. I do not want to spend my Saturday night having to be polite to the stupid stuff your 15 year old says. I want adult time. Tell your teen to find something to do.

Agree.