Women 35+ who have never been in a relationship

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men hold power to ask out who they want.

Riiight. Women lack the ability to speak. Or something.

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men hold power to ask out who they want.

Riiight. Women lack the ability to speak. Or something.

The subject here is women over 35 who have never been in a relationship not flirty bubbly women who ask men out

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A guy being alone up to age 35 is weird. Guys have all the power in their hands to ask any woman they want out.

And they get told no over and over again.

Then their standards are too high for their looks. They're probably asking out women that are out of their league and should probably settle or give a chance to a fat woman or uglier woman.

+1. I am continually shocked at how bizarre men’s standards are. I know men who are overweight, bald, not rich, etc., that think they are entitled to date and marry ONLY the most beautiful women.

And this is honestly why the older single women I know are also. They had way too high superficial standards when young, didn’t give good men a chance, and now all those guys are off the market anyway. It’s important for men and women to have a realistic sense of self.

It’s not like men are either superficially appealing OR they’re good men. So many women are pressured to try dating men they aren’t attracted to because they’re “nice guys”, and they’ll tell you that those men treat them the worst.

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A guy being alone up to age 35 is weird. Guys have all the power in their hands to ask any woman they want out.

And they get told no over and over again.

Then their standards are too high for their looks. They're probably asking out women that are out of their league and should probably settle or give a chance to a fat woman or uglier woman.

+1. I am continually shocked at how bizarre men’s standards are. I know men who are overweight, bald, not rich, etc., that think they are entitled to date and marry ONLY the most beautiful women.

And this is honestly why the older single women I know are also. They had way too high superficial standards when young, didn’t give good men a chance, and now all those guys are off the market anyway. It’s important for men and women to have a realistic sense of self.

PP you are responding to- I don’t know if this applies to most of the older single women I know, but it definitely applies to some. Lots of concerns about things like wealth, career, ethnicity. A lot of women I know with really specific standards did get married eventually, some got divorced, and the divorced/widowed ones would rather be single than lower their standards.

I think the difference with the men I know is that they are genuinely confused about why they are not successfully attracting the most beautiful women.

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Another I found:
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/4778905-40-years-old-and-never-been-in-a-relationship

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It really depends on what you mean by a relationship.
I know some women 35+ who are virgins, have maybe been on a couple of first dates, may or may not have ever been kissed. They are all neurodiverse or obese or both.
I know dozens of women 35+ who’ve never been married, engaged or in a serious long term relationship. They all get plenty of male attention and have dated on and off for 20-30 years. They tend to also be very attractive and eligible on paper but have poor self esteem or trust issues due to sexual trauma.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a lot of female acquaintances who are 35+ but have never been in a relationship. They are very pretty, educated, professionally successful, and have interesting hobbies. I understand if someone was unlucky in love and hasn’t met the right person, but it’s hard for me to understand never even trying. They might go on the occasional first date but have never had anyone they introduce as a partner or SO and never talk about looking for it. I’m so curious about how this happened but don’t want to be rude and ask them.

I also know men 35+ who have never been in relationships but it seems a bit different — for them it seems more related to social awkwardness, fear of rejection, or laziness. But who knows.

They are mentally ill and incapable of pair bonding normally.

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A guy being alone up to age 35 is weird. Guys have all the power in their hands to ask any woman they want out.

And they get told no over and over again.

Then their standards are too high for their looks. They're probably asking out women that are out of their league and should probably settle or give a chance to a fat woman or uglier woman.

+1. I am continually shocked at how bizarre men’s standards are. I know men who are overweight, bald, not rich, etc., that think they are entitled to date and marry ONLY the most beautiful women.

PP, just because these guys rejected you doesn't mean they only want the most beautiful women. Just someone less unattractive than yourself which is likely still very far from beautiful.

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Anonymous wrote:"Very pretty" women are almost never single. They must not be pretty.

Untrue. There are many very pretty single women.

They must still be in their 20s.

A "very pretty" woman would be fending off suitors. There are always exceptions, but in 95% of the cases, a really pretty woman would be scooped up real quick.

There are plenty of gorgeous African American women that are single.

Those are racist African American women who will only date black men.

Black male population statistics aren’t in favor of these women finding suitable mates within their community and they need to come to terms with that or settle or date outside their race.

African American woman are in a tough position to be honest. While it is true that more and more women are graduating colleges compared to men, for African American woman it is worse. And let’s be honest women are very picky (for good reasons). You will not come accross many women who are college grads and will settle for a non college grad. So African American woman don’t have a big pool of fellow African American men college grads. So some choose to remain single.

As an educated latina woman with a good physique I feel the same. Some of us latinas with advanced degrees have a hard time finding a latino man whose college educated and is attractive.

I think regardless of race this will be more and more the case. It is interesting that women will not settle for a man who is less educated but men will do the same. Unless women come to grip that they may have to settle for non college grads or men who aren’t as successful as them they will struggle to find that ideal guy. I have introduced a very good friend of mine to my sister who who is a successful banker. My friend is a painter but otherwise fantastic man. OMG she gave me a whole lecture about how intellectually inferior he is etc….The more she went on I started to ask myself whether she is crazy.

Not crazy. She is mentally ill, or a feminist, maybe both.

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It is interesting that women will not settle for a man who is less educated but men will do the same.

Men are smart. There are things that really matter in a relationship, but your resume isn’t one of them.

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It is interesting that women will not settle for a man who is less educated but men will do the same.

Men are smart. There are things that really matter in a relationship, but your resume isn’t one of them.

I can’t be in a relationship with someone I can’t really talk to. Maybe these men just don’t really talk to or listen to women regardless, so it doesn’t matter to them.

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A guy being alone up to age 35 is weird. Guys have all the power in their hands to ask any woman they want out.

And they get told no over and over again.

Then their standards are too high for their looks. They're probably asking out women that are out of their league and should probably settle or give a chance to a fat woman or uglier woman.

+1. I am continually shocked at how bizarre men’s standards are. I know men who are overweight, bald, not rich, etc., that think they are entitled to date and marry ONLY the most beautiful women.

PP, just because these guys rejected you doesn't mean they only want the most beautiful women. Just someone less unattractive than yourself which is likely still very far from beautiful.

LOL no I'm very attractive and have been married for ages anyway, these are the men I know who can't seem to find a partner and share their confusion with my husband and I.

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Anonymous wrote:"Very pretty" women are almost never single. They must not be pretty.

Untrue. There are many very pretty single women.

They must still be in their 20s.

A "very pretty" woman would be fending off suitors. There are always exceptions, but in 95% of the cases, a really pretty woman would be scooped up real quick.

There are plenty of gorgeous African American women that are single.

Those are racist African American women who will only date black men.

Black male population statistics aren’t in favor of these women finding suitable mates within their community and they need to come to terms with that or settle or date outside their race.

African American woman are in a tough position to be honest. While it is true that more and more women are graduating colleges compared to men, for African American woman it is worse. And let’s be honest women are very picky (for good reasons). You will not come accross many women who are college grads and will settle for a non college grad. So African American woman don’t have a big pool of fellow African American men college grads. So some choose to remain single.

As an educated latina woman with a good physique I feel the same. Some of us latinas with advanced degrees have a hard time finding a latino man whose college educated and is attractive.

I think regardless of race this will be more and more the case. It is interesting that women will not settle for a man who is less educated but men will do the same. Unless women come to grip that they may have to settle for non college grads or men who aren’t as successful as them they will struggle to find that ideal guy. I have introduced a very good friend of mine to my sister who who is a successful banker. My friend is a painter but otherwise fantastic man. OMG she gave me a whole lecture about how intellectually inferior he is etc….The more she went on I started to ask myself whether she is crazy.

Not crazy. She is mentally ill, or a feminist, maybe both.

It may be shocking to you, but it’s not that hard to get married if you are a feminist. I’ve done it twice, second time with two kids. There must be something else.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like my sister in law. She just doesn’t put herself out there. It makes me wonder what the future looks like for her.

My sister lives in assisted living with my mother, out of necessity for her. Tell your SIL that

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like my sister in law. She just doesn’t put herself out there. It makes me wonder what the future looks like for her.

My sister lives in assisted living with my mother, out of necessity for her. Tell your SIL that

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