Discrepancy between you want vs what you can get

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op, you need to work on your looks and weight. I am 43, and I had a smart lipo done on my butt, waist, belly neck while I was not even fat. I just want to be perfect (no flabby skin, no neck aging sings, perfect waist contours etc). Series of massage with warm wraps, swimming, fast walking helps to achieve perfect body and glowing looks.

It costs money to look good after certain age. I look 30+, not 40+ after my beauty regime. You are in the age when you are competing with attractive divorced women with money; and many of them would be more attractive comparing to you. I date men about same age as mine, 40-early 50s (divorced guys but LTR oriented, some still want kids or never had kids).


You should make this investment in yourself and you'll see the difference! Make sure you have around $20K "budget" for a makeover. You can even become blond (I chose not to).

The first paragraph of this literally cracked me up, and I thank you sincerely for that.

You're welcome. It's a serious sh..t though, and helps women look at their best and be confident. It was important to me and I am happy I did it and didn't bury myself in "body positivity". Because I just didn't feel very positive looking at my saggy neck in the mirror.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Grow a thick firm booty. Build it and they’ll come.

Preach! I don't know why these girls are making it hard. I will post you all big booty builder program if necessary. Matter of fact

. Now go earn that worthy husband.

She has a very large head for her body, and short legs. Looks weird.

If you have better than that at home I'd like to shake your hand.

PP

[Anonymous]

I can't believe I read this entire thread. It was very depressing.

[Anonymous]

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Not true. The smart successful men want it all. I am attractive (though not blond, lol), thin, educated, had a lucrative career before SAHM and come from a family with good, healthy genes. Subconsciously, my husband probably wanted all of that in the mother of his kids, and frankly so did I.

The Power Ranking
1. Fun
1a. Great shape
3. Degree

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are you looking for romantic partners or business partners?

OP here. After putting myself through college and graduate school and acquiring a fulfilling and interesting policy job, I really do not want to marry some average joe making 100k a year so we can squeeze into a 500k townhouse in Vienna and take yearly vacations to OBX.

I want a SHF in Chevy Chase, private school for my kids and international vacations.

Why NOT me? Only because I am not blonde and skinny?

Its depressing.

OP- you waited too long. Those of us met those guys and married them by 30.

I have a Master’s Degree and work in similar field. I have the life/husband you are looking for. Almost all of my girlfriends do as well and the lady of us married at 33.

I loathe this smug attitude by women who married young. They think it is some grand personal achievement and that it is some symbol that they are special or superior to other women, that they are better at life. You didn’t cure cancer or negotiate world peace, you walked down an aisle. So get over yourselves.

Seriously this, I am from NYC and so many people waited till their 30s (most people actually) because they were getting serious careers off the ground and NYC is an expensive place to launch a new family. It would have been so, so easy to marry a wealthy ho-hum guy under 30. I got married at 37 instead after graduate school and with a $170K income on my own.

$200k salary on my own and married at 28.

[Anonymous]

Good lord, the amount of humble-bragging on this thread is completely ridiculous!

[Anonymous]

When I was dating in my 30's, I had invested/ acquired several properties of which I rented including a few beach properties.
I drove an old beat up Honda (loved that car) and never let on what my net worth was, especially in first few months of dating someone new.
For serious, marriage consideration type, I wanted someone kind, smart, family-oriented, easy-going, reasonably attractive, and fit enough to do moderate fun athletic activities like snow skiing and surfing.
When I took a girlfriend to the beach one time, I did not even tell her that I owned the beach house we were staying in (I paid for all our expenses that trip).
What I avoided by not appearing overly successful was the shallow, self centered, and materialistic women with no sense of self-awareness that OP sadly represents.
I protected myself because I wanted someone who would want and accept me as me.
I ended up marrying an average looking woman (beautiful to me) who I met at an animal charity Christmas party..
Its been over 20 married nears now and we have 3 health h and happy teenager boys..
We still actively fund the same animal charity annually.

[Anonymous]

If you are white have you tried dating Asian guys? My friend claims it’s slim pickings for them but when he had a white girlfriend who was nothing to write home about he got a lot of attention.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I was dating in my 30's, I had invested/ acquired several properties of which I rented including a few beach properties.
I drove an old beat up Honda (loved that car) and never let on what my net worth was, especially in first few months of dating someone new.
For serious, marriage consideration type, I wanted someone kind, smart, family-oriented, easy-going, reasonably attractive, and fit enough to do moderate fun athletic activities like snow skiing and surfing.
When I took a girlfriend to the beach one time, I did not even tell her that I owned the beach house we were staying in (I paid for all our expenses that trip).
What I avoided by not appearing overly successful was the shallow, self centered, and materialistic women with no sense of self-awareness that OP sadly represents.
I protected myself because I wanted someone who would want and accept me as me.
I ended up marrying an average looking woman (beautiful to me) who I met at an animal charity Christmas party..
Its been over 20 married nears now and we have 3 health h and happy teenager boys..
We still actively fund the same animal charity annually.

And what is your net worth now to think you are so special to be so "selective" and protect yourself from "shallow" women? Men are usually all about money themselves in the first place. It's all about money and power for most of them

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good lord, the amount of humble-bragging on this thread is completely ridiculous!

I don’t think you understand what humble-bragging is. It doesn’t happen here.

[Anonymous]

"And what is your net worth now to think you are so special to be so "selective" and protect yourself from "shallow" women? Men are usually all about money themselves in the first place. It's all about money and power for most of them"

The point of my post went straight over your head and that is sad. And predictable.
I/ my family live quite comfortably which is a blessing, but not anywhere close define the purposes of our lives.

The post was about men (or women) carefully selecting women who are interested in them as a person and not for their money.
We avoid women like you by not immediately revealing our material assets.
I could explain it to you, but I cannot comprehend it for you.

And if my post helps just one decent man (or women) to avoid materialistic bores , my typing this is worth it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"And what is your net worth now to think you are so special to be so "selective" and protect yourself from "shallow" women? Men are usually all about money themselves in the first place. It's all about money and power for most of them"

The point of my post went straight over your head and that is sad. And predictable.
I/ my family live quite comfortably which is a blessing, but not anywhere close define the purposes of our lives.

The post was about men (or women) carefully selecting women who are interested in them as a person and not for their money.
We avoid women like you by not immediately revealing our material assets.
I could explain it to you, but I cannot comprehend it for you.

And if my post helps just one decent man (or women) to avoid materialistic bores , my typing this is worth it.

I am asking you on this board, but I am smart enough never ask the net worth while dating. It’s also irrelevant for me as everything you bring in prior joining incomes is your separate, so I would never get any of that net worth.
As a high net worth/income woman, the first thing I would look at is “lifestyles match”. If you take me to a nice beach house I would have rented myself, I would check mark “a match”. If it was tacky, it would not have mattered to me whether you owned or rented it, if if you are rich. Just not a lifestyle match, next one.

That’s a starting point, before we speak about favorite charities. Your strategy doesn’t give anything in my view. It’s BS and will push away women as they would suspect you are secretive, hiding a wife, assets.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"And what is your net worth now to think you are so special to be so "selective" and protect yourself from "shallow" women? Men are usually all about money themselves in the first place. It's all about money and power for most of them"

The point of my post went straight over your head and that is sad. And predictable.
I/ my family live quite comfortably which is a blessing, but not anywhere close define the purposes of our lives.

The post was about men (or women) carefully selecting women who are interested in them as a person and not for their money.
We avoid women like you by not immediately revealing our material assets.
I could explain it to you, but I cannot comprehend it for you.

And if my post helps just one decent man (or women) to avoid materialistic bores , my typing this is worth it.

Oh and Hondas are tacky old man cars. I had one as my first car while in grad school and nearly burned alive in it in a crash. Since then I drive better quality cars, but not super expensive.

[Anonymous]

As I said in my original post, I'm married.
My strategy worked quite well for me thank you..
It pushed away exactly the type of women I wanted to avoid!

I met someone who has the desire snd capacity to love and value someone/something other than money.
Oh and we have vacationed in Europe favoring Greece and Italy.
If you have been to Greece, Santorini specifically, you'd know how crazy dangerous the buses are that like to crowd a rented moped off the road near cliffs.
Great wines and Ouzo though.

These days I'd rather watch my boys play on their hockey and baseball teams.
Originally, I was looking for travel baseball info on DCUM, but there does not appear to have posts related to what I was looking for.

We have a beach house in North End Virginia beach (which we prefer because beach is very wide and quiet) and a rental in Bethany beach.
My lifestyle match with my wife was looking for fun and adventure whike always laughing at each others jokes.
And helping homeless dogs and kitties.And us falling in love.

My only regret was the trip not taken to Pakistan we thought about to see (not climb) Tango and Muztagh towers as I was afraid we were not in shape enough to safely visit.
Now a days, we are happy to watch our sons play hockey and baseball. They are not the stars on the teams.
And go to the beach'es that you feel are beneath you.

PS. Please rescue/adopt a cat if you decide to own one as that seems to become your future companion choice. Being honest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As I said in my original post, I'm married.
My strategy worked quite well for me thank you..
It pushed away exactly the type of women I wanted to avoid!

I met someone who has the desire snd capacity to love and value someone/something other than money.
Oh and we have vacationed in Europe favoring Greece and Italy.
If you have been to Greece, Santorini specifically, you'd know how crazy dangerous the buses are that like to crowd a rented moped off the road near cliffs.
Great wines and Ouzo though.

These days I'd rather watch my boys play on their hockey and baseball teams.
Originally, I was looking for travel baseball info on DCUM, but there does not appear to have posts related to what I was looking for.

We have a beach house in North End Virginia beach (which we prefer because beach is very wide and quiet) and a rental in Bethany beach.
My lifestyle match with my wife was looking for fun and adventure whike always laughing at each others jokes.
And helping homeless dogs and kitties.And us falling in love.

My only regret was the trip not taken to Pakistan we thought about to see (not climb) Tango and Muztagh towers as I was afraid we were not in shape enough to safely visit.
Now a days, we are happy to watch our sons play hockey and baseball. They are not the stars on the teams.
And go to the beach'es that you feel are beneath you.

PS. Please rescue/adopt a cat if you decide to own one as that seems to become your future companion choice. Being honest.

I have a cat adopted old. I also traveled to Lefkada, Corfu, Zakinthos, Kefalonia and Crete among the Greek islands. Also to many other places including war zones. These are one of the best beaches in the world. I windsurfed and rock climbed in my younger age. This only proves that your hiding strategy didn’t really do much to identify a specific type of women.
Love for animals likely did more than you hiding your rentals.