Is "sugar" a thing in DMV upper class?

[Anonymous]

To the guys who do this: Do you ever feel like you've lost a bit of dignity knowing a woman who otherwise would have no interest in you is only into you for money and wouldn't give you the time of day except for that fact?

I mean frankly, if my only choices were being wanted for my body vs money, I'd feel less humiliated w/ the former, because it's still me who is desired.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To the guys who do this: Do you ever feel like you've lost a bit of dignity knowing a woman who otherwise would have no interest in you is only into you for money and wouldn't give you the time of day except for that fact?

I mean frankly, if my only choices were being wanted for my body vs money, I'd feel less humiliated w/ the former, because it's still me who is desired.

Not in the slightest. It is very much transactional.

We are paying for a service with no strings attached. Personally I think of it like using an Airbnb.

[Anonymous]

OP prostitution is known as the oldest profession for a reason.

Calling is “sugaring” or “sex work” doesn’t change this reality.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:To the guys who do this: Do you ever feel like you've lost a bit of dignity knowing a woman who otherwise would have no interest in you is only into you for money and wouldn't give you the time of day except for that fact?

I mean frankly, if my only choices were being wanted for my body vs money, I'd feel less humiliated w/ the former, because it's still me who is desired.

Not in the slightest. It is very much transactional.

We are paying for a service with no strings attached. Personally I think of it like using an Airbnb.

You are renting a woman's body?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:To the guys who do this: Do you ever feel like you've lost a bit of dignity knowing a woman who otherwise would have no interest in you is only into you for money and wouldn't give you the time of day except for that fact?

I mean frankly, if my only choices were being wanted for my body vs money, I'd feel less humiliated w/ the former, because it's still me who is desired.

Not in the slightest. It is very much transactional.

We are paying for a service with no strings attached. Personally I think of it like using an Airbnb.

You are renting a woman's body?

Because you don't want to own, can't really afford to live there, or won't be there very long?

[Anonymous]

Is sugaring same as these women posting on dcum asking about how to find a “provider”, but from the male pov?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:To the guys who do this: Do you ever feel like you've lost a bit of dignity knowing a woman who otherwise would have no interest in you is only into you for money and wouldn't give you the time of day except for that fact?

I mean frankly, if my only choices were being wanted for my body vs money, I'd feel less humiliated w/ the former, because it's still me who is desired.

Not in the slightest. It is very much transactional.

We are paying for a service with no strings attached. Personally I think of it like using an Airbnb.

You are renting a woman's body?

Because you don't want to own, can't really afford to live there, or won't be there very long?

Zero interest in owning when I can just rent. It’s not complicated at all. We can go out and have fun and my needs are met without the extra baggage. I’m happy with the way it works.

It’s also kind of nice to be able to meet new people and get to know them a little without having to worry about an LTR, being Mr. Perfect, etc.

Both parties know exactly what we are here for.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:To the guys who do this: Do you ever feel like you've lost a bit of dignity knowing a woman who otherwise would have no interest in you is only into you for money and wouldn't give you the time of day except for that fact?

I mean frankly, if my only choices were being wanted for my body vs money, I'd feel less humiliated w/ the former, because it's still me who is desired.

Not in the slightest. It is very much transactional.

We are paying for a service with no strings attached. Personally, I think of it like using an Airbnb.

At least he's paying rather than leading a woman on and wasting her youth. I assume the women are not exclusive with their sugar daddies and are mentally free to keep searching for a long-term partner if that is what they want.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:To the guys who do this: Do you ever feel like you've lost a bit of dignity knowing a woman who otherwise would have no interest in you is only into you for money and wouldn't give you the time of day except for that fact?

I mean frankly, if my only choices were being wanted for my body vs money, I'd feel less humiliated w/ the former, because it's still me who is desired.

Not in the slightest. It is very much transactional.

We are paying for a service with no strings attached. Personally, I think of it like using an Airbnb.

At least he's paying rather than leading a woman on and wasting her youth. I assume the women are not exclusive with their sugar daddies and are mentally free to keep searching for a long-term partner if that is what they want.

Yep after she’s all used up and blown out she can settle down.

[Anonymous]

Why own when you can lease? Always nice to have the newest and bestest model at your disposal on the market every few years.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:To the guys who do this: Do you ever feel like you've lost a bit of dignity knowing a woman who otherwise would have no interest in you is only into you for money and wouldn't give you the time of day except for that fact?

I mean frankly, if my only choices were being wanted for my body vs money, I'd feel less humiliated w/ the former, because it's still me who is desired.

Not in the slightest. It is very much transactional.

We are paying for a service with no strings attached. Personally, I think of it like using an Airbnb.

At least he's paying rather than leading a woman on and wasting her youth. I assume the women are not exclusive with their sugar daddies and are mentally free to keep searching for a long-term partner if that is what they want.

Yep after she’s all used up and blown out she can settle down.

Ah, the slut shamers of my father's generation. Your double standards are as irrelevant as you are, old man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Years ago, fresh out of grad school, I flirted with and went to lunch and drinks with the boss to get a nice job. Let him get a little handsy but it worked and got hired in a position that opened up lots of later great employment opportunities. Never did the sugar thing though.

+1, although I went a bit further.

15 years ago I was 24, single, working for a F500 in an entry level job.

I had an affair with my much older manager, who promoted me 6 months later to a much higher paying position.

I no longer work for that company but that tryst opened up many more opportunities for my career.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Years ago, fresh out of grad school, I flirted with and went to lunch and drinks with the boss to get a nice job. Let him get a little handsy but it worked and got hired in a position that opened up lots of later great employment opportunities. Never did the sugar thing though.

+1, although I went a bit further.

15 years ago I was 24, single, working for a F500 in an entry level job.

I had an affair with my much older manager, who promoted me 6 months later to a much higher paying position.

I no longer work for that company but that tryst opened up many more opportunities for my career.

Both of you got to enjoy having something opened up.

[Anonymous]

Have you ever met any sugar babies in person, like at the Palm oran expensive steak house?

Anonymous wrote:seeking in DC covers a wide range of type of people. Ofc the cash strapped college girls, low level retail job single moms, girls with no jobs, bottle service or waitress types ... But with DMV being so expensive, means lots of "normal, well educated, well mannered" girls are to be found. in addition to my banker minx (she is not entry level teller, she is private banking, has her own office etc) I've met through seeking (all confirmed with a little bit of internet / linkedin sleuthing)

Deloitte Sr. manager
WETA production manager
a number of DC/NoVA non-profit employees (typically highly educated masters degree, low pay, very left leaning and sex positive)
and a couple of girls that worked for DOD contractors like CACI etc. if they are working for DOD they must be vetted/background checked and it boggles my mind they put themselves out there on a shady site like seeking ... but just goes to show there are tons of normal women sugaring too

to the women who liken sugaring to prostituation. I'd say not so. maybe similar, but not the same. on sugar dates I get rejected too. a lot. because if there is no base/minimal attraction the sugar baby isn't going to sleep with you not matter how much money you offer. with escorts, as long as you pay for "service" and pass the safety screening she will have sex with you. That's what make sugaring so much fun. do you think an escort/prostitute who had no interest/attraction/postivie feelings towards me would spend 8-12hr a day having sex with me? and then text me days later with cute reminders of our time together? lol I couldn't get my ex-wifey to do that after the first couple years of marriage ..

Anonymous wrote:I'm surprised by how normal many of the women are that I have met on Seeking...great looking, nice, well educated, good manners etc. The one commonality I have found is they are stressed financially.

Anonymous wrote:i'm the guy you are responding to. "seeking" in general, just like tinder, is 90% full of garbage or incompatible matches. it takes a lot of work to find a good match and a ton more patience to find a great match.

Anonymous wrote:That sounds amazing!

It seems like the quality of the women is much higher on Seeking than you can get normally as a wealthy 50 year old guy. And these girls are well educated and surprisingly normal.

Anonymous wrote:I love how this thread doesn’t die. To the middle aged men of DCUM. Do it!

I’m divorced and never went outside my marriage but the post divorce dating market for almost 50yr old with young kids is ugh. Sugar is the best thing since sliced bread. if you have extra cash give it a go

Sugar and seeking and the blue pill have given me the best sex of my life. I’m the guy who posted about my experiences in this thread a few weeks ago. I met up with my Turk/slavic/minx banker baby last weekend again. 12hours of hot sex. Kinky. Role play. Experimental. Pushing boundaries. She brought a ton of outfits she modeled for me to enjoy. We had a quick room service dinner that we fed each other but were basically naked and intertwined for the whole of Saturday till like 2am 😈😈😈

[Anonymous]

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NP. When I was in college I totally would've gone for an arrangement like this for ~$2k a month. Different people look at it differently but to me, I don't think there's anything undignified about the casual sex & it's decent money for something I would've found less obnoxious than working a more traditional job. Better/fewer hours and more enjoyable. Definitely not for everyone though.

Maybe if the guy is not married but why go for an old married guy that likely has a wife and kids? Just for a little money?

I have some friends who are sugar daddies. You're probably thinking these are balding guys in their 50s who are sloppy and with a huge beer belly. They aren't like that at all. They are all fit, dress well, and are charming. Remember these are successful people in their career, and you usually need to have those characteristics to do well in your career anyway.

Also I've found that women in their early 20s aren't thinking about marriage or long-term, so being married isn't a big deal to them. I've been out at bars and social events and talking to women that age, and when they ask more probing questions like do I have a girlfriend, I point to the ring on my finger. They don't even think to look at that age. Now, talk to a woman in her late 20's or early 30's and they notice it right away.

Christ, the way people are raised these days. My family would be horrified if I were committing adultery by screwing married men. It may not be your marriage, but it is very low morals/character to not respect someone else's marriage. Karma will come bite you in the *ss down the road.

Then again, I'm talking to women selling their p*ssy for $ so morals are obviously not there.

And yet you’re using the Lord’s name to swear and in the context of your vulgar post.