DH called our nanny hot

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t bring it up to him. You both know she is pretty. He had enough sense to not make a distasteful comment to you directly about it.

Him telling a male friend the nanny is hot is just talk between friends. If we had a hot pool boy and I mentioned it to a girlfriend I wouldn’t expect my husband to be miffed. I don’t think he would care what so ever.

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I had two hot nannies. You sound insecure. He was telling his friend. All I cared is that they were good with my kids.

No. It’s completely disrespectful to both the OP and THE NANNY to talk about her that way. Think whatever you want but keep your thoughts in your head. OP should call him out on it, not because she’s upset that he recognizes the nanny is attractive, but because he is commenting on that attractiveness to anyone other than OP. It’s totally inappropriate.

good lord you have issues

Of course I do... But ain’t one an immature, inconsiderate, disrespectful DH...

You are absolutely sure your husband has never, ever commented to a friend that someone else - a stranger at a baseball game, a mutual friend, and yes, even the nanny - is hot?

Denial, as they say, is not . . . well, you know.

The only completely out of bounds woman to comment on, BTW, is a friend's daughter.

My husband isn’t an immature asshole... sorry you couldn’t do better.

Oh, sure he is. He just knows to conceal it from you.

Yes, and he manages to do this by, among other things, NOT verbalizing his immature asshole thoughts to friends and neighbors... glad you finally caught up.

Your aggressiveness on this point is very odd. I can only guess that it stems from some deep insecurity in yourself, or your relationship. I'm sorry about that, and I'll stop prodding you now. I hope you have a good night.

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Anonymous wrote:get rid of her. protect your nest.

Now we are firing people for being attractive? WTF

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Anonymous wrote:get rid of her. protect your nest.

Now we are firing people for being attractive? WTF

A lot of companies have adopted the Mile Pence rule, no one on one time with a woman, especially a younger one. We have that rule at my company. Thing is, it's driven by liberal women, not conservative men

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Common doesn't make something weird or inappropriate. Rape is common, it's still wrong. Racism is common it's still wrong. Why is so hard for you to keep your thoughts to yourself?

Rape is crime against a person. Racism often results in crimes and injustices against people.

Dude A telling Dude B that Gal A is hot hurts nobody.

The very existence of this thread disproves the bolded statement.... unless the wife is “nobody”...

Well sometimes people who are completely unrealistic and overly sensitive get hurt. True.

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Anonymous wrote:This is very passive-aggressive of your friend to say that.

This is exactly what I've been thinking while you're all debating over why her DH should be like Pence.

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Anonymous wrote:This is very passive-aggressive of your friend to say that.

This is exactly what I've been thinking while you're all debating over why her DH should be like Pence.

But...literally not one person said that. I think the closest analogue is that her husband shouldn’t be like Bill Clinton.

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I talk about other people and we both make comments if we see anyone attractive. So before saying it to anyone else, he'd have said to me that she's hot and I would have agreed. So the only slightly weird part to me is why you are surprised by it.

Yes each other, not your friends, and then it gets back to people you employ.

Right! Sort of my point - would OP mind if the husband made that statement to her?

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Get a new nanny. No marriage needs the added stress. It’s about security and avoiding conflict. People can try to be as PC as the like but it doesn’t erase the realities. Why parade a hot nanny in your house every day?

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t bring it up to him. You both know she is pretty. He had enough sense to not make a distasteful comment to you directly about it.

Him telling a male friend the nanny is hot is just talk between friends. If we had a hot pool boy and I mentioned it to a girlfriend I wouldn’t expect my husband to be miffed. I don’t think he would care what so ever.

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I had two hot nannies. You sound insecure. He was telling his friend. All I cared is that they were good with my kids.

No. It’s completely disrespectful to both the OP and THE NANNY to talk about her that way. Think whatever you want but keep your thoughts in your head. OP should call him out on it, not because she’s upset that he recognizes the nanny is attractive, but because he is commenting on that attractiveness to anyone other than OP. It’s totally inappropriate.

good lord you have issues

Of course I do... But ain’t one an immature, inconsiderate, disrespectful DH...

You are absolutely sure your husband has never, ever commented to a friend that someone else - a stranger at a baseball game, a mutual friend, and yes, even the nanny - is hot?

Denial, as they say, is not . . . well, you know.

The only completely out of bounds woman to comment on, BTW, is a friend's daughter.

My husband isn’t an immature asshole... sorry you couldn’t do better.

Oh, sure he is. He just knows to conceal it from you.

Yes, and he manages to do this by, among other things, NOT verbalizing his immature asshole thoughts to friends and neighbors... glad you finally caught up.

Your aggressiveness on this point is very odd. I can only guess that it stems from some deep insecurity in yourself, or your relationship. I'm sorry about that, and I'll stop prodding you now. I hope you have a good night.

Maybe look in the mirror.

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Anonymous wrote:Get a new nanny. No marriage needs the added stress. It’s about security and avoiding conflict. People can try to be as PC as the like but it doesn’t erase the realities. Why parade a hot nanny in your house every day?

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Truth. Take it or leave it, OP.

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Stupid, you never hire a hot nanny.

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Can someone please explain to me why women hate attractive women?

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Anonymous wrote:Can someone please explain to me why women hate attractive women?

OP doesn't hate her nanny for being attractive- or hate her at all.

I 100% trust my husband and he works around women, many young and attractive, all day. But I would not hire a young and attractive nanny. A nanny is in your personal space and has an intimate relationship with your family. It isn't the same as a standard "employee" relationship.

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Anonymous wrote:get rid of her. protect your nest.

Now we are firing people for being attractive? WTF

Girls (women too) are horribly mean to attractive women. Always have been always will. As an attractive, thin woman I have been bullied by them my entire life. It's just insecurity.

This exactly. Same experience.

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The title was clickbait! I thought the DH told the nanny she was hot, which would have been a problem. He described her as hot to a friend? Muzzle him at once! Neuter him as well!