What would you really like to tell your spouse or partner but can't or won't?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Same as previous posters - he is terrible in bed and I haven't had an orgasm (with him) in at least 20 years.

Doesn't that mean YOU are terrible in bed?

Is her husband having orgasms? Yes? Then she is good in bed and he is... not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I waste hours getting high and watching porn.

...said every guy who ever lived.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That when he whines and plays the victim for some really really absurd reason I wouldn't tolerate even for a child, I want to yell at him "MAN UP For Christ sake you are a unappealing pussy".

But I don't, because I love him, don't yell or say nasty words as a principle, and I know his ego cannot handle the idea that he acts "like a pussy"... But damn does it feel tempting...

It sounds like many of the complainers in this thread, and their spouses, are locked in mutual passive aggressive relationships where resentments fester because they are never aired out.

20 years with no orgasm, honey, if you let that happen and didn't do anything about it, it's on you just as much if not more than your husband.

If his breath reaks because he doesn't brush his teeth, TELL him that. "Honey I love you but your breath smells like ate dogshit. Go brush that stinkhole and gargle with plenty of Listerine."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is about a friend, does that count? It's a thing I cannot say. I'd tell him that I love him, that no one else compares to him. It's been years and I still feel this way. He's always been there for me, always listens to me, really acts like he cares even though he doesn't say it. I wish we could tell each other how we feel, but I'm afraid to say it because Im pretty sure that he thinks of me as just a friend. And once you let those words out there's no going back.

That's exactly why you must tell him your feelings.

I'm assuming you're both single though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That when he whines and plays the victim for some really really absurd reason I wouldn't tolerate even for a child, I want to yell at him "MAN UP For Christ sake you are a unappealing pussy".

But I don't, because I love him, don't yell or say nasty words as a principle, and I know his ego cannot handle the idea that he acts "like a pussy"... But damn does it feel tempting...

It sounds like many of the complainers in this thread, and their spouses, are locked in mutual passive aggressive relationships where resentments fester because they are never aired out.

20 years with no orgasm, honey, if you let that happen and didn't do anything about it, it's on you just as much if not more than your husband.

If his breath reaks because he doesn't brush his teeth, TELL him that. "Honey I love you but your breath smells like ate dogshit. Go brush that stinkhole and gargle with plenty of Listerine."

I agree about the 20 years with no orgasm. She should have found a dude who was good in bed and had an affair on the side. That was an oversight on your part, PP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Same as previous posters - he is terrible in bed and I haven't had an orgasm (with him) in at least 20 years.

Doesn't that mean YOU are terrible in bed?

Is her husband having orgasms? Yes? Then she is good in bed and he is... not.

How do you come to that bizarre conclusion?

If she doesn't know how to have an orgasm with her lifetime sexual partner it's more likely because she's frigid, not that he's "bad in bed." If after all this time he has become completely inattentive it's because with women like that--frigid women who simply aren't connected to their sexuality and insist on blaming their own deficiencies on their partners--who could blame him?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That when he whines and plays the victim for some really really absurd reason I wouldn't tolerate even for a child, I want to yell at him "MAN UP For Christ sake you are a unappealing pussy".

But I don't, because I love him, don't yell or say nasty words as a principle, and I know his ego cannot handle the idea that he acts "like a pussy"... But damn does it feel tempting...

It sounds like many of the complainers in this thread, and their spouses, are locked in mutual passive aggressive relationships where resentments fester because they are never aired out.

20 years with no orgasm, honey, if you let that happen and didn't do anything about it, it's on you just as much if not more than your husband.

If his breath reaks because he doesn't brush his teeth, TELL him that. "Honey I love you but your breath smells like ate dogshit. Go brush that stinkhole and gargle with plenty of Listerine."

And once again, it's up to women to help women. We have to teach them how to be good in bed, and somehow coddle them into realizing that it's actually not cool if you partner LITERALLY NEVER ORGASMS (wtf! Who would be okay with that? You'd have to be selfish beyond words), and now we even have to remind them to brush their fucking teeth.

Like... are men 3 year olds? I have never in my life heard of a group of people so proud of being completely helpless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Same as previous posters - he is terrible in bed and I haven't had an orgasm (with him) in at least 20 years.

Doesn't that mean YOU are terrible in bed?

Is her husband having orgasms? Yes? Then she is good in bed and he is... not.

How do you come to that bizarre conclusion?

If she doesn't know how to have an orgasm with her lifetime sexual partner it's more likely because she's frigid, not that he's "bad in bed." If after all this time he has become completely inattentive it's because with women like that--frigid women who simply aren't connected to their sexuality and insist on blaming their own deficiencies on their partners--who could blame him?

Then he shouldn't badger her for sex. If he is having sex, and failing to pay attention to and figure out her orgasm, then that's 100% on him. It's not up to her to magically teach him to be empathic and sexually generous. Some have it, some dont. This guy clearly doesnt and if he's still guilting her into having sex regardless of knowing that she's not getting off... then he's a selfish prick on top of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That when he whines and plays the victim for some really really absurd reason I wouldn't tolerate even for a child, I want to yell at him "MAN UP For Christ sake you are a unappealing pussy".

But I don't, because I love him, don't yell or say nasty words as a principle, and I know his ego cannot handle the idea that he acts "like a pussy"... But damn does it feel tempting...

It sounds like many of the complainers in this thread, and their spouses, are locked in mutual passive aggressive relationships where resentments fester because they are never aired out.

20 years with no orgasm, honey, if you let that happen and didn't do anything about it, it's on you just as much if not more than your husband.

If his breath reaks because he doesn't brush his teeth, TELL him that. "Honey I love you but your breath smells like ate dogshit. Go brush that stinkhole and gargle with plenty of Listerine."

I agree about the 20 years with no orgasm. She should have found a dude who was good in bed and had an affair on the side. That was an oversight on your part, PP.

Having an orgasm is not difficult, except for women who insist on making it difficult.

Even if your husband is a complete klutz in bed, is their anything stopping you from getting a little bullet vibe and rubbing your clit during sex with your clueless husband? Are you actually telling me women don't know how to get themselves off during sex? LOL bullshit.

"I've never had an orgasm during sex for 20 years with my husband" women are the women who don't want to have them because it gives them something to blame their husbands about.

These women are slobs and slugs and bring nothing to the table.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That when he whines and plays the victim for some really really absurd reason I wouldn't tolerate even for a child, I want to yell at him "MAN UP For Christ sake you are a unappealing pussy".

But I don't, because I love him, don't yell or say nasty words as a principle, and I know his ego cannot handle the idea that he acts "like a pussy"... But damn does it feel tempting...

It sounds like many of the complainers in this thread, and their spouses, are locked in mutual passive aggressive relationships where resentments fester because they are never aired out.

20 years with no orgasm, honey, if you let that happen and didn't do anything about it, it's on you just as much if not more than your husband.

If his breath reaks because he doesn't brush his teeth, TELL him that. "Honey I love you but your breath smells like ate dogshit. Go brush that stinkhole and gargle with plenty of Listerine."

I agree about the 20 years with no orgasm. She should have found a dude who was good in bed and had an affair on the side. That was an oversight on your part, PP.

Having an orgasm is not difficult, except for women who insist on making it difficult.

Even if your husband is a complete klutz in bed, is their anything stopping you from getting a little bullet vibe and rubbing your clit during sex with your clueless husband? Are you actually telling me women don't know how to get themselves off during sex? LOL bullshit.

"I've never had an orgasm during sex for 20 years with my husband" women are the women who don't want to have them because it gives them something to blame their husbands about.

These women are slobs and slugs and bring nothing to the table.

WOW!! Time to get out the tin foil hats! Women have started a conspiracy not to orgasm in order to "make things difficult". Because, ya know, at the end of the day, a woman's own sexual pleasure is so unimportant when you compare it to the grand mission of... making things difficult for men? Oh yeah, that's how much the world centers around males

Sounds like she gave her husband plenty of Os, thus bringing plenty to the table. The same cannot be said for him.

She's more gracious than me. I would have thrown him out with the bathwater.

[Anonymous]

First of all, a surprising number of men don't really care if their breath smells, or if their partner has an orgasm. They really don't care one way or the other. Women don't get that, just as they don't understand how a number of men don't care about whether things are clean or done a certain way. Certain men are simply results oriented, and as long as they get sex, get food, are comfortable and entertained, the details are not important. Was the plate clean? Meh. There was food. Did the woman cum? Meh. There was sex. Is the baby wearing dirty, backwards, too-small, non-matching clothes? Meh. It's dressed.

Second, any woman who finds that her partner can't or won't give her orgasms should give herself orgasms. Her orgasms are her responsibility. There are a lot of great toys. If you get trapped in a rigid notion that there's one right, pure, ideal way to have sex and have orgasms, and it doesn't work for you, you lose out. Of course, if your partner is selfish or eternally bumbling, naturally you don't feel like having sex with him. But when you do, get out the toys and make it as fun as you can. No need to be a martyr.

And yes, I said all this to my past partners who were sometimes bumbling or self-absorbed. They were often relieved and things were better and freer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First of all, a surprising number of men don't really care if their breath smells, or if their partner has an orgasm. They really don't care one way or the other. Women don't get that, just as they don't understand how a number of men don't care about whether things are clean or done a certain way. Certain men are simply results oriented, and as long as they get sex, get food, are comfortable and entertained, the details are not important. Was the plate clean? Meh. There was food. Did the woman cum? Meh. There was sex. Is the baby wearing dirty, backwards, too-small, non-matching clothes? Meh. It's dressed.

Second, any woman who finds that her partner can't or won't give her orgasms should give herself orgasms. Her orgasms are her responsibility. There are a lot of great toys. If you get trapped in a rigid notion that there's one right, pure, ideal way to have sex and have orgasms, and it doesn't work for you, you lose out. Of course, if your partner is selfish or eternally bumbling, naturally you don't feel like having sex with him. But when you do, get out the toys and make it as fun as you can. No need to be a martyr.

And yes, I said all this to my past partners who were sometimes bumbling or self-absorbed. They were often relieved and things were better and freer.

Oh please. Your excuse is very much "boys will be boys." Well it's 2016. Various things that used to be acceptable to women in the past (eg doing all of the housework) are no longer acceptable. Men need to get with the program because the sexual revolution happened decades ago.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you women need to speak up about the hygeine stuff.

I did, and after a few years of speaking up about the toothbrushing, it has actually worked! WHAAAAA???!!!!! Yes, it did. He now brushes, flosses, AND swishes! Not as often as I'd like, but ALWAYS before bed.

Yeah, baby. Nagging WORKS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you women need to speak up about the hygeine stuff.

I did, and after a few years of speaking up about the toothbrushing, it has actually worked! WHAAAAA???!!!!! Yes, it did. He now brushes, flosses, AND swishes! Not as often as I'd like, but ALWAYS before bed.

Yeah, baby. Nagging WORKS.

SWEET!!!

So your husband finally has mastered the behaviors that most people learn by age 11? Awesome.


Honestly, it says so much about men that they DONT do this shit unless women badger them to do it. Like... honestly what is wrong with them?

But if you ask that, then you're a mean harpy! Never mind the hate a woman would get if she went around with a dirty mouth and hadnt brushed her teeth in days.

[Anonymous]

I would like to tell my husband if he had loved me in the beginning as much as I loved him, I would not hate him as much as I do now and I'm planning on living alone when he retires.

He has become his father and I hated his father.