What would you really like to tell your spouse or partner but can't or won't?

[Anonymous]

- clean your hair out of the damn shower drain!
- I love you to death but yes, you are a total bitch for about 3-4 days during your cycle - and no, it's just not ok to behave that way
- stop complaining that the kids (boys) can't do anything - you undermine any attempt to teach them properly to take care of themselves (and to do things around the house) but continuing to pamper and baby them
- why can't you put the dirty dishes in the sink (instead of just leaving them on the countertop)?
- can I get a little help to keep the house tidy and neat? I mean seriously, how difficult is it to put your dirty laundry in the hamper instead of leaving it on the floor of our closet?
- and you know I do the vast majority of stuff in and around the house - you've repeatedly told your friends and your mom this...so how come our sex life is not more frequent?

- a frustrated DH who loves his DW

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:- clean your hair out of the damn shower drain!
- I love you to death but yes, you are a total bitch for about 3-4 days during your cycle - and no, it's just not ok to behave that way
- stop complaining that the kids (boys) can't do anything - you undermine any attempt to teach them properly to take care of themselves (and to do things around the house) but continuing to pamper and baby them
- why can't you put the dirty dishes in the sink (instead of just leaving them on the countertop)?
- can I get a little help to keep the house tidy and neat? I mean seriously, how difficult is it to put your dirty laundry in the hamper instead of leaving it on the floor of our closet?
- and you know I do the vast majority of stuff in and around the house - you've repeatedly told your friends and your mom this...so how come our sex life is not more frequent?

- a frustrated DH who loves his DW

I do things for DH, too, y'know. He doesn't even know that I make sure I (and our daughters) brush our hair before showering to make much of the loose hair ends up in the brush, not the drain. And that I actively set the hair that DOES come out in the shower aside and pick it up after the shower is done. And when he has a request ... he should make it known, and I will work on it. It might take a few years (like the toothbrushing -flossing-swishing more consistently thing), but yeah, I eventually started squeezing out the sponge instead of leaving it wet in the sink, and organizing all the silverware in the dishwasher so it was easier to put away after the cycle ran. Because it matters to him. A little bit, anyway. And yes, his nagging worked!!!

**by nagging we aren't nags ... we just make it known**

[Anonymous]

This thread makes me love my husband more.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:That when he whines and plays the victim for some really really absurd reason I wouldn't tolerate even for a child, I want to yell at him "MAN UP For Christ sake you are a unappealing pussy".

But I don't, because I love him, don't yell or say nasty words as a principle, and I know his ego cannot handle the idea that he acts "like a pussy"... But damn does it feel tempting...

It sounds like many of the complainers in this thread, and their spouses, are locked in mutual passive aggressive relationships where resentments fester because they are never aired out.

20 years with no orgasm, honey, if you let that happen and didn't do anything about it, it's on you just as much if not more than your husband.

If his breath reaks because he doesn't brush his teeth, TELL him that. "Honey I love you but your breath smells like ate dogshit. Go brush that stinkhole and gargle with plenty of Listerine."

I agree about the 20 years with no orgasm. She should have found a dude who was good in bed and had an affair on the side. That was an oversight on your part, PP.

Having an orgasm is not difficult, except for women who insist on making it difficult.

Even if your husband is a complete klutz in bed, is their anything stopping you from getting a little bullet vibe and rubbing your clit during sex with your clueless husband? Are you actually telling me women don't know how to get themselves off during sex? LOL bullshit.

"I've never had an orgasm during sex for 20 years with my husband" women are the women who don't want to have them because it gives them something to blame their husbands about.

These women are slobs and slugs and bring nothing to the table.

If I'm going to use a vibrator, why bother with the guy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:- clean your hair out of the damn shower drain!
- I love you to death but yes, you are a total bitch for about 3-4 days during your cycle - and no, it's just not ok to behave that way
- stop complaining that the kids (boys) can't do anything - you undermine any attempt to teach them properly to take care of themselves (and to do things around the house) but continuing to pamper and baby them
- why can't you put the dirty dishes in the sink (instead of just leaving them on the countertop)?
- can I get a little help to keep the house tidy and neat? I mean seriously, how difficult is it to put your dirty laundry in the hamper instead of leaving it on the floor of our closet?
- and you know I do the vast majority of stuff in and around the house - you've repeatedly told your friends and your mom this...so how come our sex life is not more frequent?

- a frustrated DH who loves his DW

Omg, if your list is that long maybe therapy.
Or, just pick that last one & focus on that

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Brush your teeth before going to bed. Seriously. Last night was like kissing a taco and was a real turn-off. This from a DH.

"Kissing a taco" - LOL!!! That is a good one

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:- clean your hair out of the damn shower drain!
- I love you to death but yes, you are a total bitch for about 3-4 days during your cycle - and no, it's just not ok to behave that way
- stop complaining that the kids (boys) can't do anything - you undermine any attempt to teach them properly to take care of themselves (and to do things around the house) but continuing to pamper and baby them
- why can't you put the dirty dishes in the sink (instead of just leaving them on the countertop)?
- can I get a little help to keep the house tidy and neat? I mean seriously, how difficult is it to put your dirty laundry in the hamper instead of leaving it on the floor of our closet?
- and you know I do the vast majority of stuff in and around the house - you've repeatedly told your friends and your mom this...so how come our sex life is not more frequent?

- a frustrated DH who loves his DW

Omg, if your list is that long maybe therapy.
Or, just pick that last one & focus on that

such a predictable answer (therapy) - and as if women don't have lists 2x or 3x as long. And of course, it's no surprise you don't get the sarcasm in that post save the last line

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:- clean your hair out of the damn shower drain!
- I love you to death but yes, you are a total bitch for about 3-4 days during your cycle - and no, it's just not ok to behave that way
- stop complaining that the kids (boys) can't do anything - you undermine any attempt to teach them properly to take care of themselves (and to do things around the house) but continuing to pamper and baby them
- why can't you put the dirty dishes in the sink (instead of just leaving them on the countertop)?
- can I get a little help to keep the house tidy and neat? I mean seriously, how difficult is it to put your dirty laundry in the hamper instead of leaving it on the floor of our closet?
- and you know I do the vast majority of stuff in and around the house - you've repeatedly told your friends and your mom this...so how come our sex life is not more frequent?

- a frustrated DH who loves his DW

Omg, if your list is that long maybe therapy.
Or, just pick that last one & focus on that

You see stressed out

such a predictable answer (therapy) - and as if women don't have lists 2x or 3x as long. And of course, it's no surprise you don't get the sarcasm in that post save the last line

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:- clean your hair out of the damn shower drain!
- I love you to death but yes, you are a total bitch for about 3-4 days during your cycle - and no, it's just not ok to behave that way
- stop complaining that the kids (boys) can't do anything - you undermine any attempt to teach them properly to take care of themselves (and to do things around the house) but continuing to pamper and baby them
- why can't you put the dirty dishes in the sink (instead of just leaving them on the countertop)?
- can I get a little help to keep the house tidy and neat? I mean seriously, how difficult is it to put your dirty laundry in the hamper instead of leaving it on the floor of our closet?
- and you know I do the vast majority of stuff in and around the house - you've repeatedly told your friends and your mom this...so how come our sex life is not more frequent?

- a frustrated DH who loves his DW

Omg, if your list is that long maybe therapy.
Or, just pick that last one & focus on that

such a predictable answer (therapy) - and as if women don't have lists 2x or 3x as long. And of course, it's no surprise you don't get the sarcasm in that post save the last line

You seem stressed out

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:- clean your hair out of the damn shower drain!
- I love you to death but yes, you are a total bitch for about 3-4 days during your cycle - and no, it's just not ok to behave that way
- stop complaining that the kids (boys) can't do anything - you undermine any attempt to teach them properly to take care of themselves (and to do things around the house) but continuing to pamper and baby them
- why can't you put the dirty dishes in the sink (instead of just leaving them on the countertop)?
- can I get a little help to keep the house tidy and neat? I mean seriously, how difficult is it to put your dirty laundry in the hamper instead of leaving it on the floor of our closet?
- and you know I do the vast majority of stuff in and around the house - you've repeatedly told your friends and your mom this...so how come our sex life is not more frequent?

- a frustrated DH who loves his DW

It IS okay to act like a total bitch during menstrual cycle. In fact, it's the one privilege the menstrual cycle affords us!

You try bleeding out of your penis hole for 5 days, having shooting, excruciating pain in your hips, having weird bowel issues at the same time, no energy, and your hormones going crazy! THEN... and only then... can you judge!

No ovaries- NO OPINION!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:- clean your hair out of the damn shower drain!
- I love you to death but yes, you are a total bitch for about 3-4 days during your cycle - and no, it's just not ok to behave that way
- stop complaining that the kids (boys) can't do anything - you undermine any attempt to teach them properly to take care of themselves (and to do things around the house) but continuing to pamper and baby them
- why can't you put the dirty dishes in the sink (instead of just leaving them on the countertop)?
- can I get a little help to keep the house tidy and neat? I mean seriously, how difficult is it to put your dirty laundry in the hamper instead of leaving it on the floor of our closet?
- and you know I do the vast majority of stuff in and around the house - you've repeatedly told your friends and your mom this...so how come our sex life is not more frequent?

- a frustrated DH who loves his DW

There are men that do dishes and keep the house tidy and neat? And you do the vast majority of things? And want frequent sex?
I married the wrong guy.

[Anonymous]

That how you always bring the cost of something or money into every single conversation with friends and it's embarrassing. You're that guy who always talks about money.

That I wish I could tell your friends how low your sex drive is. Considering how often you say crude remarks and talk about sex they would be shocked. Or maybe they wouldn't.

[Anonymous]

That I wish he was uncircumcised

[Anonymous]

Typo, I wish he WASN'T uncircumsised

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:That DH's high school friend/ex short term gf is nice and all but that I think her twice yearly 'pleasant emails' are, in part, to keep her foot in the door in case I screw up or die or whatever and it's just kind of obvious. That I remember him telling me that her husband sucks in bed and has a lot of hang ups and, well, he doesn't so it's like she's a vulture circling...

I have the same problem.

Oh, I'm sorry. It's so weird. It did help for me to point out to her that I was reading the stuff she was sending my husband.
She really went kind of nuclear which concerns me - why did she have expectations of privacy with someone else's husband?
Why did that bother her so much? It's like she lives in her own little weird fantasy world.
So, now she says she won't contact my husband at all, won't go to her high school reunion (boo fucking hoo - who cares?
She's 48 years old!). So, it's inappropriate relationship or nothing apparently.

My husband called what I did 'very effective' and found it kind of amusing. I wish he wouldn't do stuff like that - why not just temper things himself?
I'm not impressed. He does know that. Life is back to normal and I love the man.

Mrs overly religious doesn't seem so religious to me (they're hosting conservative politicians at their home even - figures).

I'm a good wife and partner - but apparently not good enough or he wouldn't be doing this kind of thing.
It is what it is.

I did chat with him about it and he said one reason he didn't marry her (he had the opportunity to pair off with her he said) is because she's kind of a slut!
Miss religious picked guys up for one night stands from places like the gym all the time. Apparently that's not terribly attractive to men in a life partner.

Oh - that makes it so much better doesn't it?!

It actually does and it's pretty darn funny that he would tell me that.