Wedding Gifts for future daughter in law

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Anonymous wrote:What about some lovely lingerie? Every bride needs some

My mil did this to me. It was so awful. So awkward.

How? Lingerie is lingerie.

Spoken like a true #boymom.

“Don’t forget, Billy loves red. It really gets him going! Va-va-voom! Slip this on and think of me when he bends you over.”

Please. It’s custom in some cultures for the bride to get lingerie from family members.

And? That doesn’t make it any less creepy in America in 2023. But by all means, give your DIL lingerie and be That MIL. She’ll have something to tell her friends, and they can all say ewwww and laugh.

Meh. I think it’s a lovely gift

Especially with a lovely note: “Dearest Alice, I hope Jack will get wicked sprung when you emerge from the bathroom in this. May your womb soon quicken with his strong seed. Love forever, Mom-Mom”

Looks like the kids are on again.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 34 so not a boomer but you can get their wedding invitation engraved on a silver plate at really nice jewelry stores and I think that’s awesome. Alternatively how about their invitation framed in a beautiful frame.
Or, a portrait of their first house on canvas. Can get this on Etsy.

Do people really want and display these things in their house? I enjoyed my wedding and all but there is literally not one item from our wedding in the house, other than a photo album that is tucked away. These things just seem very mawkish and, well, middlebrow.

I have my wedding invitation, my parents’ wedding invitation, and both sets of my grandparents’ wedding invitations, all framed and on display around a mirror in the butler’s pantry, above a bar cart. I would have DH’s parents’ and grandparents’ invitations displayed as well, but they did not hang onto any copies. MIL huffs about it and I’ve even offered to take her to Crane’s and re-create as best we can for all of their family’s invitations, with dates and locations, but she refuses. Oh well.

Thinking about my wedding brings me joy. Not everyone is so focused on not seeming "middlebrow"

I'd wager you are much more sentimental about family invitations than the average bride.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 34 so not a boomer but you can get their wedding invitation engraved on a silver plate at really nice jewelry stores and I think that’s awesome. Alternatively how about their invitation framed in a beautiful frame.
Or, a portrait of their first house on canvas. Can get this on Etsy.

Do people really want and display these things in their house? I enjoyed my wedding and all but there is literally not one item from our wedding in the house, other than a photo album that is tucked away. These things just seem very mawkish and, well, middlebrow.

I have my wedding invitation, my parents’ wedding invitation, and both sets of my grandparents’ wedding invitations, all framed and on display around a mirror in the butler’s pantry, above a bar cart. I would have DH’s parents’ and grandparents’ invitations displayed as well, but they did not hang onto any copies. MIL huffs about it and I’ve even offered to take her to Crane’s and re-create as best we can for all of their family’s invitations, with dates and locations, but she refuses. Oh well.

Thinking about my wedding brings me joy. Not everyone is so focused on not seeming "middlebrow"

I'd wager you are much more sentimental about family invitations than the average bride.

NP. And? So? Some people love good invitations. Others focus on the dress, others the flowers, etc. I work in publishing, and you bet I paid a lot of attention to our invitation, and have it framed. People Are Different From You. -NP

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m 34 so not a boomer but you can get their wedding invitation engraved on a silver plate at really nice jewelry stores and I think that’s awesome. Alternatively how about their invitation framed in a beautiful frame.
Or, a portrait of their first house on canvas. Can get this on Etsy.

Do people really want and display these things in their house? I enjoyed my wedding and all but there is literally not one item from our wedding in the house, other than a photo album that is tucked away. These things just seem very mawkish and, well, middlebrow.

I have my wedding invitation, my parents’ wedding invitation, and both sets of my grandparents’ wedding invitations, all framed and on display around a mirror in the butler’s pantry, above a bar cart. I would have DH’s parents’ and grandparents’ invitations displayed as well, but they did not hang onto any copies. MIL huffs about it and I’ve even offered to take her to Crane’s and re-create as best we can for all of their family’s invitations, with dates and locations, but she refuses. Oh well.

Thinking about my wedding brings me joy. Not everyone is so focused on not seeming "middlebrow"

I'd wager you are much more sentimental about family invitations than the average bride.

NP. And? So? Some people love good invitations. Others focus on the dress, others the flowers, etc. I work in publishing, and you bet I paid a lot of attention to our invitation, and have it framed. People Are Different From You. -NP

I'm referring to the pp who has all her family's invites framed and hung. That's a lot.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 34 so not a boomer but you can get their wedding invitation engraved on a silver plate at really nice jewelry stores and I think that’s awesome. Alternatively how about their invitation framed in a beautiful frame.
Or, a portrait of their first house on canvas. Can get this on Etsy.

Do people really want and display these things in their house? I enjoyed my wedding and all but there is literally not one item from our wedding in the house, other than a photo album that is tucked away. These things just seem very mawkish and, well, middlebrow.

I have my wedding invitation, my parents’ wedding invitation, and both sets of my grandparents’ wedding invitations, all framed and on display around a mirror in the butler’s pantry, above a bar cart. I would have DH’s parents’ and grandparents’ invitations displayed as well, but they did not hang onto any copies. MIL huffs about it and I’ve even offered to take her to Crane’s and re-create as best we can for all of their family’s invitations, with dates and locations, but she refuses. Oh well.

Thinking about my wedding brings me joy. Not everyone is so focused on not seeming "middlebrow"

I'd wager you are much more sentimental about family invitations than the average bride.

NP. And? So? Some people love good invitations. Others focus on the dress, others the flowers, etc. I work in publishing, and you bet I paid a lot of attention to our invitation, and have it framed. People Are Different From You. -NP

I'm referring to the pp who has all her family's invites framed and hung. That's a lot.

OK? It’s still filed under “People are Different From You.” I’ve seen people decorate with elaborate family trees, huge wall of framed family photos, artwork by a relative, one of those “these are the stars from the day you were born” art things, framed diplomas, deer head shot by grandpa, and yes, framed wedding invitations past and present. This is all family memorabilia displayed. I’m not sure what about that is so very odd to you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What about some lovely lingerie? Every bride needs some

My mil did this to me. It was so awful. So awkward.

How? Lingerie is lingerie.

Spoken like a true #boymom.

“Don’t forget, Billy loves red. It really gets him going! Va-va-voom! Slip this on and think of me when he bends you over.”

Please. It’s custom in some cultures for the bride to get lingerie from family members.

Yeah in some cultures they bring out the bedsheets like back in the 1800s

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 34 so not a boomer but you can get their wedding invitation engraved on a silver plate at really nice jewelry stores and I think that’s awesome. Alternatively how about their invitation framed in a beautiful frame.
Or, a portrait of their first house on canvas. Can get this on Etsy.

Do people really want and display these things in their house? I enjoyed my wedding and all but there is literally not one item from our wedding in the house, other than a photo album that is tucked away. These things just seem very mawkish and, well, middlebrow.

I have my wedding invitation, my parents’ wedding invitation, and both sets of my grandparents’ wedding invitations, all framed and on display around a mirror in the butler’s pantry, above a bar cart. I would have DH’s parents’ and grandparents’ invitations displayed as well, but they did not hang onto any copies. MIL huffs about it and I’ve even offered to take her to Crane’s and re-create as best we can for all of their family’s invitations, with dates and locations, but she refuses. Oh well.

Thinking about my wedding brings me joy. Not everyone is so focused on not seeming "middlebrow"

I'd wager you are much more sentimental about family invitations than the average bride.

NP. And? So? Some people love good invitations. Others focus on the dress, others the flowers, etc. I work in publishing, and you bet I paid a lot of attention to our invitation, and have it framed. People Are Different From You. -NP

I'm referring to the pp who has all her family's invites framed and hung. That's a lot.

OK? It’s still filed under “People are Different From You.” I’ve seen people decorate with elaborate family trees, huge wall of framed family photos, artwork by a relative, one of those “these are the stars from the day you were born” art things, framed diplomas, deer head shot by grandpa, and yes, framed wedding invitations past and present. This is all family memorabilia displayed. I’m not sure what about that is so very odd to you.

Do you even have the tiniest bit of a sense of humor?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What about some lovely lingerie? Every bride needs some

My mil did this to me. It was so awful. So awkward.

How? Lingerie is lingerie.

Spoken like a true #boymom.

“Don’t forget, Billy loves red. It really gets him going! Va-va-voom! Slip this on and think of me when he bends you over.”

Please. It’s custom in some cultures for the bride to get lingerie from family members.

And? That doesn’t make it any less creepy in America in 2023. But by all means, give your DIL lingerie and be That MIL. She’ll have something to tell her friends, and they can all say ewwww and laugh.

Meh. I think it’s a lovely gift

Especially with a lovely note: “Dearest Alice, I hope Jack will get wicked sprung when you emerge from the bathroom in this. May your womb soon quicken with his strong seed. Love forever, Mom-Mom”

I love you so much.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What about some lovely lingerie? Every bride needs some

My mil did this to me. It was so awful. So awkward.

How? Lingerie is lingerie.

Spoken like a true #boymom.

“Don’t forget, Billy loves red. It really gets him going! Va-va-voom! Slip this on and think of me when he bends you over.”

Please. It’s custom in some cultures for the bride to get lingerie from family members.

And? That doesn’t make it any less creepy in America in 2023. But by all means, give your DIL lingerie and be That MIL. She’ll have something to tell her friends, and they can all say ewwww and laugh.

Meh. I think it’s a lovely gift

My mother in law gave me very nice lingerie that I appreciated.

My MIL was too prim and proper to give me lingerie but I would have enjoyed receiving it as long as she got the right size. DH's aunt gave me a lovely ivory silk chemise and robe. Not everyone has a hangup about their MILs or older female relatives giving them lingerie. Now sex toys--that's strictly bachelorette party!

+1

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Anonymous wrote:Silver candlesticks. My mom used hers every day and so do I. Will likely get them for all of our kids.

I got a set from our wedding and it felt like such an impersonal gift. We never use them.

So again, ask the DIL. You don't want this to turn into a resentment fest.

We all need silver candlesticks. You’re gonna be screwed when you help that homeless person who you let stay with you who then steals your candlesticks, is caught by the cops and is exonerated by you when you show up and say you gave them to them which results in homeless person experiencing such an epiphany that much singing and dancing ensues.

You’re screwed if you don’t have silver candlesticks.

That is right.
But my friend you left so early
Surely something slipped your mind
You forgot I gave these also;
Would you leave the best behind?
So, Messieurs, you may release him
For this man has spoken true.
I commend you for your duty
And God's blessing go with you.

And I know she shows me kindness
She is the best mil I know
But if she gives me polyester lingerie
I will not be able to O

[Anonymous]

Get her some sapphire earrings. That vovers the something blue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get her some sapphire earrings. That vovers the something blue.

Have you read a single prior post?

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 34 so not a boomer but you can get their wedding invitation engraved on a silver plate at really nice jewelry stores and I think that’s awesome. Alternatively how about their invitation framed in a beautiful frame.
Or, a portrait of their first house on canvas. Can get this on Etsy.

Do people really want and display these things in their house? I enjoyed my wedding and all but there is literally not one item from our wedding in the house, other than a photo album that is tucked away. These things just seem very mawkish and, well, middlebrow.

I have my wedding invitation, my parents’ wedding invitation, and both sets of my grandparents’ wedding invitations, all framed and on display around a mirror in the butler’s pantry, above a bar cart. I would have DH’s parents’ and grandparents’ invitations displayed as well, but they did not hang onto any copies. MIL huffs about it and I’ve even offered to take her to Crane’s and re-create as best we can for all of their family’s invitations, with dates and locations, but she refuses. Oh well.

Thinking about my wedding brings me joy. Not everyone is so focused on not seeming "middlebrow"

I'd wager you are much more sentimental about family invitations than the average bride.

NP. And? So? Some people love good invitations. Others focus on the dress, others the flowers, etc. I work in publishing, and you bet I paid a lot of attention to our invitation, and have it framed. People Are Different From You. -NP

I'm referring to the pp who has all her family's invites framed and hung. That's a lot.

I think the generations of wedding invitations hanging on the wall sounds lovely. I have never seen anything like that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 34 so not a boomer but you can get their wedding invitation engraved on a silver plate at really nice jewelry stores and I think that’s awesome. Alternatively how about their invitation framed in a beautiful frame.
Or, a portrait of their first house on canvas. Can get this on Etsy.

Do people really want and display these things in their house? I enjoyed my wedding and all but there is literally not one item from our wedding in the house, other than a photo album that is tucked away. These things just seem very mawkish and, well, middlebrow.

I have my wedding invitation, my parents’ wedding invitation, and both sets of my grandparents’ wedding invitations, all framed and on display around a mirror in the butler’s pantry, above a bar cart. I would have DH’s parents’ and grandparents’ invitations displayed as well, but they did not hang onto any copies. MIL huffs about it and I’ve even offered to take her to Crane’s and re-create as best we can for all of their family’s invitations, with dates and locations, but she refuses. Oh well.

Thinking about my wedding brings me joy. Not everyone is so focused on not seeming "middlebrow"

I'd wager you are much more sentimental about family invitations than the average bride.

NP. And? So? Some people love good invitations. Others focus on the dress, others the flowers, etc. I work in publishing, and you bet I paid a lot of attention to our invitation, and have it framed. People Are Different From You. -NP

I'm referring to the pp who has all her family's invites framed and hung. That's a lot.

I think the generations of wedding invitations hanging on the wall sounds lovely. I have never seen anything like that.

Me neither.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Silver candlesticks. My mom used hers every day and so do I. Will likely get them for all of our kids.

I got a set from our wedding and it felt like such an impersonal gift. We never use them.

So again, ask the DIL. You don't want this to turn into a resentment fest.

We all need silver candlesticks. You’re gonna be screwed when you help that homeless person who you let stay with you who then steals your candlesticks, is caught by the cops and is exonerated by you when you show up and say you gave them to them which results in homeless person experiencing such an epiphany that much singing and dancing ensues.

You’re screwed if you don’t have silver candlesticks.

That is right.
But my friend you left so early
Surely something slipped your mind
You forgot I gave these also;
Would you leave the best behind?
So, Messieurs, you may release him
For this man has spoken true.
I commend you for your duty
And God's blessing go with you.

And I know she shows me kindness
She is the best mil I know
But if she gives me polyester lingerie
I will not be able to O

You're funny!