Wedding Gifts for future daughter in law

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 34 so not a boomer but you can get their wedding invitation engraved on a silver plate at really nice jewelry stores and I think that’s awesome. Alternatively how about their invitation framed in a beautiful frame.
Or, a portrait of their first house on canvas. Can get this on Etsy.

Do people really want and display these things in their house? I enjoyed my wedding and all but there is literally not one item from our wedding in the house, other than a photo album that is tucked away. These things just seem very mawkish and, well, middlebrow.

I have my wedding invitation, my parents’ wedding invitation, and both sets of my grandparents’ wedding invitations, all framed and on display around a mirror in the butler’s pantry, above a bar cart. I would have DH’s parents’ and grandparents’ invitations displayed as well, but they did not hang onto any copies. MIL huffs about it and I’ve even offered to take her to Crane’s and re-create as best we can for all of their family’s invitations, with dates and locations, but she refuses. Oh well.

Thinking about my wedding brings me joy. Not everyone is so focused on not seeming "middlebrow"

I'd wager you are much more sentimental about family invitations than the average bride.

NP. And? So? Some people love good invitations. Others focus on the dress, others the flowers, etc. I work in publishing, and you bet I paid a lot of attention to our invitation, and have it framed. People Are Different From You. -NP

I'm referring to the pp who has all her family's invites framed and hung. That's a lot.

I think the generations of wedding invitations hanging on the wall sounds lovely. I have never seen anything like that.

There’s a reason you haven’t seen that!

Digitally printed wedding invitations with a pick-a-theme “design” produced by wedding websites with details including receptions in Ballroom 3 of a mid-priced chain hotel usually don’t get framed, you are correct.

I've never seen a collection of framed invitations hanging on a wall. The invitation is usually seen in the wedding album.

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Anonymous wrote:ask your son to ask her. and then listen. the end.

I would just get fancy high end lingerie bc the son will enjoy it as much as the wife.

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Anonymous wrote:my future daughter in law does not wear jewelry. I'm looking for ideas for something special to give her to officially welcome her into our family. Almost everything special I find is jewelry, and unfortunately that is out. I want to give her something special at her shower, so I also need ideas for that, but primarily looking for a gift I can give her on the day of the wedding. I want it to be meaningful and I've seen plaques, etc., but nothing seems to compare to the significance a piece of jewelry would have.

Any ideas?

a kind sentiment and step in the right direction with future SIL

+1 to ring quilt or heirloom type thing

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Anonymous wrote:A spa package

+1

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 34 so not a boomer but you can get their wedding invitation engraved on a silver plate at really nice jewelry stores and I think that’s awesome. Alternatively how about their invitation framed in a beautiful frame.
Or, a portrait of their first house on canvas. Can get this on Etsy.

Do people really want and display these things in their house? I enjoyed my wedding and all but there is literally not one item from our wedding in the house, other than a photo album that is tucked away. These things just seem very mawkish and, well, middlebrow.

I have my wedding invitation, my parents’ wedding invitation, and both sets of my grandparents’ wedding invitations, all framed and on display around a mirror in the butler’s pantry, above a bar cart. I would have DH’s parents’ and grandparents’ invitations displayed as well, but they did not hang onto any copies. MIL huffs about it and I’ve even offered to take her to Crane’s and re-create as best we can for all of their family’s invitations, with dates and locations, but she refuses. Oh well.

Thinking about my wedding brings me joy. Not everyone is so focused on not seeming "middlebrow"

I'd wager you are much more sentimental about family invitations than the average bride.

NP. And? So? Some people love good invitations. Others focus on the dress, others the flowers, etc. I work in publishing, and you bet I paid a lot of attention to our invitation, and have it framed. People Are Different From You. -NP

I'm referring to the pp who has all her family's invites framed and hung. That's a lot.

I think the generations of wedding invitations hanging on the wall sounds lovely. I have never seen anything like that.

There’s a reason you haven’t seen that!

Digitally printed wedding invitations with a pick-a-theme “design” produced by wedding websites with details including receptions in Ballroom 3 of a mid-priced chain hotel usually don’t get framed, you are correct.

I've never seen a collection of framed invitations hanging on a wall. The invitation is usually seen in the wedding album.

And? What's your point?

[Anonymous]

My MIL gave us the duvet set we requested on our registry and then on our 1st anniversary very simple, elegant crystal (not cut) candlesticks. I enjoy them and use them as our regular “good” candlesticks.

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My MIL got me a Llardo nurse for graduation - maybe something similar?

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Anonymous wrote:A beautiful piece of crystal from home goods or mikasa!!!

Chiming in on page 20 with that, eh? Did you read anything at all?

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Anonymous wrote:my future daughter in law does not wear jewelry. I'm looking for ideas for something special to give her to officially welcome her into our family. Almost everything special I find is jewelry, and unfortunately that is out. I want to give her something special at her shower, so I also need ideas for that, but primarily looking for a gift I can give her on the day of the wedding. I want it to be meaningful and I've seen plaques, etc., but nothing seems to compare to the significance a piece of jewelry would have.

Any ideas?

For the wedding day I would only do a beautiful note written on your stationary.

A framed picture or painting of a place that is meaningful to the couple. Not something that only relates to your son! Ideas would be their first home, memory of where they got engaged. I got my DIL a pretty clutch that had Mrs xxxxxx beaded on it. She loved it!

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Anonymous wrote:ask your son to ask her. and then listen. the end.

I would just get fancy high end lingerie bc the son will enjoy it as much as the wife.

+1

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What about a gift certificate to the home depot or target for home items

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 34 so not a boomer but you can get their wedding invitation engraved on a silver plate at really nice jewelry stores and I think that’s awesome. Alternatively how about their invitation framed in a beautiful frame.
Or, a portrait of their first house on canvas. Can get this on Etsy.

Do people really want and display these things in their house? I enjoyed my wedding and all but there is literally not one item from our wedding in the house, other than a photo album that is tucked away. These things just seem very mawkish and, well, middlebrow.

I have my wedding invitation, my parents’ wedding invitation, and both sets of my grandparents’ wedding invitations, all framed and on display around a mirror in the butler’s pantry, above a bar cart. I would have DH’s parents’ and grandparents’ invitations displayed as well, but they did not hang onto any copies. MIL huffs about it and I’ve even offered to take her to Crane’s and re-create as best we can for all of their family’s invitations, with dates and locations, but she refuses. Oh well.

Thinking about my wedding brings me joy. Not everyone is so focused on not seeming "middlebrow"

I'd wager you are much more sentimental about family invitations than the average bride.

NP. And? So? Some people love good invitations. Others focus on the dress, others the flowers, etc. I work in publishing, and you bet I paid a lot of attention to our invitation, and have it framed. People Are Different From You. -NP

I'm referring to the pp who has all her family's invites framed and hung. That's a lot.

I think the generations of wedding invitations hanging on the wall sounds lovely. I have never seen anything like that.

There’s a reason you haven’t seen that!

+1 definitely a reason

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I am a serious gardener and do t wear jewelry and am touched by the idea of a sunflower arbor, so maybe I am a bit like your DIL. How about a high quality teak (or similar) garden bench? I would never spend $800 on a garden bench, but I would LOVE one. My parents have one that has lasted for 50 years.

The other garden thing I’d love but won’t buy for myself is a bird bath made from a large stone - the big ones are 24” across or so, and have a hollow carved into it for water. Perfect for birds, unlike most of the junk that gets advertised as a bird bath.

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Anonymous wrote:my future daughter in law does not wear jewelry. I'm looking for ideas for something special to give her to officially welcome her into our family. Almost everything special I find is jewelry, and unfortunately that is out. I want to give her something special at her shower, so I also need ideas for that, but primarily looking for a gift I can give her on the day of the wedding. I want it to be meaningful and I've seen plaques, etc., but nothing seems to compare to the significance a piece of jewelry would have.

Any ideas?

For the wedding day I would only do a beautiful note written on your stationary.

A framed picture or painting of a place that is meaningful to the couple. Not something that only relates to your son! Ideas would be their first home, memory of where they got engaged. I got my DIL a pretty clutch that had Mrs xxxxxx beaded on it. She loved it!

Love this sentiment. And something that says "Mrs. Jones" proves you are not insecure or fell "ousted" - like some MILs might. Agree OP - something hand written, from the heart - not all about you, but welcoming her to the family and saying something nice about her, and her and your son, since it is their special day. DIL will realize that you are not selfish, and this could go a long way.

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Anonymous wrote:A gift for my niece that did double duty at the bridal shower and wedding. She uses it now for keepsakes from wedding. It’s acrylic and etched. Etched is key, and you won’t find anything of this quality. Fully customizable. I chose the clear acrylic 10x10 box with heart shaped faux diamond lock. I requested the elongated “and” in second pic. You can use their first names if the future bride is keeping her maiden name. Since your DIL is a gardener, you can add a small dried floral bunch inside or out. Set it on the gift table at shower and same for wedding. Works with any decor theme.

This Etsy vendor is a incredible. https://www.etsy.com/listing/1142178243/mr-an...ctive_84&frs=1&sts=1

That's a rip off. Just buy her a vinyl cutting machine and she can make that in an hour.