Wedding Gifts for future daughter in law

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Anonymous wrote:A piece of art for her home? A nice bag of some kind - purse/briefcase/backpack or nice luggage she can use in her married life? What does she like, you haven’t given us much to go on except she doesn’t like jewelry.

She loves gardening, loves the outdoors, is a nurse, has beautiful long hair (maybe a special hair clip...I just thought of that one )

A piece of artwork for her home might be a good one. I just keep comparing everything to a piece of heirloom jewelry and nothing seems to compare. But a piece of special art work might be something that can become an heirloom.

Art is so personal, though. Unless she has mentioned an artist or painting, how would you know if she liked it?

My very well meaning in laws have given us a few items to hang on our walls and a large piece of furniture. Now that I think about it, the furniture was a wedding present. I very much appreciate the sentiment, but none are items I would have chosen and I’d like to pass them on to someone else, but I feel obligated to keep them to not hurt their feelings.

I vote no on art.

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A nice pair of diamond studs would be lovely!!

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Anonymous wrote:my future daughter in law does not wear jewelry. I'm looking for ideas for something special to give her to officially welcome her into our family. Almost everything special I find is jewelry, and unfortunately that is out. I want to give her something special at her shower, so I also need ideas for that, but primarily looking for a gift I can give her on the day of the wedding. I want it to be meaningful and I've seen plaques, etc., but nothing seems to compare to the significance a piece of jewelry would have.

Any ideas?

For the wedding day I would only do a beautiful note written on your stationary.

A framed picture or painting of a place that is meaningful to the couple. Not something that only relates to your son! Ideas would be their first home, memory of where they got engaged. I got my DIL a pretty clutch that had Mrs xxxxxx beaded on it. She loved it!

Love this sentiment. And something that says "Mrs. Jones" proves you are not insecure or fell "ousted" - like some MILs might. Agree OP - something hand written, from the heart - not all about you, but welcoming her to the family and saying something nice about her, and her and your son, since it is their special day. DIL will realize that you are not selfish, and this could go a long way.

OP here. so many great suggestions and opinions. I've already had the fun of getting her a custom new water bottle ( her favorite color and style) with "Mrs. Smith (not our name) Est. 2023". on it. She cried, I cried...it was another touching moment between myself and this wonderful, kind, loving girl who already calls me mom and wants me to call her my daughter. Our families have been friends for over 10 years and I've watched her grow up and predicted this wedding probably before my son even did lol.

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Anonymous wrote:my future daughter in law does not wear jewelry. I'm looking for ideas for something special to give her to officially welcome her into our family. Almost everything special I find is jewelry, and unfortunately that is out. I want to give her something special at her shower, so I also need ideas for that, but primarily looking for a gift I can give her on the day of the wedding. I want it to be meaningful and I've seen plaques, etc., but nothing seems to compare to the significance a piece of jewelry would have.

Any ideas?

For the wedding day I would only do a beautiful note written on your stationary.

A framed picture or painting of a place that is meaningful to the couple. Not something that only relates to your son! Ideas would be their first home, memory of where they got engaged. I got my DIL a pretty clutch that had Mrs xxxxxx beaded on it. She loved it!

OP here. I love this idea. The note is something that I've thought of, and is honestly exactly what I want to do because it will be very meaningful to both of us. I may just include the picture, too, as I think that will be really nice. I don't need it to be an expensive gift, as we have already bought some actual "gifts" like furniture that they needed etc. It's more about the sentiment for me. Which is why if she liked jewelry, I would have like to give her something of mine. Thank you for your suggestions

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Anonymous wrote:I am Gen x-- between Boomer and Gen y. And I would just say... so much of the boomer crystal, gold, etc. -- it's just not going to land with people in their 20s and early 30s. Iwas about to say also that you could get her a pair of diamond studs, but that's $$, and then maybe a pair of quality pearl studs - and think about my own MIL would would think that a pair of $20 were the same as $200 and expect me to LOVE them. I know i sound like a snob.

Does any of you read? OP was ready to pay $$$ for a piece of heirloom jewelry but DIL does not wear Jewelry.

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Maybe very high quality bedding? Sheets, pillow, duvet, duvet cover? And a gift certificate for a new high end mattress?

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe very high quality bedding? Sheets, pillow, duvet, duvet cover? And a gift certificate for a new high end mattress?

So the bride has to think about her MIL every time she wants to hit the sheets with DH?

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 34 so not a boomer but you can get their wedding invitation engraved on a silver plate at really nice jewelry stores and I think that’s awesome. Alternatively how about their invitation framed in a beautiful frame.
Or, a portrait of their first house on canvas. Can get this on Etsy.

Do people really want and display these things in their house? I enjoyed my wedding and all but there is literally not one item from our wedding in the house, other than a photo album that is tucked away. These things just seem very mawkish and, well, middlebrow.

I have my wedding invitation, my parents’ wedding invitation, and both sets of my grandparents’ wedding invitations, all framed and on display around a mirror in the butler’s pantry, above a bar cart. I would have DH’s parents’ and grandparents’ invitations displayed as well, but they did not hang onto any copies. MIL huffs about it and I’ve even offered to take her to Crane’s and re-create as best we can for all of their family’s invitations, with dates and locations, but she refuses. Oh well.

Thinking about my wedding brings me joy. Not everyone is so focused on not seeming "middlebrow"

I'd wager you are much more sentimental about family invitations than the average bride.

NP. And? So? Some people love good invitations. Others focus on the dress, others the flowers, etc. I work in publishing, and you bet I paid a lot of attention to our invitation, and have it framed. People Are Different From You. -NP

I'm referring to the pp who has all her family's invites framed and hung. That's a lot.

I think the generations of wedding invitations hanging on the wall sounds lovely. I have never seen anything like that.

There’s a reason you haven’t seen that!

+1 definitely a reason

Yes, and the reason is your family has receptions at the K of C, the New Jersey four-a-day reception halls, and the Grand Ballroom of the Radisson Inn. When you are the third generation to get married in the National Cathedral, it is a different story.

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Anonymous wrote:A piece of art for her home? A nice bag of some kind - purse/briefcase/backpack or nice luggage she can use in her married life? What does she like, you haven’t given us much to go on except she doesn’t like jewelry.

She loves gardening, loves the outdoors, is a nurse, has beautiful long hair (maybe a special hair clip...I just thought of that one )

A piece of artwork for her home might be a good one. I just keep comparing everything to a piece of heirloom jewelry and nothing seems to compare. But a piece of special art work might be something that can become an heirloom.

Art is so personal, though. Unless she has mentioned an artist or painting, how would you know if she liked it?

My very well meaning in laws have given us a few items to hang on our walls and a large piece of furniture. Now that I think about it, the furniture was a wedding present. I very much appreciate the sentiment, but none are items I would have chosen and I’d like to pass them on to someone else, but I feel obligated to keep them to not hurt their feelings.

I vote no on art.

Agreed, no to art. An expensive crystal vase is a good idea, because presumably a gardener would use it, but it's not something you buy for yourself. I still treasure the vase my MIL gave me, and use it all the time, like when I pick up a bouquet that's on sale at the grocery store.

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Anonymous wrote:A piece of art for her home? A nice bag of some kind - purse/briefcase/backpack or nice luggage she can use in her married life? What does she like, you haven’t given us much to go on except she doesn’t like jewelry.

She loves gardening, loves the outdoors, is a nurse, has beautiful long hair (maybe a special hair clip...I just thought of that one )

A piece of artwork for her home might be a good one. I just keep comparing everything to a piece of heirloom jewelry and nothing seems to compare. But a piece of special art work might be something that can become an heirloom.

Art is so personal, though. Unless she has mentioned an artist or painting, how would you know if she liked it?

My very well meaning in laws have given us a few items to hang on our walls and a large piece of furniture. Now that I think about it, the furniture was a wedding present. I very much appreciate the sentiment, but none are items I would have chosen and I’d like to pass them on to someone else, but I feel obligated to keep them to not hurt their feelings.

I vote no on art.

Agreed, no to art. An expensive crystal vase is a good idea, because presumably a gardener would use it, but it's not something you buy for yourself. I still treasure the vase my MIL gave me, and use it all the time, like when I pick up a bouquet that's on sale at the grocery store.

Agree with the crystal vase!

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Anonymous wrote:A beautiful piece of crystal from home goods or mikasa!!!

Yes this. It means more cystal from Waterford or Mikasa that I get for next to nothing at the thrift store for crafting projects.

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Anonymous wrote:A gift for my niece that did double duty at the bridal shower and wedding. She uses it now for keepsakes from wedding. It’s acrylic and etched. Etched is key, and you won’t find anything of this quality. Fully customizable. I chose the clear acrylic 10x10 box with heart shaped faux diamond lock. I requested the elongated “and” in second pic. You can use their first names if the future bride is keeping her maiden name. Since your DIL is a gardener, you can add a small dried floral bunch inside or out. Set it on the gift table at shower and same for wedding. Works with any decor theme.

This Etsy vendor is a incredible. https://www.etsy.com/listing/1142178243/mr-and-mrs-wedding-acrylic-card-box-with?click_key=76c0a50fc0bfb608f17ef2b9ce61eee889357b90%3A1142178243&click_sum=aaf5b72b&ref=shop_home_active_84&frs=1&sts=1

an acrylic box? Ooookay.

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Anonymous wrote:10 gold bars.

I would honestly appreciate this way more than the Etsy etching thing that I would leave in a closet.

Cold hard cash baby.

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Anonymous wrote:ask your son to ask her. and then listen. the end.

I would just get fancy high end lingerie bc the son will enjoy it as much as the wife.

+1

Where is the vomit emoji?

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Anonymous wrote:my future daughter in law does not wear jewelry. I'm looking for ideas for something special to give her to officially welcome her into our family. Almost everything special I find is jewelry, and unfortunately that is out. I want to give her something special at her shower, so I also need ideas for that, but primarily looking for a gift I can give her on the day of the wedding. I want it to be meaningful and I've seen plaques, etc., but nothing seems to compare to the significance a piece of jewelry would have.

Any ideas?

For the wedding day I would only do a beautiful note written on your stationary.

A framed picture or painting of a place that is meaningful to the couple. Not something that only relates to your son! Ideas would be their first home, memory of where they got engaged. I got my DIL a pretty clutch that had Mrs xxxxxx beaded on it. She loved it!

Love this sentiment. And something that says "Mrs. Jones" proves you are not insecure or fell "ousted" - like some MILs might. Agree OP - something hand written, from the heart - not all about you, but welcoming her to the family and saying something nice about her, and her and your son, since it is their special day. DIL will realize that you are not selfish, and this could go a long way.

OP here. so many great suggestions and opinions. I've already had the fun of getting her a custom new water bottle ( her favorite color and style) with "Mrs. Smith (not our name) Est. 2023". on it. She cried, I cried...it was another touching moment between myself and this wonderful, kind, loving girl who already calls me mom and wants me to call her my daughter. Our families have been friends for over 10 years and I've watched her grow up and predicted this wedding probably before my son even did lol.

LOL, OK.