Wedding Gifts for future daughter in law

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Anonymous wrote:my future daughter in law does not wear jewelry. I'm looking for ideas for something special to give her to officially welcome her into our family. Almost everything special I find is jewelry, and unfortunately that is out. I want to give her something special at her shower, so I also need ideas for that, but primarily looking for a gift I can give her on the day of the wedding. I want it to be meaningful and I've seen plaques, etc., but nothing seems to compare to the significance a piece of jewelry would have.

Any ideas?

For the wedding day I would only do a beautiful note written on your stationary.

A framed picture or painting of a place that is meaningful to the couple. Not something that only relates to your son! Ideas would be their first home, memory of where they got engaged. I got my DIL a pretty clutch that had Mrs xxxxxx beaded on it. She loved it!

Love this sentiment. And something that says "Mrs. Jones" proves you are not insecure or fell "ousted" - like some MILs might. Agree OP - something hand written, from the heart - not all about you, but welcoming her to the family and saying something nice about her, and her and your son, since it is their special day. DIL will realize that you are not selfish, and this could go a long way.

OP here. so many great suggestions and opinions. I've already had the fun of getting her a custom new water bottle ( her favorite color and style) with "Mrs. Smith (not our name) Est. 2023". on it. She cried, I cried...it was another touching moment between myself and this wonderful, kind, loving girl who already calls me mom and wants me to call her my daughter. Our families have been friends for over 10 years and I've watched her grow up and predicted this wedding probably before my son even did lol.

That's sweet. You sound like a wonderful person and thanks for letting us have some fun with this.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 34 so not a boomer but you can get their wedding invitation engraved on a silver plate at really nice jewelry stores and I think that’s awesome. Alternatively how about their invitation framed in a beautiful frame.
Or, a portrait of their first house on canvas. Can get this on Etsy.

Do people really want and display these things in their house? I enjoyed my wedding and all but there is literally not one item from our wedding in the house, other than a photo album that is tucked away. These things just seem very mawkish and, well, middlebrow.

I have my wedding invitation, my parents’ wedding invitation, and both sets of my grandparents’ wedding invitations, all framed and on display around a mirror in the butler’s pantry, above a bar cart. I would have DH’s parents’ and grandparents’ invitations displayed as well, but they did not hang onto any copies. MIL huffs about it and I’ve even offered to take her to Crane’s and re-create as best we can for all of their family’s invitations, with dates and locations, but she refuses. Oh well.

Thinking about my wedding brings me joy. Not everyone is so focused on not seeming "middlebrow"

I'd wager you are much more sentimental about family invitations than the average bride.

NP. And? So? Some people love good invitations. Others focus on the dress, others the flowers, etc. I work in publishing, and you bet I paid a lot of attention to our invitation, and have it framed. People Are Different From You. -NP

I'm referring to the pp who has all her family's invites framed and hung. That's a lot.

I think the generations of wedding invitations hanging on the wall sounds lovely. I have never seen anything like that.

There’s a reason you haven’t seen that!

+1 definitely a reason

Yes, and the reason is your family has receptions at the K of C, the New Jersey four-a-day reception halls, and the Grand Ballroom of the Radisson Inn. When you are the third generation to get married in the National Cathedral, it is a different story.

Wrong but I give you credit for your perseverance.

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Anonymous wrote:my future daughter in law does not wear jewelry. I'm looking for ideas for something special to give her to officially welcome her into our family. Almost everything special I find is jewelry, and unfortunately that is out. I want to give her something special at her shower, so I also need ideas for that, but primarily looking for a gift I can give her on the day of the wedding. I want it to be meaningful and I've seen plaques, etc., but nothing seems to compare to the significance a piece of jewelry would have.

Any ideas?

For the wedding day I would only do a beautiful note written on your stationary.

A framed picture or painting of a place that is meaningful to the couple. Not something that only relates to your son! Ideas would be their first home, memory of where they got engaged. I got my DIL a pretty clutch that had Mrs xxxxxx beaded on it. She loved it!

Love this sentiment. And something that says "Mrs. Jones" proves you are not insecure or fell "ousted" - like some MILs might. Agree OP - something hand written, from the heart - not all about you, but welcoming her to the family and saying something nice about her, and her and your son, since it is their special day. DIL will realize that you are not selfish, and this could go a long way.

OP here. so many great suggestions and opinions. I've already had the fun of getting her a custom new water bottle ( her favorite color and style) with "Mrs. Smith (not our name) Est. 2023". on it. She cried, I cried...it was another touching moment between myself and this wonderful, kind, loving girl who already calls me mom and wants me to call her my daughter. Our families have been friends for over 10 years and I've watched her grow up and predicted this wedding probably before my son even did lol.

That's sweet. You sound like a wonderful person and thanks for letting us have some fun with this.

Glad to hear you didn't choose the invitation plate or plastic box.

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Anonymous wrote:ask your son to ask her. and then listen. the end.

I would just get fancy high end lingerie bc the son will enjoy it as much as the wife.

+1

Where is the vomit emoji?

What’s wrong with lingerie? Every new bride could use some!

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 34 so not a boomer but you can get their wedding invitation engraved on a silver plate at really nice jewelry stores and I think that’s awesome. Alternatively how about their invitation framed in a beautiful frame.
Or, a portrait of their first house on canvas. Can get this on Etsy.

Do people really want and display these things in their house? I enjoyed my wedding and all but there is literally not one item from our wedding in the house, other than a photo album that is tucked away. These things just seem very mawkish and, well, middlebrow.

I have my wedding invitation, my parents’ wedding invitation, and both sets of my grandparents’ wedding invitations, all framed and on display around a mirror in the butler’s pantry, above a bar cart. I would have DH’s parents’ and grandparents’ invitations displayed as well, but they did not hang onto any copies. MIL huffs about it and I’ve even offered to take her to Crane’s and re-create as best we can for all of their family’s invitations, with dates and locations, but she refuses. Oh well.

Thinking about my wedding brings me joy. Not everyone is so focused on not seeming "middlebrow"

I'd wager you are much more sentimental about family invitations than the average bride.

NP. And? So? Some people love good invitations. Others focus on the dress, others the flowers, etc. I work in publishing, and you bet I paid a lot of attention to our invitation, and have it framed. People Are Different From You. -NP

I'm referring to the pp who has all her family's invites framed and hung. That's a lot.

I think the generations of wedding invitations hanging on the wall sounds lovely. I have never seen anything like that.

There’s a reason you haven’t seen that!

+1 definitely a reason

Yes, and the reason is your family has receptions at the K of C, the New Jersey four-a-day reception halls, and the Grand Ballroom of the Radisson Inn. When you are the third generation to get married in the National Cathedral, it is a different story.

Wrong but I give you credit for your perseverance.

Oh? Where was your ceremony and reception?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:my future daughter in law does not wear jewelry. I'm looking for ideas for something special to give her to officially welcome her into our family. Almost everything special I find is jewelry, and unfortunately that is out. I want to give her something special at her shower, so I also need ideas for that, but primarily looking for a gift I can give her on the day of the wedding. I want it to be meaningful and I've seen plaques, etc., but nothing seems to compare to the significance a piece of jewelry would have.

Any ideas?

For the wedding day I would only do a beautiful note written on your stationary.

A framed picture or painting of a place that is meaningful to the couple. Not something that only relates to your son! Ideas would be their first home, memory of where they got engaged. I got my DIL a pretty clutch that had Mrs xxxxxx beaded on it. She loved it!

please tell me you were 100% sure she intended to change her name to Mrs XXXXX? She also sounds gracious -- can you imagine carrying a purse with your name beaded on it?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:my future daughter in law does not wear jewelry. I'm looking for ideas for something special to give her to officially welcome her into our family. Almost everything special I find is jewelry, and unfortunately that is out. I want to give her something special at her shower, so I also need ideas for that, but primarily looking for a gift I can give her on the day of the wedding. I want it to be meaningful and I've seen plaques, etc., but nothing seems to compare to the significance a piece of jewelry would have.

Any ideas?

For the wedding day I would only do a beautiful note written on your stationary.

A framed picture or painting of a place that is meaningful to the couple. Not something that only relates to your son! Ideas would be their first home, memory of where they got engaged. I got my DIL a pretty clutch that had Mrs xxxxxx beaded on it. She loved it!

please tell me you were 100% sure she intended to change her name to Mrs XXXXX? She also sounds gracious -- can you imagine carrying a purse with your name beaded on it?

OP sounds like she knows her future DIL well enough. Many modern brides would not but they should make their views known before friends and family give them "Mrs." or "(His Last Name)" gifts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is the gift about you, or is it about her?

If it’s about you, get her something that you would like, or take a suggestion from a Boomer stranger online.

If it’s about her, ask her, or at the very least, ask your son.

NP here; why are you so nasty? OP's asking for suggestions here in case there's an idea she's overlooking, that doesn't mean she's not also asking her son. If the gift were about OP, she'd buy jewelry or whatever and not care enough to ask ANYONE for suggestions.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 34 so not a boomer but you can get their wedding invitation engraved on a silver plate at really nice jewelry stores and I think that’s awesome. Alternatively how about their invitation framed in a beautiful frame.
Or, a portrait of their first house on canvas. Can get this on Etsy.

Do people really want and display these things in their house? I enjoyed my wedding and all but there is literally not one item from our wedding in the house, other than a photo album that is tucked away. These things just seem very mawkish and, well, middlebrow.

I have my wedding invitation, my parents’ wedding invitation, and both sets of my grandparents’ wedding invitations, all framed and on display around a mirror in the butler’s pantry, above a bar cart. I would have DH’s parents’ and grandparents’ invitations displayed as well, but they did not hang onto any copies. MIL huffs about it and I’ve even offered to take her to Crane’s and re-create as best we can for all of their family’s invitations, with dates and locations, but she refuses. Oh well.

Thinking about my wedding brings me joy. Not everyone is so focused on not seeming "middlebrow"

I'd wager you are much more sentimental about family invitations than the average bride.

NP. And? So? Some people love good invitations. Others focus on the dress, others the flowers, etc. I work in publishing, and you bet I paid a lot of attention to our invitation, and have it framed. People Are Different From You. -NP

I'm referring to the pp who has all her family's invites framed and hung. That's a lot.

I think the generations of wedding invitations hanging on the wall sounds lovely. I have never seen anything like that.

There’s a reason you haven’t seen that!

+1 definitely a reason

Yes, and the reason is your family has receptions at the K of C, the New Jersey four-a-day reception halls, and the Grand Ballroom of the Radisson Inn. When you are the third generation to get married in the National Cathedral, it is a different story.

Gross. I’d be careful how much identifiable information you share when you’re being so petty and small. There are a lot of people in the same world as you and it won’t be too hard to figure it out over time.

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I love a good cheesy NJ wedding.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:my future daughter in law does not wear jewelry. I'm looking for ideas for something special to give her to officially welcome her into our family. Almost everything special I find is jewelry, and unfortunately that is out. I want to give her something special at her shower, so I also need ideas for that, but primarily looking for a gift I can give her on the day of the wedding. I want it to be meaningful and I've seen plaques, etc., but nothing seems to compare to the significance a piece of jewelry would have.

Any ideas?

For the wedding day I would only do a beautiful note written on your stationary.

A framed picture or painting of a place that is meaningful to the couple. Not something that only relates to your son! Ideas would be their first home, memory of where they got engaged. I got my DIL a pretty clutch that had Mrs xxxxxx beaded on it. She loved it!

Love this sentiment. And something that says "Mrs. Jones" proves you are not insecure or fell "ousted" - like some MILs might. Agree OP - something hand written, from the heart - not all about you, but welcoming her to the family and saying something nice about her, and her and your son, since it is their special day. DIL will realize that you are not selfish, and this could go a long way.

OP here. so many great suggestions and opinions. I've already had the fun of getting her a custom new water bottle ( her favorite color and style) with "Mrs. Smith (not our name) Est. 2023". on it. She cried, I cried...it was another touching moment between myself and this wonderful, kind, loving girl who already calls me mom and wants me to call her my daughter. Our families have been friends for over 10 years and I've watched her grow up and predicted this wedding probably before my son even did lol.

She cried over a water bottle? Nope.