Wedding Gifts for future daughter in law

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 34 so not a boomer but you can get their wedding invitation engraved on a silver plate at really nice jewelry stores and I think that’s awesome. Alternatively how about their invitation framed in a beautiful frame.
Or, a portrait of their first house on canvas. Can get this on Etsy.

Do people really want and display these things in their house? I enjoyed my wedding and all but there is literally not one item from our wedding in the house, other than a photo album that is tucked away. These things just seem very mawkish and, well, middlebrow.

Gen X'er here. My MIL had one of our wedding invitations matted and framed for us, and I loved it. Have had it up in every house we've lived in for the past 20 years. It's doubly significant because it was a thoughtful gift from her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most ideas here are awful and dates. The worst would be a $2k piece of art or flashy purse she will feel embarrassed to display/wear. You’re lucky she loves gardening since that’s an easy entry to something useful, beautiful and wanted.

I would do a simple but exquisite small-to-medium sized Italian-made terracotta pot from Bergs ($200ish). Buy online or at Terrain. Then add the small tools PP suggested and a generous gift card to a great nursery. If she has a favorite flower I would do an online specialty nursery. Peony’s Envy for peonies, for example. And a note about how much you value her and love that you share a passion for plants.

Nix the pot unless she is into expensive Italian terracotta pots. A sunflower-loving, outdoors, non-jewelry-wearing young woman will pick her own garden decor.

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Anonymous wrote:I think she would love some beautiful crystal or decorative items for the home. They would be treasured - I always give them as gifts and the recipients love them!

No they really don’t. People go not want crystal anymore.

This is true. No younger family members wanted my MIL's crystal or china. The cleaners and construction crew got the bulk of their "good stuff".

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Anonymous wrote:I still think my idea of a high quality weekend bag with no obvious logos is a great idea. I'd like one!

A travel backpack might be more up her alley. Gift card works best.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 34 so not a boomer but you can get their wedding invitation engraved on a silver plate at really nice jewelry stores and I think that’s awesome. Alternatively how about their invitation framed in a beautiful frame.
Or, a portrait of their first house on canvas. Can get this on Etsy.

Do people really want and display these things in their house? I enjoyed my wedding and all but there is literally not one item from our wedding in the house, other than a photo album that is tucked away. These things just seem very mawkish and, well, middlebrow.

I have my wedding invitation, my parents’ wedding invitation, and both sets of my grandparents’ wedding invitations, all framed and on display around a mirror in the butler’s pantry, above a bar cart. I would have DH’s parents’ and grandparents’ invitations displayed as well, but they did not hang onto any copies. MIL huffs about it and I’ve even offered to take her to Crane’s and re-create as best we can for all of their family’s invitations, with dates and locations, but she refuses. Oh well.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m 34 so not a boomer but you can get their wedding invitation engraved on a silver plate at really nice jewelry stores and I think that’s awesome. Alternatively how about their invitation framed in a beautiful frame.
Or, a portrait of their first house on canvas. Can get this on Etsy.

Do people really want and display these things in their house? I enjoyed my wedding and all but there is literally not one item from our wedding in the house, other than a photo album that is tucked away. These things just seem very mawkish and, well, middlebrow.

I have my wedding invitation, my parents’ wedding invitation, and both sets of my grandparents’ wedding invitations, all framed and on display around a mirror in the butler’s pantry, above a bar cart. I would have DH’s parents’ and grandparents’ invitations displayed as well, but they did not hang onto any copies. MIL huffs about it and I’ve even offered to take her to Crane’s and re-create as best we can for all of their family’s invitations, with dates and locations, but she refuses. Oh well.

Thinking about my wedding brings me joy. Not everyone is so focused on not seeming "middlebrow"

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Silver candlesticks. My mom used hers every day and so do I. Will likely get them for all of our kids.

I got a set from our wedding and it felt like such an impersonal gift. We never use them.

So again, ask the DIL. You don't want this to turn into a resentment fest.

We all need silver candlesticks. You’re gonna be screwed when you help that homeless person who you let stay with you who then steals your candlesticks, is caught by the cops and is exonerated by you when you show up and say you gave them to them which results in homeless person experiencing such an epiphany that much singing and dancing ensues.

You’re screwed if you don’t have silver candlesticks.

That is right.
But my friend you left so early
Surely something slipped your mind
You forgot I gave these also;
Would you leave the best behind?
So, Messieurs, you may release him
For this man has spoken true.
I commend you for your duty
And God's blessing go with you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What about some lovely lingerie? Every bride needs some

My mil did this to me. It was so awful. So awkward.

How? Lingerie is lingerie.

Spoken like a true #boymom.

“Don’t forget, Billy loves red. It really gets him going! Va-va-voom! Slip this on and think of me when he bends you over.”

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What about some lovely lingerie? Every bride needs some

My mil did this to me. It was so awful. So awkward.

How? Lingerie is lingerie.

Spoken like a true #boymom.

“Don’t forget, Billy loves red. It really gets him going! Va-va-voom! Slip this on and think of me when he bends you over.”

Please. It’s custom in some cultures for the bride to get lingerie from family members.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What about some lovely lingerie? Every bride needs some

My mil did this to me. It was so awful. So awkward.

How? Lingerie is lingerie.

Spoken like a true #boymom.

“Don’t forget, Billy loves red. It really gets him going! Va-va-voom! Slip this on and think of me when he bends you over.”

Please. It’s custom in some cultures for the bride to get lingerie from family members.

And? That doesn’t make it any less creepy in America in 2023. But by all means, give your DIL lingerie and be That MIL. She’ll have something to tell her friends, and they can all say ewwww and laugh.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What about some lovely lingerie? Every bride needs some

My mil did this to me. It was so awful. So awkward.

How? Lingerie is lingerie.

Spoken like a true #boymom.

“Don’t forget, Billy loves red. It really gets him going! Va-va-voom! Slip this on and think of me when he bends you over.”

Please. It’s custom in some cultures for the bride to get lingerie from family members.

And? That doesn’t make it any less creepy in America in 2023. But by all means, give your DIL lingerie and be That MIL. She’ll have something to tell her friends, and they can all say ewwww and laugh.

Meh. I think it’s a lovely gift

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What about some lovely lingerie? Every bride needs some

My mil did this to me. It was so awful. So awkward.

How? Lingerie is lingerie.

Spoken like a true #boymom.

“Don’t forget, Billy loves red. It really gets him going! Va-va-voom! Slip this on and think of me when he bends you over.”

Please. It’s custom in some cultures for the bride to get lingerie from family members.

Please tell me the cultures? Jersey Shore?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What about some lovely lingerie? Every bride needs some

My mil did this to me. It was so awful. So awkward.

How? Lingerie is lingerie.

Spoken like a true #boymom.

“Don’t forget, Billy loves red. It really gets him going! Va-va-voom! Slip this on and think of me when he bends you over.”

Please. It’s custom in some cultures for the bride to get lingerie from family members.

And? That doesn’t make it any less creepy in America in 2023. But by all means, give your DIL lingerie and be That MIL. She’ll have something to tell her friends, and they can all say ewwww and laugh.

Meh. I think it’s a lovely gift

Especially with a lovely note: “Dearest Alice, I hope Jack will get wicked sprung when you emerge from the bathroom in this. May your womb soon quicken with his strong seed. Love forever, Mom-Mom”

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What about some lovely lingerie? Every bride needs some

My mil did this to me. It was so awful. So awkward.

How? Lingerie is lingerie.

Spoken like a true #boymom.

“Don’t forget, Billy loves red. It really gets him going! Va-va-voom! Slip this on and think of me when he bends you over.”

Please. It’s custom in some cultures for the bride to get lingerie from family members.

And? That doesn’t make it any less creepy in America in 2023. But by all means, give your DIL lingerie and be That MIL. She’ll have something to tell her friends, and they can all say ewwww and laugh.

Meh. I think it’s a lovely gift

My mother in law gave me very nice lingerie that I appreciated.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What about some lovely lingerie? Every bride needs some

My mil did this to me. It was so awful. So awkward.

How? Lingerie is lingerie.

Spoken like a true #boymom.

“Don’t forget, Billy loves red. It really gets him going! Va-va-voom! Slip this on and think of me when he bends you over.”

Please. It’s custom in some cultures for the bride to get lingerie from family members.

And? That doesn’t make it any less creepy in America in 2023. But by all means, give your DIL lingerie and be That MIL. She’ll have something to tell her friends, and they can all say ewwww and laugh.

Meh. I think it’s a lovely gift

My mother in law gave me very nice lingerie that I appreciated.

My MIL was too prim and proper to give me lingerie but I would have enjoyed receiving it as long as she got the right size. DH's aunt gave me a lovely ivory silk chemise and robe. Not everyone has a hangup about their MILs or older female relatives giving them lingerie. Now sex toys--that's strictly bachelorette party!