Wedding Gifts for future daughter in law

[Anonymous]

You are getting awful suggestions. First, what is your budget?

You initially said jewelry, which makes me think your budget is on the higher end? I think a watch is a special gift. Please don’t give her a vase!!! I would also stay away from art.

Ask her what she wants maybe?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What about an electronic picture frame? You can preload childhood pictures of your son, and current pictures of the couple maybe even conspire with her mother to get pictures from her childhood. (just them, though - there may be times they won’t want to look over and see you or other extended family members looking back. If they want you in the rotation, they can add you in). Then, over time, they can add pictures of the life they build together.

Omg 😂

[Anonymous]

Dress

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Christmas tree ornament

This has a nice dish that you can put trinkets into
https://www.etsy.com/shop/ElkeMCrafts

Engraved cutting board
https://www.etsy.com/shop/CJKEngraving

Family tree with her family and your family (you would have to contact her family for info)
https://www.etsy.com/listing/794846098/
https://www.etsy.com/shop/AncesTree

Op here. I like both ideas! I’m good friends with her mother so there’s no problem there . Thanks !

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What about an electronic picture frame? You can preload childhood pictures of your son, and current pictures of the couple maybe even conspire with her mother to get pictures from her childhood. (just them, though - there may be times they won’t want to look over and see you or other extended family members looking back. If they want you in the rotation, they can add you in). Then, over time, they can add pictures of the life they build together.

OMG. Could some young people please chime in??? No one besides my 80 year old mother wants this gift.

Why would a young person be on this forum? Come up with a good idea or shut up.

[Anonymous]

Can you get their wedding invitation framed?

[Anonymous]

I would go with an experience, a Tree ornament or similar, and a unique but classic looking vase. I’m not into “things” at all but always have fresh flowers in my home and love beautiful vases. Alternatively, a specialty orchid.

[Anonymous]

What about a tree they can plant- if they have a home?

[Anonymous]

PP from above- we have a lot of silver that has been passed down. Some have initials, some don’t.

[Anonymous]

Spa day

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Anonymous wrote:What about a tree they can plant- if they have a home?

+1 You can select something nice through a local garden center and arrange to have it planted. I would have loved this. My favorite house gift for my myself was a pair of cherry trees planted by our driveway.

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Anonymous wrote:Clearly gift giving is tricky and people value different things. Taste in art changes as their home changes, time for hobbies change. Don't stress out about a perfect gift. It could just be an experience like a massage before the wedding. Something not too big but meaningful as their home and family changes, like that Christmas ornament (or a mezuzah etc).

Just be a good human being and treat her well. That's the best gift any MIL can give.

Op I think you are putting too much stress on a gift. For me personally, there is very little physical stuff I value. My generation just doesn’t do china, or jewelry, engraving or heirloom type stuff. Art is terrible because if she doesn’t like it, she’s stuck with it on her wall forever and it will possibly cause resentment. I would prefer a heartfealt card or an experience. Could you offer to pay for the honeymoon or a weekend away together?

I don’t want you to set yourself up for a bad reaction and many of these gift suggestions won’t get the reaction you are going for. My MIL made us a cross stitched thing with our wedding date and framed it. It became a huge source of resentment because I didn’t react big enough and then she would complain we didn’t hang it front and center when she came to visit. Really, it was about her and not anything I would like.

[Anonymous]

She doesn’t even wear stud earrings? I’d love a nice new pair of those.

[Anonymous]

Most of these ideas are terrible, sorry folks.

I like the classic Chanel purse idea, but we need to have a better idea of the DILs style and lifestyle. I would definitely ask DS and see if he can poke around or ask her friends.

My MIL and I could not be more different (she has multiple cats and sews quilts so if I didn’t know better, she sounds like some of the posters) and she doesn’t understand my style or why I like nice clothes etc…..but I so appreciated the vintage white beaded evening purse she got me to use at my wedding. I only regret that I don’t have many occasions that call for a white beaded bag!

[Anonymous]

Why is it “unfortunate” that jewelry is out? If the goal is to give her something special, HER preferences—not yours or society’s—should be top of mind.

Ask. Her.