In tears about my daughter

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Anonymous wrote:OP,
I was an English major. I’m doing very well. That fact you’re so willing to judge a major (and, by extension, your daughter) as “useless” is unfortunate.

I’m not offended by your disparaging remarks about my degree. My self-worth is not wrapped up in what others think of me. Fortunately, your daughter also seems to have a strong sense of direction and self-worth.

Way to go, kid.

It's not judging. There's data and its probability. There's huge amount of momey and time at stake.

Eh. Perhaps if you are 100% status focused, that matters.

I want my children to do more than make money. I want them happy and contributing to society. I know plenty of other English majors. They are happy and contributing. Some are teachers, some work for nonprofits, etc.

Chasing status will always leave you unfulfilled. That’s the read I have on OP.

Sure fine instate schools are great for that.
You sound like status focused so that it should an Ivy?

OP here. I am NOT status focused at all. But the probability that my daughter will regret her choices as an English major are pretty high. Here’s an example:

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1043100.page

ROFL

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Anonymous wrote:Oh my gosh. I have so many regrets about my parenting, but this one makes me sound like a gem. We don't have the money to pay for an Ivy out of pocket, but every decision about college is up to our kid. It is her life, and we will do anything in our power to help her, whatever it is she decides to do.

+1
This is exactly how I feel!

We should show this to our kids to make them feel lucky, lol.

Wrong. OP’s kid will thank her in 10 years for forcing her into STEM.

Nope.

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Wtf this can't be real.

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I hope this is not real. If it is I’ll add that I worked on wall st for years (as an Econ major). For new hires we didn’t even look at the major. We looked for people who were articulate, driven, could think on their feet, ambitious and just logical. First round interviews weeded out most pure finance (which isn’t even a thing at most schools we hired from, math, accounting, etc majors. Those candidates generally were not personable enough and were usually horrible writers). We often hired, English, classics, language, etc majors. OP if you are real, you are not seeing the big picture. You also need to stop thinking you can mold your adult daughter

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There is a certain culture of like minded parents. I am sure OP is very real.

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Jesus who does this to their kid. My kids are all at ivies and they chose their field of study--all poli sci/government and intend to go to law school. Lot of money for DH and me but it's what they want. They are following DH into law.

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Anonymous wrote:Jesus who does this to their kid. My kids are all at ivies and they chose their field of study--all poli sci/government and intend to go to law school. Lot of money for DH and me but it's what they want. They are following DH into law.

I will keep them in my prayers.

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Anonymous wrote:Jesus who does this to their kid. My kids are all at ivies and they chose their field of study--all poli sci/government and intend to go to law school. Lot of money for DH and me but it's what they want. They are following DH into law.

I will keep them in my prayers.

Really? You'll pray for them (eyeroll)

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter is a freshman at an Ivy. We told her that we would only pay for three majors:

1. Econ/Stats/Applied Math with intentions of going into business (finance and consulting firms love her school)
2. CS with intentions of going into tech
3. Any major as long as she completes the 11 required courses to get into med school

My daughter told me last night over the phone that she plans on majoring in English (??!!!!) with no plans to complete the required pre-med classes. We told her that we wouldn’t pay for her college tuition going forward because English is NOT an employable major. She then told me that she’s okay with going to a cheap community college because apparently to her, “doing what she loves is more important than going to an Ivy.”

Help! What do we do? We NEED her to stay at an Ivy, and we are full-pay; it’s a sacrifice, but it’s worth it. But we also NEED her to major in something employable. We are in despair. Please help.

PS: I know someone is going to suggest law school. DH is a lawyer and has told DD that he’d rather see her unemployed before becoming a lawyer (besides, I think my daughter’s temperament would be ill-suited to law).

what do you mean English is not an employable major?

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Anonymous wrote:Very bad trolling.

I remember same story from the student point of view.

+1

The first thing I did was check the date to see if it was that old post.

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I was an English major and I turned out fine. I write well and can think critically which I attribute to the humanities.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter is a freshman at an Ivy. We told her that we would only pay for three majors:

1. Econ/Stats/Applied Math with intentions of going into business (finance and consulting firms love her school)
2. CS with intentions of going into tech
3. Any major as long as she completes the 11 required courses to get into med school

My daughter told me last night over the phone that she plans on majoring in English (??!!!!) with no plans to complete the required pre-med classes. We told her that we wouldn’t pay for her college tuition going forward because English is NOT an employable major. She then told me that she’s okay with going to a cheap community college because apparently to her, “doing what she loves is more important than going to an Ivy.”

Help! What do we do? We NEED her to stay at an Ivy, and we are full-pay; it’s a sacrifice, but it’s worth it. But we also NEED her to major in something employable. We are in despair. Please help.

PS: I know someone is going to suggest law school. DH is a lawyer and has told DD that he’d rather see her unemployed before becoming a lawyer (besides, I think my daughter’s temperament would be ill-suited to law).

what do you mean English is not an employable major?

That will be news to my English major child who works for a major publishing company.

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Controlling parents gonna control. Reminds me of my mother in laws tantrum when she wasn’t allowed to name all of the grandchildren.

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Anonymous wrote:You suck.

We absolutely do not suck. Most parents aren’t willing to drop $300k for a BA in ENGLISH of all subjects.

This is ridiculous. I went to an Ivy, as did most of my friends. Most of us majored in history, English, etc. and we're mostly all employed at high paying professional jobs: university professors/higher ed professionals; well paid non profit employees (history, econ, comparative literature, political science); lawyers; engineers; financial analysts (the English major with a law degree fyi); appointed government officials (anthro major, urban studies major). Etc.

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OP-- you sound as though you could benefit from some English classes. If you are for real, your kid should divorce herself from you.