In tears about my daughter

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell her to be a double-major.

OP here. Hopefully this doesn’t dox her, but her school doesn’t allow double-majors.

Will you pay for her cheaper college if she transfers out of the ivy to study English or she just on her own at that point? Also, do you put a requirement on the grades earned as well? What is her current gpa and is it acceptable to you?

I do think en English major from an ivy would be very employable relative to an English major from a community college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very bad trolling.

OP here. I wish I was a troll.

You suck at life

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is a freshman at an Ivy. We told her that we would only pay for three majors:

1. Econ/Stats/Applied Math with intentions of going into business (finance and consulting firms love her school)
2. CS with intentions of going into tech
3. Any major as long as she completes the 11 required courses to get into med school

My daughter told me last night over the phone that she plans on majoring in English (??!!!!) with no plans to complete the required pre-med classes. We told her that we wouldn’t pay for her college tuition going forward because English is NOT an employable major. She then told me that she’s okay with going to a cheap community college because apparently to her, “doing what she loves is more important than going to an Ivy.”

Help! What do we do? We NEED her to stay at an Ivy, and we are full-pay; it’s a sacrifice, but it’s worth it. But we also NEED her to major in something employable. We are in despair. Please help.

PS: I know someone is going to suggest law school. DH is a lawyer and has told DD that he’d rather see her unemployed before becoming a lawyer (besides, I think my daughter’s temperament would be ill-suited to law).

Well I’m glad you’re orchestrating hee career outcome clown

[Anonymous]

What will set her up for life is agency, not a certain degree or amount of money. Go read The Price of Privilege: How Parental Pressure and Material Advantage Are Creating a Generation of Disconnected and Unhappy Kids by Madeline Levine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell her to be a double-major.

OP here. Hopefully this doesn’t dox her, but her school doesn’t allow double-majors.

Nice one, you can't dox a make believe daughter.

[Anonymous]

I'M IN TEARS FOR YOUR DAUGHTER
Please get therapy and let her follow her path. AT HER IVY

[Anonymous]

Princeton

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'M IN TEARS FOR YOUR DAUGHTER
Please get therapy and let her follow her path. AT HER IVY

Thank you

[Anonymous]

You are well within your right to stop paying. I would agree an English degree is probably not worth $300k. That’s a huge sum of money and it’s OK to discuss return on your investment.
She is also able to choose her own path and you need to deal with the consequences of that. But you can’t force her to stay at an Ivy in a major you choose.

[Anonymous]

If she's going to major in English, an Ivy is probably the better place to do it.

Ironically, there is less need for an Ivy degree if she is majoring in computer science or going to medical school. Internships and co-ops are important for engineering, while GPA and MCAT scores are more important for med school.

[Anonymous]

My sister was an English major. She makes $500K as a hospital administrator.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My sister was an English major. She makes $500K as a hospital administrator.

Oh, also, she went to a midwestern state school.

[Anonymous]

OP you probably are a troll but I promise you if she is hard work working and ambitious, she can certainly have a lucrative and happy career with any degree from Ivy. My 40 year old boss makes $600k with a 40 hour work week as CEO with International Relations degree from Columbia. Our company is not International. You cannot force her to go to med school. And also, she’s 18, there are a lot of twists ahead. Be grateful she got into Ivy, is engaged in academics, doesn’t have mental health or substance abuse issues. And then back off.

[Anonymous]

She clearly wants to stay at her Ivy. She only wants the right to choose her own major. And yes Mom, she doesn't see herself in finance or tech - so what?
Let her choose. Don't force her out of her school. This is financial blackmail. It is very sad what you are doing to your daughter. And you think you will find sympathy on this board?
Delusional. Narcissistic.

[Anonymous]

The title of your thread makes you sound like a troll. In tears?