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Anonymous
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My daughter is a freshman at an Ivy. We told her that we would only pay for three majors:
1. Econ/Stats/Applied Math with intentions of going into business (finance and consulting firms love her school) 2. CS with intentions of going into tech 3. Any major as long as she completes the 11 required courses to get into med school My daughter told me last night over the phone that she plans on majoring in English (??!!!!) with no plans to complete the required pre-med classes. We told her that we wouldn’t pay for her college tuition going forward because English is NOT an employable major. She then told me that she’s okay with going to a cheap community college because apparently to her, “doing what she loves is more important than going to an Ivy.” Help! What do we do? We NEED her to stay at an Ivy, and we are full-pay; it’s a sacrifice, but it’s worth it. But we also NEED her to major in something employable. We are in despair. Please help. PS: I know someone is going to suggest law school. DH is a lawyer and has told DD that he’d rather see her unemployed before becoming a lawyer (besides, I think my daughter’s temperament would be ill-suited to law). |
Anonymous
| Very bad trolling. |
Anonymous
OP here. I wish I was a troll. |
Anonymous
| I also think you’re a troll but if not your daughter is the better troll, fully calling your bluff! |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
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If she’s actually at an Ivy, she can get a job after any major, but it may not be high paid immediately.
You drew a line in the sand, your DD called you on it. If you need her to stay at an Ivy, why did you set such strict guidelines? Either let her live her life or cut her off, but quit trying to engineer her life. She’s going to hate you. |
Anonymous
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You set the terms (which I disagree with); she is not following them; so you stop paying for the Ivy for next year and she can apply to an in state school for the fall or go to community college.
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Anonymous
Not as badly as I wished you were a troll. NP |
Anonymous
Fervently agree. You and your husband sound like a complete nightmare. Even as trolls. |
Anonymous
| Please explain why you, not only need her to stay, but NEED her to stay? Why? |
Anonymous
OP here. Having the double whammy of both an employable major AND the Ivy name-brand will set her up well for the rest of her life, especially in finance or tech. |
Anonymous
+1. Her life. And I don’t understand why you NEED her to stay at Ivy? I get that you WANT her to stay. |
Anonymous
Why do you think we “sound like complete nightmares” for setting some very reasonable guidelines that many parents set for their kids? Most parents aren’t willing to pay for a BA in English. |
Anonymous
| You suck. |
Anonymous
We absolutely do not suck. Most parents aren’t willing to drop $300k for a BA in ENGLISH of all subjects. |