Making SAHM get job to pay for private school

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Anonymous wrote:OP doesn’t have to agree with his wife that private school is worth the money. He doesn’t have to do it just because she wants it and he can afford it.

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Honestly, OP - if she wants private school so much, she needs to get out, get a job, and earn substantial money toward private school. Such entitlement.

Yeah, jeez, the entitlement of a mother wanting better education for the kids. Poor OP is going to have to work two whole years more!

Again, we have absolutely no idea if it would be better. The fact that you automatically assume it would be better is telling.

No, I don't know, and it doesn't matter what you or I know. What we do know is that OP's wife thinks it would be better. That is not "entitlement" even if she is not direclty earning the money that would pay for it.

it's very much entitlement if she is not earning the money. So many women on this board are delusional af and this si coming from woman.

As the saying goes... "NO MONEY, NO TALK!!!!"

LOL. My xH was fond of that saying. So I didn't talk....until our divorce, when I squeezed every last penny from him. He'll be working a LOT longer than the 3 extra years OP is complaining about, ha.

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Anonymous wrote:OP doesn’t have to agree with his wife that private school is worth the money. He doesn’t have to do it just because she wants it and he can afford it.

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Honestly, OP - if she wants private school so much, she needs to get out, get a job, and earn substantial money toward private school. Such entitlement.

Yeah, jeez, the entitlement of a mother wanting better education for the kids. Poor OP is going to have to work two whole years more!

Again, we have absolutely no idea if it would be better. The fact that you automatically assume it would be better is telling.

No, I don't know, and it doesn't matter what you or I know. What we do know is that OP's wife thinks it would be better. That is not "entitlement" even if she is not direclty earning the money that would pay for it.

it's very much entitlement if she is not earning the money. So many women on this board are delusional af and this si coming from woman.

As the saying goes... "NO MONEY, NO TALK!!!!"

Huh? As a guy with a SAH wife, I could not disagree more. My wife does a lot for everyone and deserves an equal say in how we raise the kids and spend the money.

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Anonymous wrote:You sound so coarse OP-- just like the public school plebe you are.

I went to public schools AND state college, and this is what I took away from OP’s posts too, hehe.

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Anonymous wrote:It is not nasty to say someone is objectively wrong when they clearly are, and it's telling that PP can't see that.

All you've done is say over and over that I'm wrong, but you cannot come up with one sensible, principled argument to support your point. You just try to insult and appeal to your supposed authority from having taken some intro econ class. You sound like OP actually.

NP. According to Wikipedia:
“In economics, a luxury good (or upmarket good) is a good for which demand increases more than what is proportional as income rises, so that expenditures on the good become a greater proportion of overall spending.

Luxury goods are in contrast to necessity goods, where demand increases proportionally less than income.[1] Luxury goods is often used synonymously with superior goods.”

In other words, as income increases demand for luxury goods outpaces income growth.

By this definition it is not immediately clear if private school would strictly be considered a luxury good.

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The problem here is that you clearly don’t think she has 50% of the say regarding money.

I hope this attitude doesn’t ooze through in other ways, but I fear it does.

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Anonymous wrote:OP doesn’t have to agree with his wife that private school is worth the money. He doesn’t have to do it just because she wants it and he can afford it.

+1

Honestly, OP - if she wants private school so much, she needs to get out, get a job, and earn substantial money toward private school. Such entitlement.

Yeah, jeez, the entitlement of a mother wanting better education for the kids. Poor OP is going to have to work two whole years more!

Again, we have absolutely no idea if it would be better. The fact that you automatically assume it would be better is telling.

No, I don't know, and it doesn't matter what you or I know. What we do know is that OP's wife thinks it would be better. That is not "entitlement" even if she is not direclty earning the money that would pay for it.

it's very much entitlement if she is not earning the money. So many women on this board are delusional af and this si coming from woman.

As the saying goes... "NO MONEY, NO TALK!!!!"

Huh? As a guy with a SAH wife, I could not disagree more. My wife does a lot for everyone and deserves an equal say in how we raise the kids and spend the money.

Equal. Not to dictate. And as someone who is doing less actual raising of the kids, I’m sure you understand you give up some say in that domain. I would not command my H to work more years for something if we didn’t agree. It would be a discussion, taking into account that this affects him more than me.

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Anonymous wrote:OP doesn’t have to agree with his wife that private school is worth the money. He doesn’t have to do it just because she wants it and he can afford it.

+1

Honestly, OP - if she wants private school so much, she needs to get out, get a job, and earn substantial money toward private school. Such entitlement.

Yeah, jeez, the entitlement of a mother wanting better education for the kids. Poor OP is going to have to work two whole years more!

Again, we have absolutely no idea if it would be better. The fact that you automatically assume it would be better is telling.

No, I don't know, and it doesn't matter what you or I know. What we do know is that OP's wife thinks it would be better. That is not "entitlement" even if she is not direclty earning the money that would pay for it.

it's very much entitlement if she is not earning the money. So many women on this board are delusional af and this si coming from woman.

As the saying goes... "NO MONEY, NO TALK!!!!"

Huh? As a guy with a SAH wife, I could not disagree more. My wife does a lot for everyone and deserves an equal say in how we raise the kids and spend the money.

OP needs to work as she needs an exit plan. Funny how he isn't saying he will step down in his career to help more since she will not be home.

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Anonymous wrote:OP doesn’t have to agree with his wife that private school is worth the money. He doesn’t have to do it just because she wants it and he can afford it.

+1

Honestly, OP - if she wants private school so much, she needs to get out, get a job, and earn substantial money toward private school. Such entitlement.

Yeah, jeez, the entitlement of a mother wanting better education for the kids. Poor OP is going to have to work two whole years more!

Again, we have absolutely no idea if it would be better. The fact that you automatically assume it would be better is telling.

No, I don't know, and it doesn't matter what you or I know. What we do know is that OP's wife thinks it would be better. That is not "entitlement" even if she is not direclty earning the money that would pay for it.

it's very much entitlement if she is not earning the money. So many women on this board are delusional af and this si coming from woman.

As the saying goes... "NO MONEY, NO TALK!!!!"

Huh? As a guy with a SAH wife, I could not disagree more. My wife does a lot for everyone and deserves an equal say in how we raise the kids and spend the money.

Equal. Not to dictate. And as someone who is doing less actual raising of the kids, I’m sure you understand you give up some say in that domain. I would not command my H to work more years for something if we didn’t agree. It would be a discussion, taking into account that this affects him more than me.

She would like kids in private. They can afford it. It impacts her way more than him as she has to do all the applications, transportation and much more. He probably doesn't get involved at all in the kids needs or activities but wants to dictate everything. He's a jerk.

When I approached my husband about private years ago as our child needed smaller classes, he said to find one that I liked and he'll figure out how to pay for it (it was more affordable so not an issue). Recently I approached him again with covid, he said no problem, he'll figure out the money (we are not high income but could make it work via savings). (in the past I also wanted it and he said find a school as well but children and I didn't like the schools and kids wanted public).

OP is a jerk.

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I think the people calling the OP a jerk are ones who firmly believe private means better education and amazing opportunities. And the people calling the wife entitled and delusional are the ones who still believe in the value of public schools and what they have to offer.

Also being able to afford something does NOT mean one should pay for something they don’t see value in. All you people saying well you can afford it aren’t realizing that maybe OP sees a better use of that money somewhere else like in his investment portfolio.

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Anonymous wrote:A marriage is a partnership. It’s family money. She has a right to want private.

She is in her right to want private. She should get a job so she can contribute to that.

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Anonymous wrote:I work in a public school. Absolutely get your kids into a good private school if you can. A lot of what I see horrifies me.

Also, consider how your wife getting a job will impact your career. Are you prepared to handle half of the pickups and drop offs? Half of the housework? Half of the childcare? What if she has to work weekends? Think about the impact this will have on your career. It likely makes more sense for her to remain a SAHM, rather than you taking over half of the duties and taking a career hit over $30k (6% of your salary).

His kids are teens - there is no “childcare.”

What are you talking about? There’s driving them to/from school, to activities, helping with homework, keeping on top of their schoolwork and with things the school needs (like paperwork, deadlines, etc), staying home with them when they’re sick, being able to leave work at a moments notice to get them, cooking dinner for the family, buying supplies, plus just spending time with your kids so they’re not alone and getting into trouble.

And that’s not even considering household responsibilities OP probably doesn’t do, like grocery shopping, cleaning, handling repairs, bills, paperwork, etc. He would have to take over half of that, too, so his evenings will be spent cooking, cleaning, handling logistics, etc.

DP. It depends on your job. My husband and I both work. We do all of the above. If you have a flexible job you don’t need to have a SAHP.

OP hasn’t said if his job is flexible. But for $500k/year, it’s probably not.

My guess is OP wants his wife to get a minimum wage job to pay for school but will also expect her to continue her SAHM responsibilities.

Exactly, because this is her punishment.

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Anonymous wrote:A marriage is a partnership. It’s family money. She has a right to want private.

She is in her right to want private. She should get a job so she can contribute to that.

She has a job. She takes care of her family.

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Anonymous wrote:A marriage is a partnership. It’s family money. She has a right to want private.

She is in her right to want private. She should get a job so she can contribute to that.

She has a job. She takes care of her family.

In the eyes of the law she has no job. So, be quiet.

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Anonymous wrote:A marriage is a partnership. It’s family money. She has a right to want private.

She is in her right to want private. She should get a job so she can contribute to that.

She has a job. She takes care of her family.

In the eyes of the law she has no job. So, be quiet.

Breathtaking.

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Anonymous wrote:OP doesn’t have to agree with his wife that private school is worth the money. He doesn’t have to do it just because she wants it and he can afford it.

+1

Honestly, OP - if she wants private school so much, she needs to get out, get a job, and earn substantial money toward private school. Such entitlement.

Yeah, jeez, the entitlement of a mother wanting better education for the kids. Poor OP is going to have to work two whole years more!

Again, we have absolutely no idea if it would be better. The fact that you automatically assume it would be better is telling.

No, I don't know, and it doesn't matter what you or I know. What we do know is that OP's wife thinks it would be better. That is not "entitlement" even if she is not direclty earning the money that would pay for it.

it's very much entitlement if she is not earning the money. So many women on this board are delusional af and this si coming from woman.

As the saying goes... "NO MONEY, NO TALK!!!!"

It's amazing is how many people sound like abusive husbands from the fifties.