I am so sick of boy-mom sh*T

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Anonymous wrote:I'm sure this became a thing because people feel sorry for moms who only have boys. Like a solidarity concept. So many with girls can't fathom how many of us are happy with only boys.

You nailed it!!!! I have had mom's tell me that they feel sorry for me that my son's will leave me when they meet a girl, but they will have their "daughter" forever. I just stared at the person who said that to me.....

no different than the people think mom's of girls will be dealing with a nightmare starting 9 yo and will be dealing with a hormonal mess until the girls are 30.

Also, my guess is that many of us on this thread (and IRL) who dislike #boymom actually HAVE sons. I have two sons and a daughter. I would have been thrilled with any combination of kids. Solidarity is not the same as stereotyping.

It's no different than a dad getting his nails done with his daughters. Nobody thinks they are better or worse. Moms of boys do lots of things that their boys like to do, it's really no more complicated than that.

If you child likes band and you are carrying a tuba through a parking lot you might say #bandmom... the football mom's don't think they wish their kids played football they realize their embracing the child they have.

Not every dude wants a dirty sports son and not every mom wants a cheerleader girl... it's always my past goth friends that get the cheerleader girl and my theater dude friend that gets the football player son.

Well, when I see a picture of a mom snuggling with her son, or of him dressing up in his sister's princess dresses, or daydreaming quietly, or reading to himself, and her throwing out a #boymom, then I'll buy that there's no harm in the label. I'll wait.

As soon as I see moms encouraging their girls to marry a teacher or a nurse... I'll wait.

I'd love it if one or both of my daughters marry a teacher or a nurse, or become a teacher or a nurse. I don't get it; are there FB posts about #girlmoms wanting their daughters to grow up and...marry a lawyer?

-Mom of two girls

Exactly. (From the first I'll wait PP)

People just don't post about who they want their kids to marry. I mean, really? PP, are you honestly saying you think boys should be pushed into traditionally masculine career paths so that they'll be more attractive to women? I know there are people who believe that sh*t, I just didn't think most of them would actually cop to it.

How about this: I would love for any one of my three kids to be who they want to be and marry whomever they choose (or not get married at all, or anything in between).

Sure you would. It's easy to lie on the internet, pretend you are fine with that.

Actually my boys have been told their whole lives, but how will you support yourself. Yes, this is very much the message sent to boys.

How many teachers at your kids school are male.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm sure this became a thing because people feel sorry for moms who only have boys. Like a solidarity concept. So many with girls can't fathom how many of us are happy with only boys.

You nailed it!!!! I have had mom's tell me that they feel sorry for me that my son's will leave me when they meet a girl, but they will have their "daughter" forever. I just stared at the person who said that to me.....

no different than the people think mom's of girls will be dealing with a nightmare starting 9 yo and will be dealing with a hormonal mess until the girls are 30.

Also, my guess is that many of us on this thread (and IRL) who dislike #boymom actually HAVE sons. I have two sons and a daughter. I would have been thrilled with any combination of kids. Solidarity is not the same as stereotyping.

It's no different than a dad getting his nails done with his daughters. Nobody thinks they are better or worse. Moms of boys do lots of things that their boys like to do, it's really no more complicated than that.

If you child likes band and you are carrying a tuba through a parking lot you might say #bandmom... the football mom's don't think they wish their kids played football they realize their embracing the child they have.

Not every dude wants a dirty sports son and not every mom wants a cheerleader girl... it's always my past goth friends that get the cheerleader girl and my theater dude friend that gets the football player son.

Well, when I see a picture of a mom snuggling with her son, or of him dressing up in his sister's princess dresses, or daydreaming quietly, or reading to himself, and her throwing out a #boymom, then I'll buy that there's no harm in the label. I'll wait.

As soon as I see moms encouraging their girls to marry a teacher or a nurse... I'll wait.

I'd love it if one or both of my daughters marry a teacher or a nurse, or become a teacher or a nurse. I don't get it; are there FB posts about #girlmoms wanting their daughters to grow up and...marry a lawyer?

-Mom of two girls

Never in a million years - what?! Of course I'd be fine with my daughter marrying a teacher or a nurse or a woman or a plumber or a clerk. What the hell is wrong with you people that you are thinking, when your kids are in elementary school, about the professions of people they marry. The ONLY time I've thought about this was when my smart 20 year old niece got into an abusive relationship. I thought dear god don't let my daughter date or marry an abusive man. Never once did I think about whether this man has a MANLY profession or not???? And yes, my son has had male assistant teachers and male tutors.

[Anonymous]

Hey #boymoms, go check out this thread... because this is what your training is leading to: https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/797442.page

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Anonymous wrote:Hey #boymoms, go check out this thread... because this is what your training is leading to: https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/797442.page

So when the fourth grade girls did that at my DSs school (and worse, assigned "boyfriends" to certain girls), it was caused by ...#girlmoms? When, precisely, did the girl parents cause the behavior of their daughters? Please identify, since you know it was #boymom that causes it.

Or, more likely, you think it's "empowering" when a girl does it so no need to assign blame?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm sure this became a thing because people feel sorry for moms who only have boys. Like a solidarity concept. So many with girls can't fathom how many of us are happy with only boys.

You nailed it!!!! I have had mom's tell me that they feel sorry for me that my son's will leave me when they meet a girl, but they will have their "daughter" forever. I just stared at the person who said that to me.....

no different than the people think mom's of girls will be dealing with a nightmare starting 9 yo and will be dealing with a hormonal mess until the girls are 30.

Also, my guess is that many of us on this thread (and IRL) who dislike #boymom actually HAVE sons. I have two sons and a daughter. I would have been thrilled with any combination of kids. Solidarity is not the same as stereotyping.

It's no different than a dad getting his nails done with his daughters. Nobody thinks they are better or worse. Moms of boys do lots of things that their boys like to do, it's really no more complicated than that.

If you child likes band and you are carrying a tuba through a parking lot you might say #bandmom... the football mom's don't think they wish their kids played football they realize their embracing the child they have.

Not every dude wants a dirty sports son and not every mom wants a cheerleader girl... it's always my past goth friends that get the cheerleader girl and my theater dude friend that gets the football player son.

Well, when I see a picture of a mom snuggling with her son, or of him dressing up in his sister's princess dresses, or daydreaming quietly, or reading to himself, and her throwing out a #boymom, then I'll buy that there's no harm in the label. I'll wait.

As soon as I see moms encouraging their girls to marry a teacher or a nurse... I'll wait.

I'd love it if one or both of my daughters marry a teacher or a nurse, or become a teacher or a nurse. I don't get it; are there FB posts about #girlmoms wanting their daughters to grow up and...marry a lawyer?

-Mom of two girls

Exactly. (From the first I'll wait PP)

People just don't post about who they want their kids to marry. I mean, really? PP, are you honestly saying you think boys should be pushed into traditionally masculine career paths so that they'll be more attractive to women? I know there are people who believe that sh*t, I just didn't think most of them would actually cop to it.

How about this: I would love for any one of my three kids to be who they want to be and marry whomever they choose (or not get married at all, or anything in between).

Sure you would. It's easy to lie on the internet, pretend you are fine with that.

Actually my boys have been told their whole lives, but how will you support yourself. Yes, this is very much the message sent to boys.

How many teachers at your kids school are male.

My male cousin is a nurse. And let me tell you, he makes good money and doesn't have any trouble getting dates. He's been dating someone a long time, and she works at the State Department. They've got a place in Foggy Bottom and are really happy. Not sure why you think male nurses don't make good money and aren't desireable partners?

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Anonymous wrote:Please.. someone explain what a boy-mom is?

A mom who only has boys and is always surrounded by boys.

Pretty much once you have boys moms of girls dump you because your kids are too crazy and you find yourself with friends that are moms of boys.

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Boy moms fuel the stereotypical macho, athletic, unemotional boys who call girls their girlfriend and gotta be cool, cool, cool.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hey #boymoms, go check out this thread... because this is what your training is leading to: https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/797442.page

Yes. Of course playing sports, collecting frogs and getting dirty eventually leads to ranking girls.

It was actually the geeks that couldnt make a sports team that made the ranking system.

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Anonymous wrote:Please.. someone explain what a boy-mom is?

A mom who only has boys and is always surrounded by boys.

Pretty much once you have boys moms of girls dump you because your kids are too crazy and you find yourself with friends that are moms of boys.

No.
Boy moms fuel the stereotypical macho, athletic, unemotional boys who call girls their girlfriend and gotta be cool, cool, cool.

Girl ... take your meds.

It has nothing to do with anything like that ... it's about being active, dirty and smelly.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm sure this became a thing because people feel sorry for moms who only have boys. Like a solidarity concept. So many with girls can't fathom how many of us are happy with only boys.

You nailed it!!!! I have had mom's tell me that they feel sorry for me that my son's will leave me when they meet a girl, but they will have their "daughter" forever. I just stared at the person who said that to me.....

no different than the people think mom's of girls will be dealing with a nightmare starting 9 yo and will be dealing with a hormonal mess until the girls are 30.

Also, my guess is that many of us on this thread (and IRL) who dislike #boymom actually HAVE sons. I have two sons and a daughter. I would have been thrilled with any combination of kids. Solidarity is not the same as stereotyping.

It's no different than a dad getting his nails done with his daughters. Nobody thinks they are better or worse. Moms of boys do lots of things that their boys like to do, it's really no more complicated than that.

If you child likes band and you are carrying a tuba through a parking lot you might say #bandmom... the football mom's don't think they wish their kids played football they realize their embracing the child they have.

Not every dude wants a dirty sports son and not every mom wants a cheerleader girl... it's always my past goth friends that get the cheerleader girl and my theater dude friend that gets the football player son.

Well, when I see a picture of a mom snuggling with her son, or of him dressing up in his sister's princess dresses, or daydreaming quietly, or reading to himself, and her throwing out a #boymom, then I'll buy that there's no harm in the label. I'll wait.

As soon as I see moms encouraging their girls to marry a teacher or a nurse... I'll wait.

I'd love it if one or both of my daughters marry a teacher or a nurse, or become a teacher or a nurse. I don't get it; are there FB posts about #girlmoms wanting their daughters to grow up and...marry a lawyer?

-Mom of two girls

Exactly. (From the first I'll wait PP)

People just don't post about who they want their kids to marry. I mean, really? PP, are you honestly saying you think boys should be pushed into traditionally masculine career paths so that they'll be more attractive to women? I know there are people who believe that sh*t, I just didn't think most of them would actually cop to it.

How about this: I would love for any one of my three kids to be who they want to be and marry whomever they choose (or not get married at all, or anything in between).

Sure you would. It's easy to lie on the internet, pretend you are fine with that.

Actually my boys have been told their whole lives, but how will you support yourself. Yes, this is very much the message sent to boys.

How many teachers at your kids school are male.

My male cousin is a nurse. And let me tell you, he makes good money and doesn't have any trouble getting dates. He's been dating someone a long time, and she works at the State Department. They've got a place in Foggy Bottom and are really happy. Not sure why you think male nurses don't make good money and aren't desireable partners?

You know one whole male nurse.

Slow clap.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:#boymom goes away pretty quick once kids hit MS, when boys become the focus of girl's attention and boys become the superior gender until they get married and shit on.

Actually the divide is greater in middle school where girls are trying to date and the boys have no clue ... and they end up going with somebody because Larla told them so at lunch.

It’s terrible in grade 7 and 8. Some girls are extremely bossy and boy crazy, the poor boys focusing on school and sports get blindsided fast. And boy moms egg it on.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm sure this became a thing because people feel sorry for moms who only have boys. Like a solidarity concept. So many with girls can't fathom how many of us are happy with only boys.

You nailed it!!!! I have had mom's tell me that they feel sorry for me that my son's will leave me when they meet a girl, but they will have their "daughter" forever. I just stared at the person who said that to me.....

no different than the people think mom's of girls will be dealing with a nightmare starting 9 yo and will be dealing with a hormonal mess until the girls are 30.

Also, my guess is that many of us on this thread (and IRL) who dislike #boymom actually HAVE sons. I have two sons and a daughter. I would have been thrilled with any combination of kids. Solidarity is not the same as stereotyping.

It's no different than a dad getting his nails done with his daughters. Nobody thinks they are better or worse. Moms of boys do lots of things that their boys like to do, it's really no more complicated than that.

If you child likes band and you are carrying a tuba through a parking lot you might say #bandmom... the football mom's don't think they wish their kids played football they realize their embracing the child they have.

Not every dude wants a dirty sports son and not every mom wants a cheerleader girl... it's always my past goth friends that get the cheerleader girl and my theater dude friend that gets the football player son.

Well, when I see a picture of a mom snuggling with her son, or of him dressing up in his sister's princess dresses, or daydreaming quietly, or reading to himself, and her throwing out a #boymom, then I'll buy that there's no harm in the label. I'll wait.

As soon as I see moms encouraging their girls to marry a teacher or a nurse... I'll wait.

I'd love it if one or both of my daughters marry a teacher or a nurse, or become a teacher or a nurse. I don't get it; are there FB posts about #girlmoms wanting their daughters to grow up and...marry a lawyer?

-Mom of two girls

Exactly. (From the first I'll wait PP)

People just don't post about who they want their kids to marry. I mean, really? PP, are you honestly saying you think boys should be pushed into traditionally masculine career paths so that they'll be more attractive to women? I know there are people who believe that sh*t, I just didn't think most of them would actually cop to it.

How about this: I would love for any one of my three kids to be who they want to be and marry whomever they choose (or not get married at all, or anything in between).

Sure you would. It's easy to lie on the internet, pretend you are fine with that.

Actually my boys have been told their whole lives, but how will you support yourself. Yes, this is very much the message sent to boys.

How many teachers at your kids school are male.

My male cousin is a nurse. And let me tell you, he makes good money and doesn't have any trouble getting dates. He's been dating someone a long time, and she works at the State Department. They've got a place in Foggy Bottom and are really happy. Not sure why you think male nurses don't make good money and aren't desireable partners?

You know one whole male nurse.

Slow clap.

Not all of us are like you, who prioritized money when deciding who to spend our lives with. You chose money, you got money...and a Big Law or similar guy who is hardly ever home and doesn't pull his weight. So your lonely with your boy now, and you see a future where you're even lonelier when he's grown.

[Anonymous]

My goodness you girl moms in this thread are nutters.

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Anonymous wrote:Hey #boymoms, go check out this thread... because this is what your training is leading to: https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/797442.page

Yes. Of course playing sports, collecting frogs and getting dirty eventually leads to ranking girls.

It was actually the geeks that couldnt make a sports team that made the ranking system.

Did you go to school on Mars? Because your scenario didn’t happen anywhere.

You should stick to memes and Facebook. More your speed.

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Anonymous wrote:My goodness you girl moms in this thread are nutters.

Posts like this are the ones that make me sad. As women (or, what I'm assuming are mostly women) and moms raising children - I hope that my daughter meets a man that was raised by a woman who teaches respect, caring, love and understanding. I'm not sure if that "boy" liked to play in the dirt, run around, or play with dolls. I don't care - as long as he is kind to her.

The fact that we as women can be so hateful to each other (see above) doesn't leave me much hope for the boys (and girls) they are raising.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Hey #boymoms, go check out this thread... because this is what your training is leading to: https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/797442.page

Yes. Of course playing sports, collecting frogs and getting dirty eventually leads to ranking girls.

It was actually the geeks that couldnt make a sports team that made the ranking system.

There is SO much wrong with this line of thought. “Geeks that couldn’t make a sports team”. WTF? This total obsession with sports and being sporty is so damaging to ALL kids — the ones who do play sports and the ones who don’t (for whatever reason).

And, yes, I have a boy. Who plays sports (yes, the ones who “count” to people like you). And reads quietly. And gets dirty. And defends his female friends when other boys are jerks to them. And makes fart jokes. And loves math.

It is the parents driving this insane kid classification system and it is disgusting.