I am so sick of boy-mom sh*T

[Anonymous]

OP here - I find it so ironic the posters defending #boymom claim those against are misandrists, yet can't see they are guilty of the same. By pigeonholing males into those "norms", you're hating on those males that aren't in one of those categories.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm sure this became a thing because people feel sorry for moms who only have boys. Like a solidarity concept. So many with girls can't fathom how many of us are happy with only boys.

You nailed it!!!! I have had mom's tell me that they feel sorry for me that my son's will leave me when they meet a girl, but they will have their "daughter" forever. I just stared at the person who said that to me.....

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Anonymous wrote:OP here - I find it so ironic the posters defending #boymom claim those against are misandrists, yet can't see they are guilty of the same. By pigeonholing males into those "norms", you're hating on those males that aren't in one of those categories.

Loving the boy you were given is not hating on the boys that are different.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm sure this became a thing because people feel sorry for moms who only have boys. Like a solidarity concept. So many with girls can't fathom how many of us are happy with only boys.

You nailed it!!!! I have had mom's tell me that they feel sorry for me that my son's will leave me when they meet a girl, but they will have their "daughter" forever. I just stared at the person who said that to me.....

no different than the people think mom's of girls will be dealing with a nightmare starting 9 yo and will be dealing with a hormonal mess until the girls are 30.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm sure this became a thing because people feel sorry for moms who only have boys. Like a solidarity concept. So many with girls can't fathom how many of us are happy with only boys.

You nailed it!!!! I have had mom's tell me that they feel sorry for me that my son's will leave me when they meet a girl, but they will have their "daughter" forever. I just stared at the person who said that to me.....

no different than the people think mom's of girls will be dealing with a nightmare starting 9 yo and will be dealing with a hormonal mess until the girls are 30.

Also, my guess is that many of us on this thread (and IRL) who dislike #boymom actually HAVE sons. I have two sons and a daughter. I would have been thrilled with any combination of kids. Solidarity is not the same as stereotyping.

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Anonymous wrote:I let them have the boy mom schlock to make themselves feel better about when they’re old and lonely.

Here is a smug one!!! Because boys are never close to their mother's. Oh right, if they are close than girls will make fun of them and call them a mama's boy, but then cry that men are not emotionally available.

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What is this?? I have a boy- never heard of #boymom.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm sure this became a thing because people feel sorry for moms who only have boys. Like a solidarity concept. So many with girls can't fathom how many of us are happy with only boys.

You nailed it!!!! I have had mom's tell me that they feel sorry for me that my son's will leave me when they meet a girl, but they will have their "daughter" forever. I just stared at the person who said that to me.....

no different than the people think mom's of girls will be dealing with a nightmare starting 9 yo and will be dealing with a hormonal mess until the girls are 30.

Also, my guess is that many of us on this thread (and IRL) who dislike #boymom actually HAVE sons. I have two sons and a daughter. I would have been thrilled with any combination of kids. Solidarity is not the same as stereotyping.

It's no different than a dad getting his nails done with his daughters. Nobody thinks they are better or worse. Moms of boys do lots of things that their boys like to do, it's really no more complicated than that.

If you child likes band and you are carrying a tuba through a parking lot you might say #bandmom... the football mom's don't think they wish their kids played football they realize their embracing the child they have.

Not every dude wants a dirty sports son and not every mom wants a cheerleader girl... it's always my past goth friends that get the cheerleader girl and my theater dude friend that gets the football player son.

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Anonymous wrote:My friend has four boys and she’ll #boymom on occasion. It’s meant to be lighthearted, and those boys have excellent manners.
She is absolutely desperate for a girl. They are considering IVF for gender selection. I suspect most of the #boymoms are deeply longing for girls, so we should be kind.

I don't know one #boymom that wished for a girl.. especially once middle school hits.

It's like missing a bullet.

Yep. They are all a little sad about not getting a girl. It’s not a mystery. Also, I’m not sure what world you guys a living in where middle school boys are a breeze. Silly stuff.

I have all boys and have never used the phrase BOYMOM in my life prior to this post, but the fact that you and other posters have apparently decided that moms of boys must be sad about not having girls makes me want to cheer on the people who use it. Honestly the only time I ever think about having all boys is when some all girl mom asks me in a fake tone of sympathy whether I am going "try for a girl." It's so obnoxious.

DP, but if you don't self-identify as a #boymom, then this thread isn't directed at you, whether you have all boys or not. Plenty of moms of only boys love having boys, don't call themselves boymoms, and are reasonable. But seriously, have you not heard of people asking moms of all girls whether they're going to "try for a boy?" It goes both ways.

Why women who don't have daughters think they're qualified to opine on how different it is than raising sons is beyond me. But I'm sick of the laziness at best and misogyny at worst that #boymom represents.

I'm PP and in my friend group, the difference in how moms of all girls are treated with respect to having a boy is different enough from what happens to the all boy moms that we've talked about it. All (and I mean every single boy mom) has has multiple encounters like I have, the syrupy-sweet fake pity for not having girls from girl moms. It happens the other way, but rarely.

This is born out in surveys, by the way. Americans prefer baby girls in general. Sex selection is done more often for girls. It is a thing, and you pretending it doesn't happen is obnoxious.

I will also say that I had never thought much about BOYMOM before this thread but the reaction of you and other posters like you makes me want to cheer them on.

Can you cite that source? I've never heard that before.

DP. I heard that in a sociology class.

So, no actually facts to back this random statement, just "you heard it" somewhere. Um, ok.

DP. Literally the first hit on Google when I search for American sex preference in babies is this article:

https://www.nytimes.com/2018/03/05/upshot/americans-might-no-longer-prefer-sons-over-daughters.html

There are other academic links too but I am on my phone and can't really get through them. But it looks like about thirty seconds of research could answer your question. Did you try that?

Did you read the article (and the study quoted) or just the title? Try actually reading and not just the title sweetie. i hope you still are taking that sociology class. If you were a student of mine, you’d fail

You know it was a women studies class.

Actual citations were provided, moron. Read the thread.

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Anonymous wrote:I let them have the boy mom schlock to make themselves feel better about when they’re old and lonely.

Here is a smug one!!! Because boys are never close to their mother's. Oh right, if they are close than girls will make fun of them and call them a mama's boy, but then cry that men are not emotionally available.

Again, with the #boymoms and the plural v. possessive.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm sure this became a thing because people feel sorry for moms who only have boys. Like a solidarity concept. So many with girls can't fathom how many of us are happy with only boys.

You nailed it!!!! I have had mom's tell me that they feel sorry for me that my son's will leave me when they meet a girl, but they will have their "daughter" forever. I just stared at the person who said that to me.....

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Anonymous wrote:I'm sure this became a thing because people feel sorry for moms who only have boys. Like a solidarity concept. So many with girls can't fathom how many of us are happy with only boys.

You nailed it!!!! I have had mom's tell me that they feel sorry for me that my son's will leave me when they meet a girl, but they will have their "daughter" forever. I just stared at the person who said that to me.....

no different than the people think mom's of girls will be dealing with a nightmare starting 9 yo and will be dealing with a hormonal mess until the girls are 30.

Also, my guess is that many of us on this thread (and IRL) who dislike #boymom actually HAVE sons. I have two sons and a daughter. I would have been thrilled with any combination of kids. Solidarity is not the same as stereotyping.

It's no different than a dad getting his nails done with his daughters. Nobody thinks they are better or worse. Moms of boys do lots of things that their boys like to do, it's really no more complicated than that.

If you child likes band and you are carrying a tuba through a parking lot you might say #bandmom... the football mom's don't think they wish their kids played football they realize their embracing the child they have.

Not every dude wants a dirty sports son and not every mom wants a cheerleader girl... it's always my past goth friends that get the cheerleader girl and my theater dude friend that gets the football player son.

Well, when I see a picture of a mom snuggling with her son, or of him dressing up in his sister's princess dresses, or daydreaming quietly, or reading to himself, and her throwing out a #boymom, then I'll buy that there's no harm in the label. I'll wait.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm sure this became a thing because people feel sorry for moms who only have boys. Like a solidarity concept. So many with girls can't fathom how many of us are happy with only boys.

You nailed it!!!! I have had mom's tell me that they feel sorry for me that my son's will leave me when they meet a girl, but they will have their "daughter" forever. I just stared at the person who said that to me.....

no different than the people think mom's of girls will be dealing with a nightmare starting 9 yo and will be dealing with a hormonal mess until the girls are 30.

Also, my guess is that many of us on this thread (and IRL) who dislike #boymom actually HAVE sons. I have two sons and a daughter. I would have been thrilled with any combination of kids. Solidarity is not the same as stereotyping.

It's no different than a dad getting his nails done with his daughters. Nobody thinks they are better or worse. Moms of boys do lots of things that their boys like to do, it's really no more complicated than that.

If you child likes band and you are carrying a tuba through a parking lot you might say #bandmom... the football mom's don't think they wish their kids played football they realize their embracing the child they have.

Not every dude wants a dirty sports son and not every mom wants a cheerleader girl... it's always my past goth friends that get the cheerleader girl and my theater dude friend that gets the football player son.

Well, when I see a picture of a mom snuggling with her son, or of him dressing up in his sister's princess dresses, or daydreaming quietly, or reading to himself, and her throwing out a #boymom, then I'll buy that there's no harm in the label. I'll wait.

As soon as I see moms encouraging their girls to marry a teacher or a nurse... I'll wait.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm sure this became a thing because people feel sorry for moms who only have boys. Like a solidarity concept. So many with girls can't fathom how many of us are happy with only boys.

You nailed it!!!! I have had mom's tell me that they feel sorry for me that my son's will leave me when they meet a girl, but they will have their "daughter" forever. I just stared at the person who said that to me.....

no different than the people think mom's of girls will be dealing with a nightmare starting 9 yo and will be dealing with a hormonal mess until the girls are 30.

Also, my guess is that many of us on this thread (and IRL) who dislike #boymom actually HAVE sons. I have two sons and a daughter. I would have been thrilled with any combination of kids. Solidarity is not the same as stereotyping.

It's no different than a dad getting his nails done with his daughters. Nobody thinks they are better or worse. Moms of boys do lots of things that their boys like to do, it's really no more complicated than that.

If you child likes band and you are carrying a tuba through a parking lot you might say #bandmom... the football mom's don't think they wish their kids played football they realize their embracing the child they have.

Not every dude wants a dirty sports son and not every mom wants a cheerleader girl... it's always my past goth friends that get the cheerleader girl and my theater dude friend that gets the football player son.

Well, when I see a picture of a mom snuggling with her son, or of him dressing up in his sister's princess dresses, or daydreaming quietly, or reading to himself, and her throwing out a #boymom, then I'll buy that there's no harm in the label. I'll wait.

As soon as I see moms encouraging their girls to marry a teacher or a nurse... I'll wait.

I'd love it if one or both of my daughters marry a teacher or a nurse, or become a teacher or a nurse. I don't get it; are there FB posts about #girlmoms wanting their daughters to grow up and...marry a lawyer?

-Mom of two girls

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Anonymous wrote:I'm sure this became a thing because people feel sorry for moms who only have boys. Like a solidarity concept. So many with girls can't fathom how many of us are happy with only boys.

You nailed it!!!! I have had mom's tell me that they feel sorry for me that my son's will leave me when they meet a girl, but they will have their "daughter" forever. I just stared at the person who said that to me.....

no different than the people think mom's of girls will be dealing with a nightmare starting 9 yo and will be dealing with a hormonal mess until the girls are 30.

Also, my guess is that many of us on this thread (and IRL) who dislike #boymom actually HAVE sons. I have two sons and a daughter. I would have been thrilled with any combination of kids. Solidarity is not the same as stereotyping.

It's no different than a dad getting his nails done with his daughters. Nobody thinks they are better or worse. Moms of boys do lots of things that their boys like to do, it's really no more complicated than that.

If you child likes band and you are carrying a tuba through a parking lot you might say #bandmom... the football mom's don't think they wish their kids played football they realize their embracing the child they have.

Not every dude wants a dirty sports son and not every mom wants a cheerleader girl... it's always my past goth friends that get the cheerleader girl and my theater dude friend that gets the football player son.

Well, when I see a picture of a mom snuggling with her son, or of him dressing up in his sister's princess dresses, or daydreaming quietly, or reading to himself, and her throwing out a #boymom, then I'll buy that there's no harm in the label. I'll wait.

As soon as I see moms encouraging their girls to marry a teacher or a nurse... I'll wait.

I'd love it if one or both of my daughters marry a teacher or a nurse, or become a teacher or a nurse. I don't get it; are there FB posts about #girlmoms wanting their daughters to grow up and...marry a lawyer?

-Mom of two girls

Exactly. (From the first I'll wait PP)

People just don't post about who they want their kids to marry. I mean, really? PP, are you honestly saying you think boys should be pushed into traditionally masculine career paths so that they'll be more attractive to women? I know there are people who believe that sh*t, I just didn't think most of them would actually cop to it.

How about this: I would love for any one of my three kids to be who they want to be and marry whomever they choose (or not get married at all, or anything in between).