I am so sick of boy-mom sh*T

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Anonymous wrote:Ok, I also haven’t seen this. What does it refer to? Just the advertising fact that your kids are boys or...what?

No, it's to show that you are really invested in being a mother to boys (with a strict and very stereotyped view of how boys are), that being a mother to boys is totally different from being a mother to girls, that it's just so special and fun and awesome and Instagram-worthy, and often to excuse your kid's bad behavior because he's "all boy."

THIS. To all the posters here who either 1. have no idea what it is, or 2. are telling the OP she is basically stupid and horrible, you don't realize how obnoxious it is. Truly. It's like faux humility, which is really just a way of promoting your own self importance. I find the whole #boymom thing pretty insufferable.

Happy EASTER!

[Anonymous]

This is the weirdest ass thread I've read in a long time.

Calm down people!!

100% agree that #boymom is dumb, but I also 100% are that MOST hashtags are dumb. Labeling, generalizing, all that = dumb! Good-bye!

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's mostly been the girlmoms who have been the total nutters in this thread but the mom going on about how the girlmoms are jealous of the sporty kids gets to join them on the nutter bench, though. That's also crazy.

Again, you don't get that many of us who are anti-boymom HAVE SONS. Why. Is. This. So. Hard.

Yes, and a lot of you are nuts too.

Here is the thing. In this thread, you have been absolutely and totally freaking out about people who use #boymom. You are prejudiced against them, labeling them, accusing them of raising rapists, equating little boys to being sexual assaulters (see the slam book post, though strangely quiet about the fact that both boys and girls engage in that behavior).

I've never used #boymom in my life and am unlikely to start, but I have never once seen it used in anything other than a wry, humorous fashion by moms of toddlers and little boys. I have never seen anything close to behavior that warrants the vitriol and nastiness spouted on this thread. Prior to this thread, I thought it was kind of a stupid thing you would see on Twitter maybe, or possibly Instagram, and not too often. If I thought about it, I thought it was stupid at best.

Now that I've read this thread and seen the level of paranoia, nastiness, and just plain irrational hate directed at these women (and their little boys, for God's sake!), I want to cheer the women who use #boymom on. I still will never use it, but the reactions in this thread are so over-the-top and literally irrational, that it's pretty hard for me to take you seriously. I mean, there was a mom here who linked it to femicide in rural third world countries, which is just so beyond rational it's hard to believe. (And subsequently accused those moms who use #boymom of not caring about femicide.) I am sorry, but that's wholly irrational and frankly bizarre behavior. There are real problems in life. The use of #boymom by a few toddler moms on Insta is not one of them.

I think that the mom who is talking about how the lot of you must be jealous of sporty sons is also nuts. But it's just plain outright true that the majority of the really crazy posts on this thread, the ones that are nasty, out-of-control, and show deep instability, have been from the anti-boymom posters.

You have attributed to me multiple posts that aren't mine (although, I wasn't saying the boymoms don't care about femicide, I was saying it's laughable for them to whine that girls are the preferred sex in this country, given not only femicide but, hello, much higher rates of violence perpetrated towards girls and women). You've posted multiple times on this thread things that are absolutely ludicrous.

See the PP directly above for a cogent explanation of why the boymom thing is an issue. If you disagree, fine. But stop disparaging those of us who refuse to (1) parent based on gender stereotypes and (2) ignore our children's poor behavior. If your takeaway from this thread is that gender stereotypes and poor behavior are grand things, then you're the one with the problem.

I didn't attribute any posts directly to you. I have no idea who you are. But thanks for demonstrating the unstable paranoia I was talking about.

NP here (and holy hell there are a lot of posts in this thread so i'm skipping toward the end). I don't see anything that remotely resembles "unstable paranoia" in the PP. To the contrary, you seem defensive, hyper-aggressive . . . and willing to engage in quite of a few biased opinions yourself. Going right for the "psycho girls" is enough to undermine your entire post. If you had something useful to say, it's gone now.

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Anonymous wrote:Girl moms are so easily triggered.

Oh please. See Brett Kavanaugh. You "boymoms" were apoplectic over a woman coming forward with credible allegations of attempted rape. So much so that you excused it and were content with a half-assed, political, incomplete investigation rather than a full investigation of her allegations. So, spare me, please.

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Anonymous wrote:Girl moms are so easily triggered.

Oh please. See Brett Kavanaugh. You "boymoms" were apoplectic over a woman coming forward with credible allegations of attempted rape. So much so that you excused it and were content with a half-assed, political, incomplete investigation rather than a full investigation of her allegations. So, spare me, please.

Oh yes, but you aren't concerned about Corey Booker or Keith Ellison and their accusers are you?????

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Saddest thread I’ve read lately. Are you all really fellow parents??? I’d be scared to let my children be friends with any of your kids with attitudes like this.

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Anonymous wrote:Are you people completely unconnected from the world? Do you not use twitter or instagram? #boymom is a thing.

Is this the 50s forum???

+100. I am a mom to girls, but I know exactly what this is and have heard it plenty. What's with all the people who are totally clueless??

It's not cluelessness. I have a boy, many of my friends have boys, all of us are on social media, and I've literally never seen a reference to this on FB, Twitter, or Instagram from people I know. And no one has ever mentioned it to me IRL (like during an actual conversation). It seems really weird to me. Not a thing where I am or in my social circles, I guess.

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Anonymous wrote:Are you people completely unconnected from the world? Do you not use twitter or instagram? #boymom is a thing.

Is this the 50s forum???

+100. I am a mom to girls, but I know exactly what this is and have heard it plenty. What's with all the people who are totally clueless??

It's not cluelessness. I have a boy, many of my friends have boys, all of us are on social media, and I've literally never seen a reference to this on FB, Twitter, or Instagram from people I know. And no one has ever mentioned it to me IRL (like during an actual conversation). It seems really weird to me. Not a thing where I am or in my social circles, I guess.

I have boys and a girl and I don't really see it either. Maybe it's an education/SES-related thing.

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Anonymous wrote:Girl moms are so easily triggered.

Oh please. See Brett Kavanaugh. You "boymoms" were apoplectic over a woman coming forward with credible allegations of attempted rape. So much so that you excused it and were content with a half-assed, political, incomplete investigation rather than a full investigation of her allegations. So, spare me, please.

Oh yes, but you aren't concerned about Corey Booker or Keith Ellison and their accusers are you?????

You know exactly nothing about what I'm concerned about. I'm fine with investigating any of it. We should take accusations seriously. Does that mean that they need to be automatically excommunicated from whatever position they hold? No. But, in some cases, yes.

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Anonymous wrote:Are you people completely unconnected from the world? Do you not use twitter or instagram? #boymom is a thing.

Is this the 50s forum???

+100. I am a mom to girls, but I know exactly what this is and have heard it plenty. What's with all the people who are totally clueless??

It's not cluelessness. I have a boy, many of my friends have boys, all of us are on social media, and I've literally never seen a reference to this on FB, Twitter, or Instagram from people I know. And no one has ever mentioned it to me IRL (like during an actual conversation). It seems really weird to me. Not a thing where I am or in my social circles, I guess.

I have boys and a girl and I don't really see it either. Maybe it's an education/SES-related thing.

I have both and I've seen it around me. Parents with grad degrees and UMC. I get why people use it. Obviously it's rooted in stereotypes but for those families, those stereotypes must be somewhat applicable. But the same can be said for #girlmoms or #momsofboth- we all deal with dynamics that are unique to same sex or opposite sex siblings.

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Anonymous wrote:Are you people completely unconnected from the world? Do you not use twitter or instagram? #boymom is a thing.

Is this the 50s forum???

+100. I am a mom to girls, but I know exactly what this is and have heard it plenty. What's with all the people who are totally clueless??

It's not cluelessness. I have a boy, many of my friends have boys, all of us are on social media, and I've literally never seen a reference to this on FB, Twitter, or Instagram from people I know. And no one has ever mentioned it to me IRL (like during an actual conversation). It seems really weird to me. Not a thing where I am or in my social circles, I guess.

I have boys and a girl and I don't really see it either. Maybe it's an education/SES-related thing.

I have both and I've seen it around me. Parents with grad degrees and UMC. I get why people use it. Obviously it's rooted in stereotypes but for those families, those stereotypes must be somewhat applicable. But the same can be said for #girlmoms or #momsofboth- we all deal with dynamics that are unique to same sex or opposite sex siblings.

I have both and have seen it used in my UMC, educated set, too. But I have never seen #girlmoms or #momsofboth. Can we all just be parents and agree that different families have different dynamics, only some of which are informed by gender?

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Anonymous wrote:^^ Translation of the above: I can't handle the fact that someone who is far more in the real trenches than I am thinks I am being ridiculous in my idiotic vendetta over an inane hashtag, so I am going to call names and lash out.

Actually, I posted the above, but none of the stuff above it, so I have no idiotic vendetta over a hashtag. But enjoy your trenches. It sounds like you'll be there alone.

I'm one of the PPs she's been responding to. I don't think she realizes there's more than one of us who aren't buying into her projection.

Triggered girl moms bonding over their mean girl post. So DCUM.

THIS.

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Anonymous wrote:^^ Translation of the above: I can't handle the fact that someone who is far more in the real trenches than I am thinks I am being ridiculous in my idiotic vendetta over an inane hashtag, so I am going to call names and lash out.

Actually, I posted the above, but none of the stuff above it, so I have no idiotic vendetta over a hashtag. But enjoy your trenches. It sounds like you'll be there alone.

I'm one of the PPs she's been responding to. I don't think she realizes there's more than one of us who aren't buying into her projection.

Triggered girl moms bonding over their mean girl post. So DCUM.

THIS.

Obviously you missed the fact that one PP hadn't been posting and another had two boys. But way to polarize people!

[Anonymous]

I agree with the PP who said all hashtags are dumb. #thisisus #partyof5 #lovemylife #dontbejealous etc

All of that is obnoxious, boys girls dogs, doesn’t matter.

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Anonymous wrote:This is the weirdest ass thread I've read in a long time.

Calm down people!!

100% agree that #boymom is dumb, but I also 100% are that MOST hashtags are dumb. Labeling, generalizing, all that = dumb! Good-bye!

Agreed! This is an insane amount of pages caring THAT much about this.