I am so sick of boy-mom sh*T

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's mostly been the girlmoms who have been the total nutters in this thread but the mom going on about how the girlmoms are jealous of the sporty kids gets to join them on the nutter bench, though. That's also crazy.

Again, you don't get that many of us who are anti-boymom HAVE SONS. Why. Is. This. So. Hard.

So you are anti boy and you have sons? Wow

Stop. Just stop. You can't even read a single line of text.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's mostly been the girlmoms who have been the total nutters in this thread but the mom going on about how the girlmoms are jealous of the sporty kids gets to join them on the nutter bench, though. That's also crazy.

Again, you don't get that many of us who are anti-boymom HAVE SONS. Why. Is. This. So. Hard.

Yes, and a lot of you are nuts too.

Here is the thing. In this thread, you have been absolutely and totally freaking out about people who use #boymom. You are prejudiced against them, labeling them, accusing them of raising rapists, equating little boys to being sexual assaulters (see the slam book post, though strangely quiet about the fact that both boys and girls engage in that behavior).

I've never used #boymom in my life and am unlikely to start, but I have never once seen it used in anything other than a wry, humorous fashion by moms of toddlers and little boys. I have never seen anything close to behavior that warrants the vitriol and nastiness spouted on this thread. Prior to this thread, I thought it was kind of a stupid thing you would see on Twitter maybe, or possibly Instagram, and not too often. If I thought about it, I thought it was stupid at best.

Now that I've read this thread and seen the level of paranoia, nastiness, and just plain irrational hate directed at these women (and their little boys, for God's sake!), I want to cheer the women who use #boymom on. I still will never use it, but the reactions in this thread are so over-the-top and literally irrational, that it's pretty hard for me to take you seriously. I mean, there was a mom here who linked it to femicide in rural third world countries, which is just so beyond rational it's hard to believe. (And subsequently accused those moms who use #boymom of not caring about femicide.) I am sorry, but that's wholly irrational and frankly bizarre behavior. There are real problems in life. The use of #boymom by a few toddler moms on Insta is not one of them.

I think that the mom who is talking about how the lot of you must be jealous of sporty sons is also nuts. But it's just plain outright true that the majority of the really crazy posts on this thread, the ones that are nasty, out-of-control, and show deep instability, have been from the anti-boymom posters.

You have attributed to me multiple posts that aren't mine (although, I wasn't saying the boymoms don't care about femicide, I was saying it's laughable for them to whine that girls are the preferred sex in this country, given not only femicide but, hello, much higher rates of violence perpetrated towards girls and women). You've posted multiple times on this thread things that are absolutely ludicrous.

See the PP directly above for a cogent explanation of why the boymom thing is an issue. If you disagree, fine. But stop disparaging those of us who refuse to (1) parent based on gender stereotypes and (2) ignore our children's poor behavior. If your takeaway from this thread is that gender stereotypes and poor behavior are grand things, then you're the one with the problem.

I didn't attribute any posts directly to you. I have no idea who you are. But thanks for demonstrating the unstable paranoia I was talking about.

NP. Um, you're the one who is unstable.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's mostly been the girlmoms who have been the total nutters in this thread but the mom going on about how the girlmoms are jealous of the sporty kids gets to join them on the nutter bench, though. That's also crazy.

Again, you don't get that many of us who are anti-boymom HAVE SONS. Why. Is. This. So. Hard.

So you are anti boy and you have sons? Wow

DP. Man, you’re awful. PP who is anti-boymom, the rational world understands you.

No ... being anti boy mom means you label moms as bad when tehir son is loud and dirty and you think they should make them sit quietly doing crafts.

Ugh. You are the problem. That's not at all what it means.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's mostly been the girlmoms who have been the total nutters in this thread but the mom going on about how the girlmoms are jealous of the sporty kids gets to join them on the nutter bench, though. That's also crazy.

Again, you don't get that many of us who are anti-boymom HAVE SONS. Why. Is. This. So. Hard.

Yes, and a lot of you are nuts too.

Here is the thing. In this thread, you have been absolutely and totally freaking out about people who use #boymom. You are prejudiced against them, labeling them, accusing them of raising rapists, equating little boys to being sexual assaulters (see the slam book post, though strangely quiet about the fact that both boys and girls engage in that behavior).

I've never used #boymom in my life and am unlikely to start, but I have never once seen it used in anything other than a wry, humorous fashion by moms of toddlers and little boys. I have never seen anything close to behavior that warrants the vitriol and nastiness spouted on this thread. Prior to this thread, I thought it was kind of a stupid thing you would see on Twitter maybe, or possibly Instagram, and not too often. If I thought about it, I thought it was stupid at best.

Now that I've read this thread and seen the level of paranoia, nastiness, and just plain irrational hate directed at these women (and their little boys, for God's sake!), I want to cheer the women who use #boymom on. I still will never use it, but the reactions in this thread are so over-the-top and literally irrational, that it's pretty hard for me to take you seriously. I mean, there was a mom here who linked it to femicide in rural third world countries, which is just so beyond rational it's hard to believe. (And subsequently accused those moms who use #boymom of not caring about femicide.) I am sorry, but that's wholly irrational and frankly bizarre behavior. There are real problems in life. The use of #boymom by a few toddler moms on Insta is not one of them.

I think that the mom who is talking about how the lot of you must be jealous of sporty sons is also nuts. But it's just plain outright true that the majority of the really crazy posts on this thread, the ones that are nasty, out-of-control, and show deep instability, have been from the anti-boymom posters.

You have attributed to me multiple posts that aren't mine (although, I wasn't saying the boymoms don't care about femicide, I was saying it's laughable for them to whine that girls are the preferred sex in this country, given not only femicide but, hello, much higher rates of violence perpetrated towards girls and women). You've posted multiple times on this thread things that are absolutely ludicrous.

See the PP directly above for a cogent explanation of why the boymom thing is an issue. If you disagree, fine. But stop disparaging those of us who refuse to (1) parent based on gender stereotypes and (2) ignore our children's poor behavior. If your takeaway from this thread is that gender stereotypes and poor behavior are grand things, then you're the one with the problem.

I didn't attribute any posts directly to you. I have no idea who you are. But thanks for demonstrating the unstable paranoia I was talking about.

Your perseveration on the mental health status of individuals you don't know at all, rather than on many people's repeated and obvious gender stereotyping is telling.

It is accurate to talk about paranoia and instability when that's what it is.

The crazy thing is that I am undoubtedly far more experienced with raising a kid far outside of gender stereotypes than you are. I am many years into raising a boy that you and your ilk on this thread would claim you are defending or whatever nonsense you think you are doing with your ridiculous and over-the-top posts. For many years, since he was a toddler coveting nothing more than pink sequined dresses, I shopped only in the girls section for clothes. I don't want to describe him as a teen now, because I want to preserve his privacy, but I suspect you'd be falling all oover yourself to claim you are an "ally" to kids like him. (Hint: as someone who knows what a real ally is, you are not one.)

At this point, what I care about are people who are kind, open-minded, and have a sense of humor. Moms who use #boymom are not and have literally never been a problem in my kid's life. Unkind, mentally inflexible parents who raise judgmental and nasty kids are problems, however. And they are like you and your friends in this thread, the kind of grown women who see no problem equating a fourth-grader to a rapist and who slam entire groups of other people based on a stupid Twitter hashtag. The times we've had serious problems (bullying involving the schools) have, literally every single time, been only girls. In contrast, the kids you and your cohort would call Brock Turners (which is an appalling way to talk about a child, since I obviously need to spell that out) have mostly stood up to defend him. You can take your judgment and rigidity and stuff it. I don't need your fake "ally" virtue-signaling behavior. What I need is for you to stop teaching your kids that it's okay to judge entire groups of people wholesale.

I've walked this path for a longer than you, and let me tell you, I can spot people like you a mile away now. You aren't helping. You are just breaking your arms patting yourselves on the back while at the same time teaching your kids that stereotyping is just fine because you do it yourself.

What the actual fu@% are you talking about? You have literally talked yourself in circles, not to mention you ostracize anyone who claims to support your kid. You should probably just step away from the computer for a bit.

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^^ Translation of the above: I can't handle the fact that someone who is far more in the real trenches than I am thinks I am being ridiculous in my idiotic vendetta over an inane hashtag, so I am going to call names and lash out.

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Girl moms are so easily triggered.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's mostly been the girlmoms who have been the total nutters in this thread but the mom going on about how the girlmoms are jealous of the sporty kids gets to join them on the nutter bench, though. That's also crazy.

Again, you don't get that many of us who are anti-boymom HAVE SONS. Why. Is. This. So. Hard.

So you are anti boy and you have sons? Wow

DP. Man, you’re awful. PP who is anti-boymom, the rational world understands you.

No ... being anti boy mom means you label moms as bad when tehir son is loud and dirty and you think they should make them sit quietly doing crafts.

No, that’s not what I meant in the slightest. You’re vicious and acting like a victim. I don’t have any of those thoughts about boys, or kids, or girls, and you are mean. Some kids hate crafts and some hate sports and it’s fine by me.

It' interesting how fast you go to character assassination. actually this whole thread is about assassinating the character of moms that embrace raising boys. Mean girls never grow up.

You are attacking me, again. Why, again? And of course, you are deeply vicious - again. How are you not seeing that the person engaging in character assasination is you?

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Anonymous wrote:^^ Translation of the above: I can't handle the fact that someone who is far more in the real trenches than I am thinks I am being ridiculous in my idiotic vendetta over an inane hashtag, so I am going to call names and lash out.

Actually, I posted the above, but none of the stuff above it, so I have no idiotic vendetta over a hashtag. But enjoy your trenches. It sounds like you'll be there alone.

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Anonymous wrote:^^ Translation of the above: I can't handle the fact that someone who is far more in the real trenches than I am thinks I am being ridiculous in my idiotic vendetta over an inane hashtag, so I am going to call names and lash out.

Actually, I posted the above, but none of the stuff above it, so I have no idiotic vendetta over a hashtag. But enjoy your trenches. It sounds like you'll be there alone.

I'm one of the PPs she's been responding to. I don't think she realizes there's more than one of us who aren't buying into her projection.

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Anonymous wrote:^^ Translation of the above: I can't handle the fact that someone who is far more in the real trenches than I am thinks I am being ridiculous in my idiotic vendetta over an inane hashtag, so I am going to call names and lash out.

Actually, I posted the above, but none of the stuff above it, so I have no idiotic vendetta over a hashtag. But enjoy your trenches. It sounds like you'll be there alone.

I'm one of the PPs she's been responding to. I don't think she realizes there's more than one of us who aren't buying into her projection.

Triggered girl moms bonding over their mean girl post. So DCUM.

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Anonymous wrote:^^ Translation of the above: I can't handle the fact that someone who is far more in the real trenches than I am thinks I am being ridiculous in my idiotic vendetta over an inane hashtag, so I am going to call names and lash out.

Actually, I posted the above, but none of the stuff above it, so I have no idiotic vendetta over a hashtag. But enjoy your trenches. It sounds like you'll be there alone.

I'm one of the PPs she's been responding to. I don't think she realizes there's more than one of us who aren't buying into her projection.

Triggered girl moms bonding over their mean girl post. So DCUM.

Except that I have two sons.

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Maybe just don't be friends with people who use hashtags?

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NP. I have 2 boys and a girl. Am I a #boymom? Is there a definition?? Maybe I was one before I had my baby girl but now I'm just a mom?

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Anonymous wrote:Are you people completely unconnected from the world? Do you not use twitter or instagram? #boymom is a thing.

Is this the 50s forum???

+100. I am a mom to girls, but I know exactly what this is and have heard it plenty. What's with all the people who are totally clueless??

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Anonymous wrote:Ok, I also haven’t seen this. What does it refer to? Just the advertising fact that your kids are boys or...what?

No, it's to show that you are really invested in being a mother to boys (with a strict and very stereotyped view of how boys are), that being a mother to boys is totally different from being a mother to girls, that it's just so special and fun and awesome and Instagram-worthy, and often to excuse your kid's bad behavior because he's "all boy."

THIS. To all the posters here who either 1. have no idea what it is, or 2. are telling the OP she is basically stupid and horrible, you don't realize how obnoxious it is. Truly. It's like faux humility, which is really just a way of promoting your own self importance. I find the whole #boymom thing pretty insufferable.