Is This the Norm? My Husband Says I’m Wrong

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This is a troll. People, don't feed this stupid troll.

I wonder if OP is the famous DCUM troll?

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Anonymous wrote:When did you get pregnant and meet?

We met a weeks before my high school graduation. We dated for a few months, and then I got pregnant, and then we got married.

Whose idea was it not to use birth control?

I didn’t really know anything about birth control, but we did sometimes use protection.

Again, extremely childish for an 18 year old and no excuse for a 40 year old father of 3. My kids learned a lot about birth control in middle school.

It’s not extremely childish. I just hadn’t thought of birth control or knew what it’s use was before we started dating. OP

Did you grow up in a religious cult? Were you Amish? How does any teenager, ESPECIALLY one who was so mature you categorize her as "not a teenager when I was 18", not know the "use" of birth control? Every American high school, barring the religious extremist ones, perhaps, would ensure you knew the "use" of birth control. And even if it didn't, just living in the world and being exposed to movies/media/peers would instill this knowledge in you.

No, I didn’t grow up in a religious cult. I didn’t know birth control was a thing, but that doesn’t mean that I was an immature teenager. I could still be mature by not knowing everything about everything. I did have health class, but that they didn’t talk about birth control. I didn’t really like watching movies/media, and my friends didn’t mention birth control. OP

You didn't think to research it! You failed to take responsibility and make an effort to make good choices. That is the behavior of an immature teenager.

But anyway, to answer your question, this is not normal. Your marriage is bad and your husband is bad. You can try to say it's not true, but it is true and you know it. You wouldn't have written this post if everything were fine.

Research something that I didn’t know about? I don’t think it was necessary anyways because he wanted a child, and I don’t regret my child. And I wasn’t a teenager, because saying that I was a teenager implies that I was a child, when I was not. OP

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Anonymous wrote:When did you get pregnant and meet?

We met a weeks before my high school graduation. We dated for a few months, and then I got pregnant, and then we got married.

Whose idea was it not to use birth control?

I didn’t really know anything about birth control, but we did sometimes use protection.

Again, extremely childish for an 18 year old and no excuse for a 40 year old father of 3. My kids learned a lot about birth control in middle school.

It’s not extremely childish. I just hadn’t thought of birth control or knew what it’s use was before we started dating. OP

Did you grow up in a religious cult? Were you Amish? How does any teenager, ESPECIALLY one who was so mature you categorize her as "not a teenager when I was 18", not know the "use" of birth control? Every American high school, barring the religious extremist ones, perhaps, would ensure you knew the "use" of birth control. And even if it didn't, just living in the world and being exposed to movies/media/peers would instill this knowledge in you.

No, I didn’t grow up in a religious cult. I didn’t know birth control was a thing, but that doesn’t mean that I was an immature teenager. I could still be mature by not knowing everything about everything. I did have health class, but that they didn’t talk about birth control. I didn’t really like watching movies/media, and my friends didn’t mention birth control. OP

You didn't think to research it! You failed to take responsibility and make an effort to make good choices. That is the behavior of an immature teenager.

But anyway, to answer your question, this is not normal. Your marriage is bad and your husband is bad. You can try to say it's not true, but it is true and you know it. You wouldn't have written this post if everything were fine.

Research something that I didn’t know about? I don’t think it was necessary anyways because he wanted a child, and I don’t regret my child. And I wasn’t a teenager, because saying that I was a teenager implies that I was a child, when I was not. OP

You sound like a child now. Were you more mature at 18? BTW since this may need to be stated for someone with your lukewarm IQ, when you are an age that ends in "-teen" you are a teenager. It's a fact, not something you can arbitrarily elect out of. And a teen who has never heard of birth control is particularly leaning into the immature child side of where teens might fall.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, Do you regularly welcome his kids in your home? If not, this may be the only time he gets to see his kids.

Yes, they come and go as they please. Since we got married when they were teenagers, they obviously spent half their time here due to the custody arrangement. OP

Ha ha! You were a teenager too. How did that go?

It went fine. I just focused on myself and my child, and I was the adult mom in the household, and that’s what I acted like. OP

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Anonymous wrote:Again, My husband wasn’t at a teen club; it was a 25+ venue, and he didn’t know my age. I never liked older men for financial reasons, I just liked three because they were older—that’s all. Also, I wasn’t a teenager when I was 18. While many 18 year olds who get pregnant by 40 year olds might be considered victims, that wasn’t the case for me. OP

You sound like a petulant and defensive teenager writing this now. I’m sorry your husband won’t pay for your vacation

How? My husband truly didn’t know my age, he thought I was 24. I just wasn’t a teenager anyway when I was 18, I think I stopped being a teenager at 15. And I wasn’t a pregnant teen either. OP

Keep digging that hole deeper. You sound just so uneducated for 27. Why can’t you plan a vacation? You’re a bad troll.

Because he isn’t allowing it? How can I fix that? OP

What's there to fix? You're on all the bank accounts and credit cards, right? Pull a card out and get planning and booking. He doesn't have to "allow" shit.

Maybe, I could do that. OP

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Anonymous wrote:OP, Do you regularly welcome his kids in your home? If not, this may be the only time he gets to see his kids.

Yes, they come and go as they please. Since we got married when they were teenagers, they obviously spent half their time here due to the custody arrangement. OP

Ha ha! You were a teenager too. How did that go?

It went fine. I just focused on myself and my child, and I was the adult mom in the household, and that’s what I acted like. OP

An adult who isn't "allowed" to take her child in vacation? Okay.... Are you grounded?

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This was an interesting ride, but a HS teenager who targets older men but has no knowledge of birth control? And her biggest problem is no vacation? Nah. Not buying it.

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Anonymous wrote:I think you will make a lot of money on OF. Try it. It is right up your ....alley.

He wouldn’t allow that, but I could try someone else’s hinge idea. OP

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So despite being an adult since you were fifteen years old, you can't figure out what to do when your husbadaddy grounds you?

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Anonymous wrote:I think you will make a lot of money on OF. Try it. It is right up your ....alley.

He wouldn’t allow that, but I could try someone else’s hinge idea. OP

Yay! You mustn’t have custody this weekend given how frequently you are in DCUM with your fake nonsense.

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Anonymous wrote:Again, My husband wasn’t at a teen club; it was a 25+ venue, and he didn’t know my age. I never liked older men for financial reasons, I just liked three because they were older—that’s all. Also, I wasn’t a teenager when I was 18. While many 18 year olds who get pregnant by 40 year olds might be considered victims, that wasn’t the case for me. OP

You sound like a petulant and defensive teenager writing this now. I’m sorry your husband won’t pay for your vacation

How? My husband truly didn’t know my age, he thought I was 24. I just wasn’t a teenager anyway when I was 18, I think I stopped being a teenager at 15. And I wasn’t a pregnant teen either. OP

Keep digging that hole deeper. You sound just so uneducated for 27. Why can’t you plan a vacation? You’re a bad troll.

Because he isn’t allowing it? How can I fix that? OP

What's there to fix? You're on all the bank accounts and credit cards, right? Pull a card out and get planning and booking. He doesn't have to "allow" shit.

Maybe, I could do that. OP

So, there ya go. Problem solved.

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Anonymous wrote:When did you get pregnant and meet?

We met a weeks before my high school graduation. We dated for a few months, and then I got pregnant, and then we got married.

Whose idea was it not to use birth control?

I didn’t really know anything about birth control, but we did sometimes use protection.

Again, extremely childish for an 18 year old and no excuse for a 40 year old father of 3. My kids learned a lot about birth control in middle school.

It’s not extremely childish. I just hadn’t thought of birth control or knew what it’s use was before we started dating. OP

Did you grow up in a religious cult? Were you Amish? How does any teenager, ESPECIALLY one who was so mature you categorize her as "not a teenager when I was 18", not know the "use" of birth control? Every American high school, barring the religious extremist ones, perhaps, would ensure you knew the "use" of birth control. And even if it didn't, just living in the world and being exposed to movies/media/peers would instill this knowledge in you.

No, I didn’t grow up in a religious cult. I didn’t know birth control was a thing, but that doesn’t mean that I was an immature teenager. I could still be mature by not knowing everything about everything. I did have health class, but that they didn’t talk about birth control. I didn’t really like watching movies/media, and my friends didn’t mention birth control. OP

You didn't think to research it! You failed to take responsibility and make an effort to make good choices. That is the behavior of an immature teenager.

But anyway, to answer your question, this is not normal. Your marriage is bad and your husband is bad. You can try to say it's not true, but it is true and you know it. You wouldn't have written this post if everything were fine.

Research something that I didn’t know about? I don’t think it was necessary anyways because he wanted a child, and I don’t regret my child. And I wasn’t a teenager, because saying that I was a teenager implies that I was a child, when I was not. OP

You sound like a child now. Were you more mature at 18? BTW since this may need to be stated for someone with your lukewarm IQ, when you are an age that ends in "-teen" you are a teenager. It's a fact, not something you can arbitrarily elect out of. And a teen who has never heard of birth control is particularly leaning into the immature child side of where teens might fall.

Okay, there’s no reason to be so rude. You can believe that I was a teenager, I don’t really care anymore. OP

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Anonymous wrote:So despite being an adult since you were fifteen years old, you can't figure out what to do when your husbadaddy grounds you?

What do you expect me to do? You’re not in this situation, so you don’t understand. OP

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Anonymous wrote:So despite being an adult since you were fifteen years old, you can't figure out what to do when your husbadaddy grounds you?

What do you expect me to do? You’re not in this situation, so you don’t understand. OP

Well, I think you need to get an education, get a job, and divorce him. But clearly you don't like that advice. So, since you're an adult and have been an adult for over 10 years, what's your plan?

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Anonymous wrote:Again, My husband wasn’t at a teen club; it was a 25+ venue, and he didn’t know my age. I never liked older men for financial reasons, I just liked three because they were older—that’s all. Also, I wasn’t a teenager when I was 18. While many 18 year olds who get pregnant by 40 year olds might be considered victims, that wasn’t the case for me. OP

You sound like a petulant and defensive teenager writing this now. I’m sorry your husband won’t pay for your vacation

How? My husband truly didn’t know my age, he thought I was 24. I just wasn’t a teenager anyway when I was 18, I think I stopped being a teenager at 15. And I wasn’t a pregnant teen either. OP

Keep digging that hole deeper. You sound just so uneducated for 27. Why can’t you plan a vacation? You’re a bad troll.

Because he isn’t allowing it? How can I fix that? OP

What's there to fix? You're on all the bank accounts and credit cards, right? Pull a card out and get planning and booking. He doesn't have to "allow" shit.

Maybe, I could do that. OP

So, there ya go. Problem solved.

Well I’m worried about doing that because he did say no. OP