Should grandma go to birthday party or visit with newborn?

[Anonymous]

OP again- details and timing of events have been changed, don’t get too worked up - I didn’t put much time into this but wanted it to be somewhat vague. Suffice to say, the relationship has not been great.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, get over yourself. A newborn and mom who just gave birth are far more important in this case, though I don’t doubt your sister is difficult and has pulled stunts before.

But this was not the case to make on DCUM, because in this case, you are not the priority. At all.

And sockpuppeting did not help your case. You just sound entitled and crazy with whack priorities, even if that’s not really true.

Sorry OP but I agree. No your reaction to this one situation isn’t reasonable. A newborn trumps a young kid’s birthday party. It just does. That doesn’t mean your feelings toward prior slights or difficulties aren’t valid! But to cut off family members over this particular situation makes you look unhinged, rigid and uncaring.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP again- details and timing of events have been changed, don’t get too worked up - I didn’t put much time into this but wanted it to be somewhat vague. Suffice to say, the relationship has not been great.

You’re the only one “worked up,” crazytown. You’re the one lying and embellishing…and still not winning the DCUM vote!

[Anonymous]

When you have difficulties with not one but two sisters, your mom and maybe grandma too (?) then you really need to take a good look in the mirror. Very unlikely you are the perfect and sane one and just happen to not get along with everyone.

[Anonymous]

Congratulations to your sister, OP! I hope she is doing well and enjoying newborn snuggles.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here - for those asking for an update. Grandma went to see the newborn. Nothing was said by birthday child’s family. No plans to reschedule the visit from either end. Sister with the baby has texted multiple pictures of the baby and updates to everyone after icing everyone out for months. People responded with congratulations.

You almost sound as if the woman shouldn’t have sent out baby pictures and if she did, people shouldn’t have responded with their congratulations. I hope I’m wrong, since you claim to be the “laid back” one here lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here - for those asking for an update. Grandma went to see the newborn. Nothing was said by birthday child’s family. No plans to reschedule the visit from either end. Sister with the baby has texted multiple pictures of the baby and updates to everyone after icing everyone out for months. People responded with congratulations.

Maybe there is hope for this family after all.

I don’t understand how you’re reading this as a hopeful update. Mom of birthday child is so upset that she posted on DCUM. She also thinks grandma is wrong to have not rescheduled the visit with birthday child already, and she’s mad at the mom of the newborn for texting baby pictures after being icy in the previous months. This family is doomed.

You are correct. But this family has been doomed for a long time it started with grandma's favoritism that created a narcissistic and manipulative daughter. Birthday child's family is best to go no contact.

So laid back of the birthday child’s mom 😂

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP again- details and timing of events have been changed, don’t get too worked up - I didn’t put much time into this but wanted it to be somewhat vague. Suffice to say, the relationship has not been great.

You’re the only one “worked up,” crazytown. You’re the one lying and embellishing…and still not winning the DCUM vote!

Are demonstrating calm and sanity?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, get over yourself. A newborn and mom who just gave birth are far more important in this case, though I don’t doubt your sister is difficult and has pulled stunts before.

But this was not the case to make on DCUM, because in this case, you are not the priority. At all.

And sockpuppeting did not help your case. You just sound entitled and crazy with whack priorities, even if that’s not really true.

Sorry OP but I agree. No your reaction to this one situation isn’t reasonable. A newborn trumps a young kid’s birthday party. It just does. That doesn’t mean your feelings toward prior slights or difficulties aren’t valid! But to cut off family members over this particular situation makes you look unhinged, rigid and uncaring.

Nope, plenty of posters disagree with you.

[Anonymous]

OP, while I sympathize and I do believe that you’ve been on the receiving end of manipulation and bad behavior, this whole thread is a really bad look for you. There is just nothing more important than a mother seeing her daughter after giving birth, and seeing her new grandchild!

I don’t doubt that you’ve had really difficult family dynamics, but you’re clearly a big part of the problem, with the lying and sockpuppeting on this thread. It’s so cringeworthy, and makes you look like the crazy one. Best to ask Jeff to take it down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The way the OP states the relationship is strained between the grandma and the birth-mom is entirely unreliable, unless the grandmother is writing this, which it seems clear she is not.

Newborn visit is 100% the most sane choice here.

No. And it's interesting that the people who repeat this are in this thread also the most abusive in their language.

This is simply not true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When you have difficulties with not one but two sisters, your mom and maybe grandma too (?) then you really need to take a good look in the mirror. Very unlikely you are the perfect and sane one and just happen to not get along with everyone.

It is impossible to know the truth here. There are families where one person is the only sane one, I suppose. But it’s pretty unusual IME and OPs language in this thread seems pretty suspect to me.

No matter what, this is a toxic family. And I strongly suspect OP is not as innocent in that toxicity as she believes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, while I sympathize and I do believe that you’ve been on the receiving end of manipulation and bad behavior, this whole thread is a really bad look for you. There is just nothing more important than a mother seeing her daughter after giving birth, and seeing her new grandchild!

I don’t doubt that you’ve had really difficult family dynamics, but you’re clearly a big part of the problem, with the lying and sockpuppeting on this thread. It’s so cringeworthy, and makes you look like the crazy one. Best to ask Jeff to take it down.

+1 though I don’t think there is any need to take it down. But it does not make OP look good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here - for those asking for an update. Grandma went to see the newborn. Nothing was said by birthday child’s family. No plans to reschedule the visit from either end. Sister with the baby has texted multiple pictures of the baby and updates to everyone after icing everyone out for months. People responded with congratulations.

You almost sound as if the woman shouldn’t have sent out baby pictures and if she did, people shouldn’t have responded with their congratulations. I hope I’m wrong, since you claim to be the “laid back” one here lol.

Yeah, that was a pretty strange thing to say from someone who claims to be laid back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, while I sympathize and I do believe that you’ve been on the receiving end of manipulation and bad behavior, this whole thread is a really bad look for you. There is just nothing more important than a mother seeing her daughter after giving birth, and seeing her new grandchild!

I don’t doubt that you’ve had really difficult family dynamics, but you’re clearly a big part of the problem, with the lying and sockpuppeting on this thread. It’s so cringeworthy, and makes you look like the crazy one. Best to ask Jeff to take it down.

Which she could have done the next day. Someone disagreeing with you does not mean that they are lying or sock puppets