Vent about marrying someone from a very underdeveloped country

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Anonymous wrote:Wow what a journey. On the other thread OP said she was uninsured and didn’t get the recommended vaccines and ended up in the hospital for a week in the US with typhoid fever.

I have never been to Bangladesh but this thread has really been a learning journey for me.

Uninsured but her DH works in Pharma, she works in a hospital and they can all afford to fly to Bangladesh? Hmmm.

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Anonymous wrote:Op also said "tea packets"

That is not how I have heard Americans say it. Americans say teabags.

OP is Bangladeshi herself or probably Indian since she talks about both countries.

I have never heard tea bags called tea packets.

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Anonymous wrote:OP is in a city of 2 million people. Hardly a village.

Ok, not many hotels but here's one for $27/night with... a hot shower:
https://www.booking.com/hotel/bd/raffles-inn.html#tab-main

You don't even have to sleep there. Just take it for a few nights and go to shower if you like.

Worried about walking on the streets? Take an Uber: https://www.uber.com/en-BD/newsroom/uber-expands-services-to-20-cities-across-all-8-divisions-in-bangladesh/

Though the streets look pretty normal to me for that region:
https://www.google.com/maps/@23.6073123,89.841811,3a,75y,81.59h,84.31t/data=!3m6!1e1!3m4!1sB4HMB2-_ueY_z1nFnSck9g!2e0!7i16384!8i8192?entry=ttu

English is taught in all schools there -- it's compulsory. Sure few are fluent, but English is hardly a "foreign" language there. You can peruse one of the 10 English language newspapers next time you're at a newsstand.

Op here. I doubt it is warm water showers like we are used to in the US. They use a water boiler in the bathroom but there isn't a way to combine both hot and cold water so it will come out of the shower head. His family told me they had a hot water shower before this visit but once I arrived I realized it's not what we are used to in the US. If I suggested going to a hotel my dh would balk or think his family would get offended. His family may own that hotel. I can check. One of his uncles owns a hotel around here.

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Anonymous wrote:Definitely sounds like India

Do they have pizza restaurants in India?

Which world are you living in? In my village, besides pizza places, there are fancy ice cream parlors too, a 20 minute drive away. Many homes have at least 1 Western toilet.

Granted they are not that clean in restaurants and such but then again I hate using the mall bathrooms here too.

Which world do you think I'm living in?

The world of the clueless.

Nobody has ever approached me with a list of American style restaurants in India or Bangladesh and I've never heard of pizza as a common food there. I know you're trying to insult me but you're just kind of a jerk.

You are just embarrassing yourself. Domino’s pizza has been around in India since 1996, to name one. There are plenty of local places that serve pizza. Just because you haven’t heard of it doesn’t mean anything other than you’re ignorant.

Op here. I wanted to go to Dominos yesterday when we went to Dhaka and dh wouldn't let me because they support Israel. So instead of crossing the street and getting it when had to cross dangerous interactions with cars driving right into me. I don't support the war either but it's not the end of the world to buy a pizza from Dominos. There aren't any American chains where we are now.

Plenty of local places serve pizza. I’m quite sure none of those places support Israel. Keep this thread going, please. It’s hilarious to people from the subcontinent.

Lol. It's quite obvious from the first post that Op is trolling but the content is hilarious. And we are suckers for responding to her posts. I bet her goal was to go on the front page and tomorrow it will be on the front page of DCUM.

Calling the cutting thing a sword was funny. My ancestors would roll over in their graves.

Op here. For me, it looks like a sword and Google was able to produce a photo when I googled sword for cutting vegetables in Bangladesh so there is that. Just because you don't like content doesn't make me a troll. I think sometimes when anything is remotely negative about a certain culture people are so quick to say troll. I'm sure no one outside of South Asia knows about that cutting thing. You aren't even able to give us the proper name.

It’s called “aruvamanai” in Tamil. Is that proper enough for you?

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Anonymous wrote:Definitely sounds like India

Do they have pizza restaurants in India?

Which world are you living in? In my village, besides pizza places, there are fancy ice cream parlors too, a 20 minute drive away. Many homes have at least 1 Western toilet.

Granted they are not that clean in restaurants and such but then again I hate using the mall bathrooms here too.

Which world do you think I'm living in?

The world of the clueless.

Nobody has ever approached me with a list of American style restaurants in India or Bangladesh and I've never heard of pizza as a common food there. I know you're trying to insult me but you're just kind of a jerk.

You are just embarrassing yourself. Domino’s pizza has been around in India since 1996, to name one. There are plenty of local places that serve pizza. Just because you haven’t heard of it doesn’t mean anything other than you’re ignorant.

Op here. I wanted to go to Dominos yesterday when we went to Dhaka and dh wouldn't let me because they support Israel. So instead of crossing the street and getting it when had to cross dangerous interactions with cars driving right into me. I don't support the war either but it's not the end of the world to buy a pizza from Dominos. There aren't any American chains where we are now.

Plenty of local places serve pizza. I’m quite sure none of those places support Israel. Keep this thread going, please. It’s hilarious to people from the subcontinent.

Lol. It's quite obvious from the first post that Op is trolling but the content is hilarious. And we are suckers for responding to her posts. I bet her goal was to go on the front page and tomorrow it will be on the front page of DCUM.

Calling the cutting thing a sword was funny. My ancestors would roll over in their graves.

Op here. For me, it looks like a sword and Google was able to produce a photo when I googled sword for cutting vegetables in Bangladesh so there is that. Just because you don't like content doesn't make me a troll. I think sometimes when anything is remotely negative about a certain culture people are so quick to say troll. I'm sure no one outside of South Asia knows about that cutting thing. You aren't even able to give us the proper name.

It’s called a boti.

It’s a different term in other parts of South Asia

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Anonymous wrote:Definitely sounds like India

Do they have pizza restaurants in India?

Which world are you living in? In my village, besides pizza places, there are fancy ice cream parlors too, a 20 minute drive away. Many homes have at least 1 Western toilet.

Granted they are not that clean in restaurants and such but then again I hate using the mall bathrooms here too.

Which world do you think I'm living in?

The world of the clueless.

Nobody has ever approached me with a list of American style restaurants in India or Bangladesh and I've never heard of pizza as a common food there. I know you're trying to insult me but you're just kind of a jerk.

You are just embarrassing yourself. Domino’s pizza has been around in India since 1996, to name one. There are plenty of local places that serve pizza. Just because you haven’t heard of it doesn’t mean anything other than you’re ignorant.

Op here. I wanted to go to Dominos yesterday when we went to Dhaka and dh wouldn't let me because they support Israel. So instead of crossing the street and getting it when had to cross dangerous interactions with cars driving right into me. I don't support the war either but it's not the end of the world to buy a pizza from Dominos. There aren't any American chains where we are now.

Plenty of local places serve pizza. I’m quite sure none of those places support Israel. Keep this thread going, please. It’s hilarious to people from the subcontinent.

Lol. It's quite obvious from the first post that Op is trolling but the content is hilarious. And we are suckers for responding to her posts. I bet her goal was to go on the front page and tomorrow it will be on the front page of DCUM.

Calling the cutting thing a sword was funny. My ancestors would roll over in their graves.

Op here. For me, it looks like a sword and Google was able to produce a photo when I googled sword for cutting vegetables in Bangladesh so there is that. Just because you don't like content doesn't make me a troll. I think sometimes when anything is remotely negative about a certain culture people are so quick to say troll. I'm sure no one outside of South Asia knows about that cutting thing. You aren't even able to give us the proper name.

It’s called “aruvamanai” in Tamil. Is that proper enough for you?

Yeah this is the term I know

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OP seems pretty good at coming up with excuses why any suggestions will not work, and just complaining.

I can guarantee OP will never become an entrepreneur with that attitude...

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Anonymous wrote:OP is in a city of 2 million people. Hardly a village.

Ok, not many hotels but here's one for $27/night with... a hot shower:
https://www.booking.com/hotel/bd/raffles-inn.html#tab-main

You don't even have to sleep there. Just take it for a few nights and go to shower if you like.

Worried about walking on the streets? Take an Uber: https://www.uber.com/en-BD/newsroom/uber-expands-services-to-20-cities-across-all-8-divisions-in-bangladesh/

Though the streets look pretty normal to me for that region:
https://www.google.com/maps/@23.6073123,89.841811,3a,75y,81.59h,84.31t/data=!3m6!1e1!3m4!1sB4HMB2-_ueY_z1nFnSck9g!2e0!7i16384!8i8192?entry=ttu

English is taught in all schools there -- it's compulsory. Sure few are fluent, but English is hardly a "foreign" language there. You can peruse one of the 10 English language newspapers next time you're at a newsstand.

Op here. I doubt it is warm water showers like we are used to in the US. They use a water boiler in the bathroom but there isn't a way to combine both hot and cold water so it will come out of the shower head. His family told me they had a hot water shower before this visit but once I arrived I realized it's not what we are used to in the US. If I suggested going to a hotel my dh would balk or think his family would get offended. His family may own that hotel. I can check. One of his uncles owns a hotel around here.

Uber isn't in this city. The streets are usually more congested than that. There are also huge buses like mega bus types that go down those roads. I don't feel safe walking down those sidewalks.
The only thing we would be able to do is going to a corner shop and buy small items so it's not very exciting. My kids are having a good time as a side note. One of our kids is getting an x-ray today for his asthma and in the US the bill would be so much higher. There are definitely pros to visiting. I am going to take my sister in laws out shopping later to Aarong. It's a famous department store here.. Very high end clothing. I told them dh was treating them to a new dress. He balked at first but I insisted.

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Anonymous wrote:Definitely sounds like India

Do they have pizza restaurants in India?

Which world are you living in? In my village, besides pizza places, there are fancy ice cream parlors too, a 20 minute drive away. Many homes have at least 1 Western toilet.

Granted they are not that clean in restaurants and such but then again I hate using the mall bathrooms here too.

Which world do you think I'm living in?

The world of the clueless.

Nobody has ever approached me with a list of American style restaurants in India or Bangladesh and I've never heard of pizza as a common food there. I know you're trying to insult me but you're just kind of a jerk.

You are just embarrassing yourself. Domino’s pizza has been around in India since 1996, to name one. There are plenty of local places that serve pizza. Just because you haven’t heard of it doesn’t mean anything other than you’re ignorant.

Op here. I wanted to go to Dominos yesterday when we went to Dhaka and dh wouldn't let me because they support Israel. So instead of crossing the street and getting it when had to cross dangerous interactions with cars driving right into me. I don't support the war either but it's not the end of the world to buy a pizza from Dominos. There aren't any American chains where we are now.

Plenty of local places serve pizza. I’m quite sure none of those places support Israel. Keep this thread going, please. It’s hilarious to people from the subcontinent.

Lol. It's quite obvious from the first post that Op is trolling but the content is hilarious. And we are suckers for responding to her posts. I bet her goal was to go on the front page and tomorrow it will be on the front page of DCUM.

Calling the cutting thing a sword was funny. My ancestors would roll over in their graves.

Op here. For me, it looks like a sword and Google was able to produce a photo when I googled sword for cutting vegetables in Bangladesh so there is that. Just because you don't like content doesn't make me a troll. I think sometimes when anything is remotely negative about a certain culture people are so quick to say troll. I'm sure no one outside of South Asia knows about that cutting thing. You aren't even able to give us the proper name.

I know what it is called OP, but since the name varies in different parts of India, I didn't - I don't want to be identified on DCUM by people I know IRL

There are so many Indian people in dc from every state that you aren’t gonna get id’ed even if u drop the name in the language from the state your parents are from

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Anonymous wrote:OP is in a city of 2 million people. Hardly a village.

Ok, not many hotels but here's one for $27/night with... a hot shower:
https://www.booking.com/hotel/bd/raffles-inn.html#tab-main

You don't even have to sleep there. Just take it for a few nights and go to shower if you like.

Worried about walking on the streets? Take an Uber: https://www.uber.com/en-BD/newsroom/uber-expands-services-to-20-cities-across-all-8-divisions-in-bangladesh/

Though the streets look pretty normal to me for that region:
https://www.google.com/maps/@23.6073123,89.841811,3a,75y,81.59h,84.31t/data=!3m6!1e1!3m4!1sB4HMB2-_ueY_z1nFnSck9g!2e0!7i16384!8i8192?entry=ttu

English is taught in all schools there -- it's compulsory. Sure few are fluent, but English is hardly a "foreign" language there. You can peruse one of the 10 English language newspapers next time you're at a newsstand.

This post has only further proved op's point on the austerity. Look at the hotel's bathroom pic and the street pics don't look good for an unaccompanied foreigner to go stroll around.

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Anonymous wrote:Op also said "tea packets"

That is not how I have heard Americans say it. Americans say teabags.

OP is Bangladeshi herself or probably Indian since she talks about both countries.

Op here. No, I am white. It's probably just something I picked up since I am around South Asians a lot. I think his sister asked me a few days ago if I wanted tea packets. It's not an everyday word for me. In the US most of us use teabags tea packets and don't think much about it.. We usually just say tea

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Anonymous wrote:Definitely sounds like India

Do they have pizza restaurants in India?

Which world are you living in? In my village, besides pizza places, there are fancy ice cream parlors too, a 20 minute drive away. Many homes have at least 1 Western toilet.

Granted they are not that clean in restaurants and such but then again I hate using the mall bathrooms here too.

Which world do you think I'm living in?

The world of the clueless.

Nobody has ever approached me with a list of American style restaurants in India or Bangladesh and I've never heard of pizza as a common food there. I know you're trying to insult me but you're just kind of a jerk.

You are just embarrassing yourself. Domino’s pizza has been around in India since 1996, to name one. There are plenty of local places that serve pizza. Just because you haven’t heard of it doesn’t mean anything other than you’re ignorant.

Op here. I wanted to go to Dominos yesterday when we went to Dhaka and dh wouldn't let me because they support Israel. So instead of crossing the street and getting it when had to cross dangerous interactions with cars driving right into me. I don't support the war either but it's not the end of the world to buy a pizza from Dominos. There aren't any American chains where we are now.

Plenty of local places serve pizza. I’m quite sure none of those places support Israel. Keep this thread going, please. It’s hilarious to people from the subcontinent.

Lol. It's quite obvious from the first post that Op is trolling but the content is hilarious. And we are suckers for responding to her posts. I bet her goal was to go on the front page and tomorrow it will be on the front page of DCUM.

Calling the cutting thing a sword was funny. My ancestors would roll over in their graves.

Op here. For me, it looks like a sword and Google was able to produce a photo when I googled sword for cutting vegetables in Bangladesh so there is that. Just because you don't like content doesn't make me a troll. I think sometimes when anything is remotely negative about a certain culture people are so quick to say troll. I'm sure no one outside of South Asia knows about that cutting thing. You aren't even able to give us the proper name.

I know what it is called OP, but since the name varies in different parts of India, I didn't - I don't want to be identified on DCUM by people I know IRL

There are so many Indian people in dc from every state that you aren’t gonna get id’ed even if u drop the name in the language from the state your parents are from

DP
I wouldn't be so sure from the thread stalking some posters have been up to here it sounds like people do some creepy sleuthing. I wouldn't put doxing past these nosey Nellys.

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Op
What is your country of origin and if the US, which state were you in most of your life before marriage?

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Anonymous wrote:Op also said "tea packets"

That is not how I have heard Americans say it. Americans say teabags.

OP is Bangladeshi herself or probably Indian since she talks about both countries.

Op here. No, I am white. It's probably just something I picked up since I am around South Asians a lot. I think his sister asked me a few days ago if I wanted tea packets. It's not an everyday word for me. In the US most of us use teabags tea packets and don't think much about it.. We usually just say tea

You still didn’t say why you didn’t just marry a white dude and saved you some hassle

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Anonymous wrote:Wow what a journey. On the other thread OP said she was uninsured and didn’t get the recommended vaccines and ended up in the hospital for a week in the US with typhoid fever.

I have never been to Bangladesh but this thread has really been a learning journey for me.

Uninsured but her DH works in Pharma, she works in a hospital and they can all afford to fly to Bangladesh? Hmmm.

We were uninsured 5 years ago right after grad school. People are always looking for ways to pick at the smallest things. Why would I be making up that I am visiting Bangladesh? Getting clicks is gaining me what exactly? It's an anonymous forum. The person in charge of the website can look up my location right now.