Women 35+ who have never been in a relationship

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Anonymous wrote:I think men underestimate how difficult it is to date women

What?

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Anonymous wrote:"Very pretty" women are almost never single. They must not be pretty.

Untrue. There are many very pretty single women.

They must still be in their 20s.

A "very pretty" woman would be fending off suitors. There are always exceptions, but in 95% of the cases, a really pretty woman would be scooped up real quick.

There are plenty of gorgeous African American women that are single.

Those are racist African American women who will only date black men.

Black male population statistics aren’t in favor of these women finding suitable mates within their community and they need to come to terms with that or settle or date outside their race.

African American woman are in a tough position to be honest. While it is true that more and more women are graduating colleges compared to men, for African American woman it is worse. And let’s be honest women are very picky (for good reasons). You will not come accross many women who are college grads and will settle for a non college grad. So African American woman don’t have a big pool of fellow African American men college grads. So some choose to remain single.

As an educated latina woman with a good physique I feel the same. Some of us latinas with advanced degrees have a hard time finding a latino man whose college educated and is attractive.

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Anonymous wrote:"Very pretty" women are almost never single. They must not be pretty.

Untrue. There are many very pretty single women.

They must still be in their 20s.

A "very pretty" woman would be fending off suitors. There are always exceptions, but in 95% of the cases, a really pretty woman would be scooped up real quick.

There are plenty of gorgeous African American women that are single.

Those are racist African American women who will only date black men.

Black male population statistics aren’t in favor of these women finding suitable mates within their community and they need to come to terms with that or settle or date outside their race.

African American woman are in a tough position to be honest. While it is true that more and more women are graduating colleges compared to men, for African American woman it is worse. And let’s be honest women are very picky (for good reasons). You will not come accross many women who are college grads and will settle for a non college grad. So African American woman don’t have a big pool of fellow African American men college grads. So some choose to remain single.

As an educated latina woman with a good physique I feel the same. Some of us latinas with advanced degrees have a hard time finding a latino man whose college educated and is attractive.

I think regardless of race this will be more and more the case. It is interesting that women will not settle for a man who is less educated but men will do the same. Unless women come to grip that they may have to settle for non college grads or men who aren’t as successful as them they will struggle to find that ideal guy. I have introduced a very good friend of mine to my sister who who is a successful banker. My friend is a painter but otherwise fantastic man. OMG she gave me a whole lecture about how intellectually inferior he is etc….The more she went on I started to ask myself whether she is crazy.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like my sister in law. She just doesn’t put herself out there. It makes me wonder what the future looks like for her.

This is my sister. She’s in her 40s. Spends her weekends with our parents or her paired up high school friends. I think she’s given up and pretty much went back to being out parents’ little girl and is comfortable with that. It’s her life and choice but in the long run I don’t know what she’s going to do. I think she’s just very used to friends and family constantly accommodating her.

You sound horrible.

It was horrible to watch our parents encourage this for years. Sometimes this situation comes about because of the woman’s family. The parents like bring frozen in time. It’s toxic. I can’t imagine as a parent promoting this situation. They even discouraged her from moving to a new city.

This is my ils. My mil is a malignant narcissist and never wanted any of her kids to grow up. She would tell everyone this. She is the most controlling person I’ve ever met and when any of her 5 kids dated she would be very angry about it and she hated whomever he kid was with. Initially only the 2 black sheep in the family dated and married. They all were taught sex was evil and horrible. When dh, the golden child, married and had children she turned into one of the worst human beings in the planet. Two sisters have never married and well in to their 40s had never had a serious relationship.

This is my parents!

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Anonymous wrote:"Very pretty" women are almost never single. They must not be pretty.

Untrue. There are many very pretty single women.

They must still be in their 20s.

A "very pretty" woman would be fending off suitors. There are always exceptions, but in 95% of the cases, a really pretty woman would be scooped up real quick.

There are plenty of gorgeous African American women that are single.

Those are racist African American women who will only date black men.

Black male population statistics aren’t in favor of these women finding suitable mates within their community and they need to come to terms with that or settle or date outside their race.

African American woman are in a tough position to be honest. While it is true that more and more women are graduating colleges compared to men, for African American woman it is worse. And let’s be honest women are very picky (for good reasons). You will not come accross many women who are college grads and will settle for a non college grad. So African American woman don’t have a big pool of fellow African American men college grads. So some choose to remain single.

As an educated latina woman with a good physique I feel the same. Some of us latinas with advanced degrees have a hard time finding a latino man whose college educated and is attractive.

I think regardless of race this will be more and more the case. It is interesting that women will not settle for a man who is less educated but men will do the same. Unless women come to grip that they may have to settle for non college grads or men who aren’t as successful as them they will struggle to find that ideal guy. I have introduced a very good friend of mine to my sister who who is a successful banker. My friend is a painter but otherwise fantastic man. OMG she gave me a whole lecture about how intellectually inferior he is etc….The more she went on I started to ask myself whether she is crazy.

If you define a “good man” as someone making more than you, and you make more than the average American, it can be hard.

I realized after my divorce that I am a terrible housewife. I am an extrovert and like being out and about. I therefore understood finally that the type of man I should partner with is not someone of “status” (though I’m not against it), but someone who is nurturing and can help me take care of myself. In other words, someone who is more domestic and nurturing. I bring my own status.

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Anonymous wrote:My godmother (now in her 90s) and her 2 sisters never married at a time when that was unheard of and none of them had kids. My godmother was a mystery writer and some of her published magazine pieces were picked up and turned into tv episodes in the early 1960s. She then went on to become an English professor. One of her sisters died young while the other worked on Wall Street. There is/was no obvious reason for this and they seem content to have not been married.

I'm assuming they at least had boyfriends in their teens or 20s.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a SIL who is 45 and never been in a relationship. I have no explanation and I have wondered what is going on in her head for years. She is Ivy League educated, great athlete, lots of friends, great family, well traveled, interesting career, and attractive. Are men intimidated by her? Are her standards too high? Or does she simply have no idea how to date? I am mystified by it.

I have a friend like this (late 30s) and I have long thought that she was not interested in men, but is not honest with herself and so would rather be alone than explore dating women.

This is one of my sils. It was pretty obvious from her 20s. She’s almost 60 now and had always hated men and hated any man who tried to talk to her.

She never had a boyfriend? I doubt that

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Anonymous wrote:I have a SIL who is 45 and never been in a relationship. I have no explanation and I have wondered what is going on in her head for years. She is Ivy League educated, great athlete, lots of friends, great family, well traveled, interesting career, and attractive. Are men intimidated by her? Are her standards too high? Or does she simply have no idea how to date? I am mystified by it.

I have a friend like this (late 30s) and I have long thought that she was not interested in men, but is not honest with herself and so would rather be alone than explore dating women.

This is one of my sils. It was pretty obvious from her 20s. She’s almost 60 now and had always hated men and hated any man who tried to talk to her.

She never had a boyfriend? I doubt that

I had a friend like this in college; she didn't hate men, just wasn't attracted to anyone, pretty much asexual. The idea of even kissing anyone grossed her out. It happens.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a SIL who is 45 and never been in a relationship. I have no explanation and I have wondered what is going on in her head for years. She is Ivy League educated, great athlete, lots of friends, great family, well traveled, interesting career, and attractive. Are men intimidated by her? Are her standards too high? Or does she simply have no idea how to date? I am mystified by it.

I have a friend like this (late 30s) and I have long thought that she was not interested in men, but is not honest with herself and so would rather be alone than explore dating women.

This is one of my sils. It was pretty obvious from her 20s. She’s almost 60 now and had always hated men and hated any man who tried to talk to her.

She never had a boyfriend? I doubt that

I had a friend like this in college; she didn't hate men, just wasn't attracted to anyone, pretty much asexual. The idea of even kissing anyone grossed her out. It happens.

Well sounds like in her case it was by choice and voluntary but I know I'm not the OP of this thread.

Most people find women who are over 35 and have never been in a relationship or never been with anyone, a lot more shocking than the other way around because women are the ones that have suitors and men for all time normally never have suitors.

Women always have options because they are the ones that are on the receiving end of sexual attention and even men who are handsome and good looking or have a lot going for them in their life will normally never have women throwing themselves at them.

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Found this:
https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-5218339/Would-wait-Mr-right.html

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Got in contact with a woman on Reddit who says she's never had a boyfriend and in her early 40s, and another who claims in her 50s.

The more I hear of cases or situations like this for women the more it shocks and surprises me because how I've normally always been accustomed to cases like this being male-dominated.

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Anonymous wrote:Got in contact with a woman on Reddit who says she's never had a boyfriend and in her early 40s, and another who claims in her 50s.

The more I hear of cases or situations like this for women the more it shocks and surprises me because how I've normally always been accustomed to cases like this being male-dominated.

I haven't really had a boyfriend since I was 19. 48 now. I've always received male attention and dated a lot until Covid. Just never met anyone I stayed with longer than a few months.

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I've seen more similar comments on certain tiktok videos lately

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Depressing post I found on Reddit and I really feel for her, just that most people expect cases like this for women to be an anomaly:
https://www.reddit.com/r/ForeverAloneWomen/s/sbNYJIB8w1

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Anonymous wrote:Depressing post I found on Reddit and I really feel for her, just that most people expect cases like this for women to be an anomaly:
https://www.reddit.com/r/ForeverAloneWomen/s/sbNYJIB8w1

I read this and the TLDR version is she never got to date because she had a pituitary gland abnormality which made her tall with disproportionately oversized features. And all I could think of is how the inverse works out, with John Fetterman and his relatively attractive Brazilian wife.